To think this is worrying to hear from a mother?

[Brittno]

When I was 12 I had forgotten my dinner money and the secretary’s office in school used to lend money out.

I told my mother the evening after school that I’d forgotten my dinner money and had to borrow from the secretary and she replied, dramatically, without giving me eye contact :

“what will they think if the home, the best home in Leicester? “

We didn’t live in Leicester but a similar sized city

does it sound as though she’s a bit narc? She said it in a bitter tone of voice

Thank you so much - she was an unpleasant mum and actually I think what you’ve written in your post will help me a lot

She said you had the best home in Leicester but you didn't live in Leicester? Are you concerned that she was showing signs of dementia?

So did Billy Connolly

Can't say I'm surprised but I'm more of a Max Boyce afficionado 😊
I suppose that shows that I'm a terror for quoting things and often including quotes in conversation. My children used to pick some of these up, ignore others but generally realised it was one of my idiosyncrasies.
I'm pretty sure they're not stewing over something I said when they were 12 which they may not have understood and deciding I'm a "narc", especially since one has a degree in psychology (doesn't practice) and gets a bit exasperated by all the wannabe psychologists and psychiatrists on SM.

Yes. You’ve got it 👍

No sorry to confuse

my mum DIDNT say Leicester

i said Leicester to protect my privacy - we lived in a similar sized provincial city

Town where I live

lol, honed in on the two posters who validate your wrath, and dismissed the other 120.

So... genuinely, what's your point?

I think AI has invented that!

It was always going to happen.
In these sort of threads it's easy for the OP to sit back while a few others come up with theories based on one sentence, then pick and choose the narrative they fancy.

Re: the Max Boyce/ Billy Connolly story about bedding - I've read many, many UCAS personal statements, and what is interesting is how many of the applicants claim that their parents never bought them books, so they had to go to a library and it gave them a love of learning. So many! However, I'm if the generation of grateful library users and have never seen it as a marker of poverty or a note of struggle. Just an interesting contrast which strikes me.

EmpressOfTheThread

However, I'm if the generation of grateful library users and have never seen it as a marker of poverty or a note of struggle.

I'd count myself among that generation too. I always got my 4 books a week allowance from the library and it was a highlight of my week.
It's interesting people are putting it on UCCAS. The one bit of advice about filling in UCCAS forms back in the day in my comprehensive school was "Don't go on about your interest in reading and how much you like it - they expect you to read".
Maybe more recent applicants have read too much Caitlin Moran - that sounds like her shtick.

Ok, well if you have any interest at all in considering your mother’s feelings etc, I can tell you that from her side, a child who forgets everything all the time will absolutely lead to her having had enough occasionally when you add yet another thing to her load.

Indeed! The number who write: "I enjoy reading and often read several books". I was like you -I went to the library regularly, I got 4 books, and I loved it! I loved the choice. I still go to the library, although often I buy from charity shops and re-donate.
It's very interesting to me, I've been reading these for about 25 years - ish, and they've definitely changed!

@Brittno
Are you the poster who posts about your mother sometimes?
Writing about things that your mother did or said during your childhood?

@EmpressOfTheThread if this is a very recent development then I suspect that the reason so many of them tell the same story about the library is that they're using AI to write them, and it's the sort of cliche it uses.

Yes

Do you think at any point in the future, that one of your children may have cause to criticise a remark you made, or your behaviour?

We use AI detection, but it's possible of course!

Nope I don’t think that comment makes her a narc, I think she was embarrassed as I would have been.

Also, I think it's funny that they think we should be impressed by the use of a library!

Let me guess. Parent of a young sweet child who you adore and love with your whole heart and cannot ever imagine having a cross word with? Get back to us in twenty years.

Terrifying

She’s fretting about it years later, so there’s more going on. Telling her it was nothing/just a joke/she didn’t mean anything/you need to get over it doesn’t help her move on. People carry unresolved distress that bothers them later. Articulating it is part of processing it so you can ‘get over it’.

Unless this is the only time your mother ever spoke to you then it's of little relevance. I suspect you are not even remembering correctly, if this is the only comment that's lingering in your memory it suggests you have extremely poor memory. Or I'm wrong and there were about 100 comments every single day of your childhood and you've chosen to ignore all the others, which is a lot more worrying than your mothers comment.