To think is kinda rude of a friend to arrangement something to just ask us if we can host it?

[Meowmeowgirl]

lets call our guy friend «nick»

So me and my SO are the first people in our group to have our own place while nick and jenny still lives with their parents, so we host some parties trough the years like 7-8 parties in a year when we feel like it. So one friend in our group «nick» asked me if ive seen that or that movie trough chat and i said yea long ago and then he said «jenny apperently haven’t seen that movie so i was considering about setting a movie night a day and i can make pizza!», jenny is my friend and our nicks friend. And me and my SO tought «oh how nice to be invited to movie night and some good pizza!». So i replied with «that sounds nice! Me and SO can bring some snacks!» until he replied with..

« i was thinking about asking if you and henry «my So» can have it at your place, we can have some alcohol, some good food and some snacks» i was a bit shocked since i tought he was telling us he was hosting a movie night at his place. I prob know he didn’t mean it in a bad way but i tought it was a bit weird, epsecially since he worded with «i considered about setting a movie night» like in my head this means «hey im having a movie night with pizza at my place! You guys in!?» not «hey im gonna host something at your place! You in?» our home is not a local that can be booked, i tought it was kinda cheeky. Because we be the ones clenaing dishes and all of that in the end. I think he was a bit bad with his wording, i haven’t replied yet, my So also tought that he was inviting us over. We where interested until we where expected to host.

@nomas not yet :) but this is a much better option for us right now and we are allready hosting my birtdhay in 2 weeks so thats enough for us now we host parties just with snacks no dinner tho. Going out then no mess in house no extra preb before guests and after and everyone pays their fair share mean pays their own shit😆

Some people don't mind and some people do, but it just seems like such a non issue even if you don't want to host, like you're looking for something to be offended by.

Are we not writing "established" these days? Where do I sign up for all the memos?

Fine to say no as per PP's suggestions

He replied with «ohh okay sure thing idk wich movies are right now at the cinmea tho» since i said me and my sO rather cinmea since its a while we have been there, i do hope that he let us do the invites when we feel for it ofc

Lol, he’s playing dumb. He can just look up the movies online, there are a few good ones right now or coming up.

He is either trying to guilt trip you into hosting the pizza party or to organise the cinema outing.

Don’t fall for it, just tell him ‘Let me know when you’ve had a look at the cinema website.’

Yup- reply with 'well let me know the plan when you decide'.

So >> = "?

Yanbu, it is cheeky and I'd probably say something along the lines of "Oh we was expecting that as you've organised the event that you'd be hosting the event at yours. We won't be hosting other people's events at ours. However if the event goes ahead at yours we will be happy to come with drinks and snacks. Let us know!" No way would I do this.