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Genuine question for anti-vaxxers

584 replies

Raisinmeup · 12/10/2025 12:25

I see a lot online about anti-vaxxers and I’m trying to understand where they’re coming from, so this is a genuine question, not rage bait.

My understanding is that some parents choose not to vaccinate their children because they believe vaccines cause harmful side effects, or they just don’t trust the government and big pharma in general.

But what’s the alternative? If everyone stopped vaccinating, wouldn’t we start seeing diseases like polio coming back? That would mean more infant deaths and lifelong disabilities. It just doesn’t seem like a rational trade off?

From what I’ve seen, there seems to be a belief that immune systems can deal with these illnesses naturally, but I wonder if part of that belief comes from the fact that parents of today haven’t actually seen what a world without vaccines looks like. We’ve grown up in a time where infant death from preventable diseases is almost unheard of, so maybe it’s easy to forget how serious these infections really are.

And lastly, if you haven’t vaccinated your child and they then catch one of these illnesses, do you not end up turning to the same big pharma for the medicine or treatment anyway?

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Laura95167 · 23/10/2025 20:29

Completely pro vaxxer.

But I can understand why if youre in America where medicine is a business and theres insurance premiums, billing that changes and appears arbitrary and it all being about money... that people might struggle to trust drs and pharmaceutical companies. The profit first mentality may make someone skeptical.

Additionally with all the "fake news" I can understand the need to do your own research and that increases the risks of antivaxx mentality.

AlinaRawlings · 24/10/2025 21:33

FunMustard · 12/10/2025 16:19

My children is at very minimal risk from complications from measles.

Please tell me how you know this.

They seem healthier and more resilient than their vaccinated peers, and that's the data I go on.

Please tell me how you know this.

How odd that you seem to know many people who claim their child has a vaccine injury, as many as those who are healthier than their vaccinated counterparts - which is in direct opposition to my experience. Almost like our circles of about 30-odd isn't really a representative sample, and that we all have our own biases that lead us to giving more weight to what we agree with.

And frankly the fact that you don't know of anyone that's died from measles is so lovely for you. A child died in Liverpool this year from measles - unvaccinated, by the way. It's easy to sit from your comfortable ivory tower and say that you are confident your child won't be affected - before the vaccine, 2.6 million deaths worldwide were recorded from measles. It's not a coincidence that we only see one or two a year. But that's likely to go up.

With measles- not of measles. One child- that you do not know. You’re clutching at straws.

AlinaRawlings · 24/10/2025 21:37

Gettingbysomehow · 12/10/2025 16:26

Becsuse I don't want to risk getting covid or flu clearly! Why is that so hard to understand?

Vaccines don’t stop the spread 🤦🏼‍♀️

DenizenOfAisleOfShame · 24/10/2025 21:38

AlinaRawlings · 24/10/2025 21:37

Vaccines don’t stop the spread 🤦🏼‍♀️

Eh?

AlinaRawlings · 24/10/2025 21:41

SurroundedByEejits · 14/10/2025 14:03

This. The OP asked for a reasonable discussion and as usual, what followed was a host of people throwing insults at anyone who is not resolutely pro-vax in all ways.

Personally, I'm wary of vaccines and how they may affect me as I have several allergies and react very badly to flu vaccines in particular. I was also ill after my BCG as a teenager. When my children were tiny, I was worried that they could have severe responses to the vaccines I have issues with, too, given the genetic link to allergies and sensitivities, and waited until they were older and stronger to have them. I still feel that the MMR should be available as individual shots, to reduce the risk of adverse reactions (they do happen!) and to more easily distinguish which, if any, are causing them, especially if one of the parents or close family has a history of allergies/ sensitivities.

I was ill for over a year after my Covid jab, unable to work for 7 months. My husband and 3 other members of his family went into multiple organ failure after they received one of the Covid vaccines; 2 of them, including my husband, have died from the damage. He was increasingly ill and disabled for 3 years, and utterly miserable with little quality of life, until he died last year. It was awful.

Vaccines are not always the miracle they are made out to be. They can and do have adverse effects for some people, and having a considered approach to them should not be demonised in the way that it is.

And now I wait for the shade. Just weigh that against the loss of my husband as a direct result of a vaccination before you throw it, though.

One of the most sensible responses on here 👏🏼…and I’m sorry for your loss x

DenizenOfAisleOfShame · 24/10/2025 21:54

Oh dear. The vaccine deniers and freeloaders have started up again.

It’s not nearly as bad on MN as it was some years ago. But it’s still depressing to see people pumping out nonsense against vaccines.

I’m fascinated by the minds of anti-vaxxers. Since they know vaccines work and are as safe as any medicine can ever be, why do they promote their harmful ideology?

Freeloading, sure. But there must be something deeper and even worse.

SwingTheMonkey · 24/10/2025 22:38

AlinaRawlings · 24/10/2025 21:33

With measles- not of measles. One child- that you do not know. You’re clutching at straws.

Why does it make any difference whether this poster knew the child or not? And what makes you say they died ‘with measles, not of it’?

What about the USA experiencing their highest number of measles cases in 30 years and the deaths resulting? All a direct result of idiots refusing to vaccinate against a disease that spreads rapidly and can be fatal.

Gilgogirl · 25/10/2025 01:25

Well, she’s relying on other children be vaxed but not her precious bundle. Gross

Gilgogirl · 25/10/2025 01:28

Exactly but it’s certain communities like the Amish and the Hasidic Jewish communities but they do a bris with the rabbi sucking the blood off of a male penis. Like, really. That’s hiv became a big thing in New York for awhile. Baby penis btw

Gilgogirl · 25/10/2025 01:31

I don’t know where you live but it’s getting worse here bc of that lunatic Kennedy being in charge right now.

Gilgogirl · 25/10/2025 01:34

Lot of lawsuits going on but I don’t think they have a chance really, in the long run. Hopefully

WishinAndHopin · 25/10/2025 01:54

Because I have a relative who was permanently disabled by a vaccine - she went from a completely normal primary-school aged child to being profoundly learning disabled.

Like all medicines, vaccines can sometimes have side effects. Rarely, these can be severe. Vaccines are the only medications for which this is denied, probably because they are the only medicines that are forced upon us.

Instead of working to improve safety and researching the causes and risk factors for severe adverse reactions, pharmaceutical companies deny and whitewash, and have their flying monkeys attack anybody with the slightest concerns as an "anti-vaxxxxxer", or claiming that they think vaccines cause autism.

Few people are actually against vaccines, they just want them to be safer, and the true risks to be acknowledged and dealt with.

Of course, the diseases the vaccines prevent have side effects themselves, but you'll find that most of those affected malnourished people, which is a controllable risk.

Gilgogirl · 25/10/2025 02:05

Was that proven that that was the cause of the disability.

Gilgogirl · 25/10/2025 02:06

I can blame any body for anything I want but it doesn’t mean it true

Beachtastic · 25/10/2025 19:53

It seems there is some evidence that vaccinations can trigger Guillain-Barré syndrome (a rare neurological condition causing muscle weakness and paralysis), but the risk is so low (a few cases per million) that the benefits of vaccination far outweigh the risks. Of course that's not much consolation to those who do develop GBS after a vax. It would be interesting to know more about why this happens (rarely). It looks as though there is probably some kind of genetic factor involved, and/or immunological disorder.

www.gov.uk/government/publications/covid-19-vaccination-guillain-barre-syndrome-information-for-healthcare-professionals/information-for-healthcare-professionals-on-guillain-barre-syndrome-gbs-following-covid-19-vaccination

Jade3450 · 25/10/2025 20:56

DenizenOfAisleOfShame · 24/10/2025 21:54

Oh dear. The vaccine deniers and freeloaders have started up again.

It’s not nearly as bad on MN as it was some years ago. But it’s still depressing to see people pumping out nonsense against vaccines.

I’m fascinated by the minds of anti-vaxxers. Since they know vaccines work and are as safe as any medicine can ever be, why do they promote their harmful ideology?

Freeloading, sure. But there must be something deeper and even worse.

You have a very narrow-minded view there.

Hasn’t it ever occurred to you that the vaccination debate might be more nuanced?

That there might be people who are happy to accept certain vaccinations but have concerns about others?

DenizenOfAisleOfShame · 25/10/2025 20:58

Jade3450 · 25/10/2025 20:56

You have a very narrow-minded view there.

Hasn’t it ever occurred to you that the vaccination debate might be more nuanced?

That there might be people who are happy to accept certain vaccinations but have concerns about others?

No. Because there’s no evidence that any should be avoided.

Beachtastic · 25/10/2025 21:02

Jade3450 · 25/10/2025 20:56

You have a very narrow-minded view there.

Hasn’t it ever occurred to you that the vaccination debate might be more nuanced?

That there might be people who are happy to accept certain vaccinations but have concerns about others?

I think the troulbe is that suspicion of vaccines is natural, but not rational (unless you have significant genetic or immunoligical conditions to be considered). I posted just earlier about the potential link with GBS, but the risk is significantly lower than the danger of, say, crossing the road.

People get fed up because the overall success of a vaccination program depends on uptake.

Gilgogirl · 31/10/2025 00:05

Beachtastic · 25/10/2025 19:53

It seems there is some evidence that vaccinations can trigger Guillain-Barré syndrome (a rare neurological condition causing muscle weakness and paralysis), but the risk is so low (a few cases per million) that the benefits of vaccination far outweigh the risks. Of course that's not much consolation to those who do develop GBS after a vax. It would be interesting to know more about why this happens (rarely). It looks as though there is probably some kind of genetic factor involved, and/or immunological disorder.

www.gov.uk/government/publications/covid-19-vaccination-guillain-barre-syndrome-information-for-healthcare-professionals/information-for-healthcare-professionals-on-guillain-barre-syndrome-gbs-following-covid-19-vaccination

And so do tick bites

FunMustard · 31/10/2025 16:03

AlinaRawlings · 24/10/2025 21:33

With measles- not of measles. One child- that you do not know. You’re clutching at straws.

Right, right. Not your child or my child that died, so you're comfortable being a complete pedant about the language I used?

Are you so completely ignorant to the fact that the whole "herd immunity" thing means that this child (who may or may not have had the immunisation) may have been better protected from measles if the uptake of the MMR wasn't lower than 75% in Liverpool? The only thing we know about them is that they had other health issues. And that they died.

Frankly that's a disgusting response. A child died.

Jade3450 · 31/10/2025 16:11

Beachtastic · 25/10/2025 21:02

I think the troulbe is that suspicion of vaccines is natural, but not rational (unless you have significant genetic or immunoligical conditions to be considered). I posted just earlier about the potential link with GBS, but the risk is significantly lower than the danger of, say, crossing the road.

People get fed up because the overall success of a vaccination program depends on uptake.

You don’t think it was rational to be wary of the Covid vaccines given the number of vaccine injuries and adverse reactions there were (e.g. the massively under-investigated effect on menstrual cycles) and the fact that large groups of the people who were given it did not and could not benefit from it?

I think that’s actually very rational.

WishinAndHopin · 31/10/2025 22:28

FunMustard · 31/10/2025 16:03

Right, right. Not your child or my child that died, so you're comfortable being a complete pedant about the language I used?

Are you so completely ignorant to the fact that the whole "herd immunity" thing means that this child (who may or may not have had the immunisation) may have been better protected from measles if the uptake of the MMR wasn't lower than 75% in Liverpool? The only thing we know about them is that they had other health issues. And that they died.

Frankly that's a disgusting response. A child died.

Forcing people to inject medications for herd immunity is completely unethical. Nobody should be obligated to sacrifice their bodily autonomy for other people.

Herd immunity could be better encouraged by safer vaccines and more transparency.

sashh · 01/11/2025 04:26

FunMustard · 19/10/2025 21:21

There's just been a new preventive HIV/AIDS medicine released. I wonder how many generations it'll take before those at risk refuse to take it because they'd rather the side effects.

(I know it's not quite the same, but already the absolute horror that AIDS struck in the 80s and 90s is already fading.)

Yes to the horror. And I know this is a side tangent but I think it is important.

When I teach the BTEC unit on health promotion I play a film that is just news reports about HIV / AIDS. The teenagers are horrified. Horrified that Ryan White was barred from school. Horrified at police wearing washing up gloves at a protest.

They really struggle to get their heads around the fear.

InterestedDad37 · 01/11/2025 04:38

ThejoyofNC · 12/10/2025 13:24

I am unvaccinated as are my children.

I come from a culture where probably 75% of people are unvaccinated. I did an awful lot of research and put a lot of consideration into my decision as I didn't want to blindly follow my culture when it came to medical choices. I looked into each individual vaccine and the ingredients it contained.

Ultimately I came to the decision not to vaccinate and my husband supported this (he was vaccinated as a child with everything except MMR).

I am very satisfied with my choice. And I'm not some moron who believes social media conspiracies which I know people will jump to, in fact I'm not even on social media at all.

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You should do stand up comedy 👏👏🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Lincslady53 · 01/11/2025 06:47

A teenager in our village was being treated for Leukaemia, chemo had wrecked their immune system. At a hospital appointment, another child had measles, which the teenager caught from them, ans was affected very badly. Their funeral was very well attended last week. It was the measles that killed him. If the other child had been vaccinated he would have continued on the road to recovery. Get your kids vaccinated.