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Genuine question for anti-vaxxers

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Raisinmeup · 12/10/2025 12:25

I see a lot online about anti-vaxxers and I’m trying to understand where they’re coming from, so this is a genuine question, not rage bait.

My understanding is that some parents choose not to vaccinate their children because they believe vaccines cause harmful side effects, or they just don’t trust the government and big pharma in general.

But what’s the alternative? If everyone stopped vaccinating, wouldn’t we start seeing diseases like polio coming back? That would mean more infant deaths and lifelong disabilities. It just doesn’t seem like a rational trade off?

From what I’ve seen, there seems to be a belief that immune systems can deal with these illnesses naturally, but I wonder if part of that belief comes from the fact that parents of today haven’t actually seen what a world without vaccines looks like. We’ve grown up in a time where infant death from preventable diseases is almost unheard of, so maybe it’s easy to forget how serious these infections really are.

And lastly, if you haven’t vaccinated your child and they then catch one of these illnesses, do you not end up turning to the same big pharma for the medicine or treatment anyway?

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Wrenjay · 13/10/2025 22:33

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 12/10/2025 13:47

I'm not anti-vax per se,,especially for ny children.

But I am scared of the side effects making my movement disorder symptoms worse. I was permanently harmed and injured by an off label antipsychotic prescribed for severe insomnia and anxiety after a head injury and post concussion syndrome, and it gave me a neurological movement disorder called tardive dyskinesia.

So, I am a bit biased i guess, and probably slightly cynical of Big Pharma, hence me being overly cautious of medication and things like vaccinations.

I'm also pretty much a bit unique in my views but as they have been tarnished by my experience, I don't care if others don't agree with me.

Your treatment was "off label". Does that mean it was not a tried and tested drug for your symptoms? If so, why was it given to you?

FlyMeSomewhere · 13/10/2025 22:36

I went to a surgeons museum in Edinburgh, great place for seeing medical equipment from throughout the ages and lots of things in jars but there were some things that never left me such as images and paintings of people wild eyed with pain and terror during a tetanus spasm that's contorting their entire bodies!
These are illnesses that you would have to be a total bastard to put your kids through whilst you sit back with your luxury protection because your parents didn't join tin foil cults! Nobody had an issue with jabs until the cult instructed them to!

I used to work near a graveyard once that I used to walk around sometimes on my lunch hour, it was a very old graveyard and had a lot of children buried in it, many graves had multiple siblings in it because the diseases swept through entire families, many adults were lucky if they lived through their 30"s! That's the dark legacy that gets left, the anti vaxxers kids that don't die in childhood could become like the people that died early in adulthood, they carry on the legacy from Granny & Grandad Anti vax and generations are born where the premature death rate is high! How do you sleep at night knowing you are volunteering your kids to vicious illnesses that you are protected from!

Even some of the milder complications are things like infertility! That's going to be a good conversation when these kids grow up passionately wanting a family & having to deal with the fact that their parents were responsible for voluntarily removing their infertility! Do these anti vaxxers think of the hate and disownment they've got coming if they voluntarily give their kids long term health issues that dog them for the rest of their life!

Wrenjay · 13/10/2025 22:40

All the diseases that are vaccinated against in UK were and could be a big deal here. Have you seen an adult who cannot walk because of polio? Seen someone die of diptheria? A person brain damaged, blind or deaf because of measles? Whooping cough kills as do most other diseases preventable by vaccination. Personally, I have a chicken pox scar in my left eye, which makes the sight quite bad.

Teddybear23 · 13/10/2025 23:00

When my hospital (where I work) was giving Covid vaccinations I read up on the Pfizer one. On the data sheet it had an ingredient that stated: not for human or veterinary use.
I tried to query this at work but was basically told by my boss to ‘have the blooming thing and stop worrying about it’! I ended up having 2 Astra Zenika ones or get the sack ,but I didn’t want any because I didn’t believe they could possibly have been tested adequately.

Beachtastic · 13/10/2025 23:38

Teddybear23 · 13/10/2025 23:00

When my hospital (where I work) was giving Covid vaccinations I read up on the Pfizer one. On the data sheet it had an ingredient that stated: not for human or veterinary use.
I tried to query this at work but was basically told by my boss to ‘have the blooming thing and stop worrying about it’! I ended up having 2 Astra Zenika ones or get the sack ,but I didn’t want any because I didn’t believe they could possibly have been tested adequately.

This explains it

https://factcheck.afp.com/doc.afp.com.339C8FB

Morningsleepin · 14/10/2025 00:17

Thepeopleversuswork · 12/10/2025 13:31

@isitmyturn is right also that people have forgotten what childhood infectious diseases are like. We are 2-3 generations away from a time when people routinely died of measles and people are complacent.

You are generations away from those days but I grew up in those days and children did not routinely die from measles. All children got measles when I was young and I never even heard of anyone being harmed, though there must have been some rare cases

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 14/10/2025 00:28

Wrenjay · 13/10/2025 22:33

Your treatment was "off label". Does that mean it was not a tried and tested drug for your symptoms? If so, why was it given to you?

It was an antipsychotic drug that injured me but I do think it is used off label for severe distress and anxiety (and mine was caused by a head injury and post concussion syndrome symptoms, which had become extremely severe over a number of months).

Technically I guess you could probably argue that the antipsychotic drug was tested for distress that is a symptom of psychosis, but i as I wasn't psychotic, it's not quite relevant 😳🤔

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 14/10/2025 00:34

FlyMeSomewhere · 13/10/2025 22:36

I went to a surgeons museum in Edinburgh, great place for seeing medical equipment from throughout the ages and lots of things in jars but there were some things that never left me such as images and paintings of people wild eyed with pain and terror during a tetanus spasm that's contorting their entire bodies!
These are illnesses that you would have to be a total bastard to put your kids through whilst you sit back with your luxury protection because your parents didn't join tin foil cults! Nobody had an issue with jabs until the cult instructed them to!

I used to work near a graveyard once that I used to walk around sometimes on my lunch hour, it was a very old graveyard and had a lot of children buried in it, many graves had multiple siblings in it because the diseases swept through entire families, many adults were lucky if they lived through their 30"s! That's the dark legacy that gets left, the anti vaxxers kids that don't die in childhood could become like the people that died early in adulthood, they carry on the legacy from Granny & Grandad Anti vax and generations are born where the premature death rate is high! How do you sleep at night knowing you are volunteering your kids to vicious illnesses that you are protected from!

Even some of the milder complications are things like infertility! That's going to be a good conversation when these kids grow up passionately wanting a family & having to deal with the fact that their parents were responsible for voluntarily removing their infertility! Do these anti vaxxers think of the hate and disownment they've got coming if they voluntarily give their kids long term health issues that dog them for the rest of their life!

Interesting you mentioned tetanus and the severe spasms (back arching)... ironically the antipsychotic drug that injured me caused exactly the same symptoms as part of the adverse effects it was having (it was an acute dystonic reaction and opithotonus was one if the same symptoms).

Having said that, I probably would get a tetanus vaccination as I would hate to have that symptom as part of an illness too.😳😢

Bones101 · 14/10/2025 00:44

For anyone unvaccinated let me tell you about a child I saw last week in my hospital.

She was born full term. No time in NICU. Parents a bit odd and didn't get her vaccinated.

At age 3 she contacted an infection. A bad strain. She ended up in ICU as she couldn't breathe. She was then paralysed from the neck down.

She is now 12 and is still paralysed from the neck down and still has a Trachestomy in place.

I don't care what you do with your body but your child doesn't have a say and should be fully vaccinated. This child's life was destroyed by her selfish and ignorant parents.

Morningsleepin · 14/10/2025 03:46

Bones101 · 14/10/2025 00:44

For anyone unvaccinated let me tell you about a child I saw last week in my hospital.

She was born full term. No time in NICU. Parents a bit odd and didn't get her vaccinated.

At age 3 she contacted an infection. A bad strain. She ended up in ICU as she couldn't breathe. She was then paralysed from the neck down.

She is now 12 and is still paralysed from the neck down and still has a Trachestomy in place.

I don't care what you do with your body but your child doesn't have a say and should be fully vaccinated. This child's life was destroyed by her selfish and ignorant parents.

What infection did she contract?

lollylo · 14/10/2025 05:08

Crwysmam · 13/10/2025 14:30

The problem with the HPV vaccine is that it’s only given to girls. As soon as your DD becomes sexually active she will be exposed to the virus. Not only does it cause cervical cancer but it can lead to oral cancer.
I hope you encourage her to attend cervical screening as soon as she is sexually active so any infection can be picked up early.

It’s been on the U.K. vaccine schedule for boys since 2019. Obviously, in having the vaccine if you are exposed then you are protected.

FlyMeSomewhere · 14/10/2025 06:19

Morningsleepin · 14/10/2025 00:17

You are generations away from those days but I grew up in those days and children did not routinely die from measles. All children got measles when I was young and I never even heard of anyone being harmed, though there must have been some rare cases

Because there's two types of measles, when I was a kid yes, German measles used to circulated is a much milder disease than the variant we were vaccinated for - plus would it have been as mild if we hadn't been vaccinated! The myth that these disease are mild needs to stop, we weren't exposed to worst version of measles because we were jabbed!

BertieBotts · 14/10/2025 06:28

German measles is Rubella, the R in MMR.

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sashh · 14/10/2025 07:14

FlyMeSomewhere · 14/10/2025 06:19

Because there's two types of measles, when I was a kid yes, German measles used to circulated is a much milder disease than the variant we were vaccinated for - plus would it have been as mild if we hadn't been vaccinated! The myth that these disease are mild needs to stop, we weren't exposed to worst version of measles because we were jabbed!

Measles and German measles are totally different diseases. As a PP said GM is rubella.

And although rubella is normally a mild childhood disease it can be devastating for an unborn child.

My mother was pregnant with me, had been visiting a relative with a young child the the next day developed rubella.

Fortunately as it was a family member my mum knew she had been exposed, her only option was injections of gamma globulin.

There was no ultrasound then so she had to wait until I was born to find out if I would be born disabled.

dcthatsme · 14/10/2025 07:15

Measles (the first M in the MMR) vaccine is a horrible illness. The daughter of a friend of my mother's was born in the early 1960s. A bright healthy girl from an affluent family (ie she had everything to eat she needed and a warm home etc etc). She contracted measles aged 3 and sadly developed encephalitis, a not uncommon associated condition. She was left with brain damage and has had to be cared for her entire life. Children regularly died of this illness in the past. Many people today don't know this because we are so fortunate here in the UK to have been shielded from it thanks to vaccinations introduced in late 1960s. This useful website run by the University of Oxford gives all the facts and figures about different vaccinations in clear and simple language. Please read if you are in any doubt.
vaccineknowledge.ox.ac.uk/mmr-vaccine#Key-vaccine-facts

FlyMeSomewhere · 14/10/2025 07:23

sashh · 14/10/2025 07:14

Measles and German measles are totally different diseases. As a PP said GM is rubella.

And although rubella is normally a mild childhood disease it can be devastating for an unborn child.

My mother was pregnant with me, had been visiting a relative with a young child the the next day developed rubella.

Fortunately as it was a family member my mum knew she had been exposed, her only option was injections of gamma globulin.

There was no ultrasound then so she had to wait until I was born to find out if I would be born disabled.

It annoys me when people claim that our parents had measles parties which just isn't true, I can remember mums being twitchy in my 80's childhood when GM was about and keeping kids away from other kids when they had it.

Wimin123 · 14/10/2025 07:25

ThejoyofNC · 12/10/2025 13:24

I am unvaccinated as are my children.

I come from a culture where probably 75% of people are unvaccinated. I did an awful lot of research and put a lot of consideration into my decision as I didn't want to blindly follow my culture when it came to medical choices. I looked into each individual vaccine and the ingredients it contained.

Ultimately I came to the decision not to vaccinate and my husband supported this (he was vaccinated as a child with everything except MMR).

I am very satisfied with my choice. And I'm not some moron who believes social media conspiracies which I know people will jump to, in fact I'm not even on social media at all.

You are influenced by social media though - that’s where all the nonsense comes from. It can’t be from evidence based scientific research or you would have come to the opposite conclusion.

FlyMeSomewhere · 14/10/2025 07:26

A few years back, I had tetanus, diphtheria, polio, typhoid and yellow fever jabs all in one afternoon and had no ill effect! There's no justification for risking lives over jabs that have been safe for many generations!

CharlieRight · 14/10/2025 07:36

I wouldn't call my self anti-vaccine. But the wide introduction of vaccines coincided with various other public health improvements (public sanitation, personal hygiene, NHS, nutrition,....) so it may be that they get more credit than they are truly deserve (but I am not saying that they don't deserve any).

thecatfromneptune · 14/10/2025 08:40

CharlieRight · 14/10/2025 07:36

I wouldn't call my self anti-vaccine. But the wide introduction of vaccines coincided with various other public health improvements (public sanitation, personal hygiene, NHS, nutrition,....) so it may be that they get more credit than they are truly deserve (but I am not saying that they don't deserve any).

To say this is to not understand vaccination — no amount of improved sanitation can completely eradicate a virus (if anything, viruses are much more transmissible in the modern world). Only vaccination can do that, by creating herd immunity and this removing the viral reservoir (the places where the virus circulates).

Improved sanitation and living standards haven’t eradicated viruses for which we don’t have vaccines, have they?

messybutfun · 14/10/2025 08:44

ThejoyofNC · 12/10/2025 13:24

I am unvaccinated as are my children.

I come from a culture where probably 75% of people are unvaccinated. I did an awful lot of research and put a lot of consideration into my decision as I didn't want to blindly follow my culture when it came to medical choices. I looked into each individual vaccine and the ingredients it contained.

Ultimately I came to the decision not to vaccinate and my husband supported this (he was vaccinated as a child with everything except MMR).

I am very satisfied with my choice. And I'm not some moron who believes social media conspiracies which I know people will jump to, in fact I'm not even on social media at all.

And yet, here you are

Beachtastic · 14/10/2025 09:20

FlyMeSomewhere · 14/10/2025 07:23

It annoys me when people claim that our parents had measles parties which just isn't true, I can remember mums being twitchy in my 80's childhood when GM was about and keeping kids away from other kids when they had it.

It was true of my childhood! Our local GP encouraged kids to play together if anyone had German measles (as long as no mothers were pregnant!), so that we would all catch it young, and get it over and done with. He used to ring us up if he knew of a case. He was particularly keen for girls to catch it, so that they needn't worry about infection later in life when pregnant. I think it was fairly common in the 1960s, because there was no way to prevent rubella except through natural immunity. It was like an unexploded grenade, we tried our best to control how it affected our lives rather than just letting it circulate unpredictably and reach vulnerable pregnant women. It's wonderful that vaccination now offers protection.

YorkshireGoldDrinker · 14/10/2025 09:20

ThisTipsyGreyCrab · 13/10/2025 20:47

Isn’t Covid recommended during pregnancy too? I got pregnant a year ago (with the wonderful baby that’s now in my arms :) ) and went and had the flu and Covid jabs a few weeks after finding out. I also had the others vacs recommended to me by midwifes. I just assumed Covid was also a risk if I caught it whilst pregnant and flu/cold season was approaching..

The covid jab isn't offered anymore where I am. If I was lucky enough to be pregnant anywhere between 2020 and 2021 and I was offered it, I wouldn't have taken it then, either. They said it was safe, but it was rushed through and I don't trust it. On the other hand, the flu jab has been around for donkey's moons and I trust that.

FlyMeSomewhere · 14/10/2025 09:25

Beachtastic · 14/10/2025 09:20

It was true of my childhood! Our local GP encouraged kids to play together if anyone had German measles (as long as no mothers were pregnant!), so that we would all catch it young, and get it over and done with. He used to ring us up if he knew of a case. He was particularly keen for girls to catch it, so that they needn't worry about infection later in life when pregnant. I think it was fairly common in the 1960s, because there was no way to prevent rubella except through natural immunity. It was like an unexploded grenade, we tried our best to control how it affected our lives rather than just letting it circulate unpredictably and reach vulnerable pregnant women. It's wonderful that vaccination now offers protection.

It was more a chicken pox party thing in the 80's but ultimately people need to understand what we were exposed to as kids wasn't a potentially very serious illness without being jabbed.