Unopened sanitary towel

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Currently got my period. When I got home from work yesterday I dropped my bag by mistake and everything fell out. I put everything back (or so I thought) but then around half an hour later 9yo DS found one of my sanitary towels on the floor, picked it up and asked what it was. Just to clarify, it was unused (obviously) and still in the packet. I must have missed it when I was picking up things from my bag.

DH then shouted at DS to put it down (literally shouted at him) and then shouted at me asking why it was there. I explained to him what happened and he said it’s weird to be leaving things like that lying around.

I asked him to explain why it was “weird” but he couldn’t answer me.

AIBU to feel hurt by this? I don’t understand his reaction.

Your husband is an absolute idiot!!

We all know they post on FB. What’s the issue??

Maybe the Op didn’t want it posting on there ?

My 7 year old DS is very used to seeing them in the bathroom and knows they are something that ‘girls need when they get older’. I’ve told him women get a sore tummy and some bleeding every so often and all he responded with is ‘so (sister’s name) is going to get that when she’s older but I won’t’. He isn’t bothered in the slightest and now knows they’re a completely normal thing.

Your DH is being weird.

Gosh…

well he shouted so of course you are hurt…and he shouted about something intimate and out of your control…

If he isn’t usually like that, I would just tell him that he hurtled your feelings and also that the 9yo will hear about it soon enough so better from you.

I still remember the chock of the boys in our class when we covered menstruation…they were like « so girls bleed for about 5 days non stop and it can hurt…every month? » yeap…realisation time!

You aren’t unreasonable, but you do have a man child in your house.

Definite weird reaction from your partner. I don’t see how a child can get to 9 without knowing what one is, my boys have always followed me everywhere and there is no way i could have hidden periods and sanitary towels from them 🤣 I have explained what periods are, it’s just a normal part of life. Your husband needs to grow up.

It has to assumed this is a possibility. It’s not private.

I asked my DH the other day why he is so pathetic about periods given that he is fully grown and witnessed childbirth. He can’t explain it. It’s like it’s a whole new hideous thing because I’ve had an implant removed - I had no periods for 8 years whilst it was in 🤷🏻‍♀️

I use tampons. When I’m on my period they live on top of the toilet. When I’m not on my period they are in the cupboard. Genuinely no different to toilet paper. I don’t know what the fuss is about. My DH has certainly never objected to it.

Before he met me ( his first relationship) my husband had no knowledge about periods, pads etc. His mum never spoke about it. Jobs for mums and dads I think.

Your son picked up a sanitary product. Your DH saw it. By the sounds of it your DH has no context for how your son ended up with a sanitary product in his possession. Did you fill your DH in on the fact you dropped some stuff, picked it up and accidentally missed the single sanitary product? That would have prevented the reaction.

That’s really strange

Can't believe I'm going to admit this but my son drank from my moon cup once, he found it in the cupboard and filled it with water, my DH was on duty.... He told me years later. But my DS is still alive and growing into a v handsome young man 😂 😂

Wowsers - that's concerning behaviour from your husband. Getting periods is not a dirty or shameful thing.
Would he buy you sanitary products from a shop if you needed them?
I would not be standing for that from my other half!
Your son should be taught about what periods are so he can live in the real world, not be weirded about by something that isn't weird, and be a supportive friend or partner in the future.
Your DH needs to get a grip.

Your husband's attitude is rather strange, in all honesty. I am Mum is a son (my only child), who is now 15 and have never hidden the fact I have periods, never hidden pads and answered any questions simply with age appropriate language. Your son is going to learn about bodily changes in both sexes and have sex education, the further up primary school he goes, and into secondary school. Surely, it's better he learns facts from you and your husband, than listen to inaccurate information from his mates? Giving him information, allows him to build the confidence in himself to make good decisions later on. You need a calm and frank conversation with your husband. You haven't done anything wrong or have anything to be ashamed about. Your husband shouldn't be shouting at your son, he asked a perfectly normal question, and should have been given an age appropriate response.

When I had DS19 DH had to go and buy extra thick pads for me and bigger pants & bras.

Are you the husband? Even if this was the case, it was a massive overreaction. It was a clean sanitary pad in a wrapper. It was not poisonous or going to harm the child in any way because he picked it up. It should have been a complete non event but the silly man escalated it out of all proportion.

DH reaction is reflective of the shame he’s been taught we should feel about “women’s things” - and exactly why you should let your children see and know about worms health and all the accessories that accompany it

Why would he need any context? It isn't a dangerous object. Would he have been the same if there was a box of tissues or a toilet roll on the floor? He needs to get a grip 🙄

My DS’s have been aware that I have a period since they were little and even pass me a pad from time to time if needed. Periods are as normal as any other bodily function and it imperative that children know what they are. I don’t get the hush hush taboo shit surrounding periods. It’s normal. Most women will have one at some point. Boys and men should know about them! Your DH is weird.

it is weird how many people still get embarrassed about these things. A woman at work dropped one out her bag in the office and she was too shy to pick it up so I walked past and picked it up for her. My partner don’t give a crap. He has a teenage daughter, me and my almost teen around and his younger daughter. I woke up not long ago and was covered it was leaking everywhere he was up stripping the bed shower on and got me clean underwear and a sanitary towel for coming out the shower. He’s totally unfazed. Your son will be told about periods at school I know the boys at my DD were and it’s not a bad thing xx

My six year old boy knows all about periods and sanitary products. I've never hidden it, just explained in simple terms what was happening. Your DH is being ridiculous. He will be told about this/ shown products in school very soon if not already too.

If it was not for you having periods , your husband would not have a child to shout at - very insulting to you and so normal for your child to be curious what they are.