To be concerned about my neighbours?

[Lynn981]

My neighbours are a young couple with a toddler. I normally seem them but I haven’t for 3 days now. All their lights and curtains hahe been drawn but their cars are still on the drive and haven’t moved. Or am I over thinking? It just seems a bit unusual. We are rural and you can’t really get to anywhere without a car, not even local shop. Also they’re not abroad or anything, as I actually spoke to the lady neighbour the other day and she said someone from the council was meant to be coming round

I think it is great that the OP notices things and that they care. I could drop down dead in my house and nobody would notice. I sometimes worry about how long my body would lie here before anyone would be aware. I had not been seen. All my family live quite far away and friends are in touch but would probably not worry if they had not heard from me for a few weeks.

Find an excuse to go around, ask if they have a parcel or pretend your electrics or water has done off and ask them if they have any ?

I hope they are ok x

did you knock yet?

you hear too often abut people left for weeks or months or even years because no one notices, or pretends not to.

that poor baby starved to death in a mother and baby home a few years ago. knocking doesn't do any harm.

Will OP be back to update us or was it a late at night I’m bored post 🤔

If they've previously asked op to keep an eye on their house, I cant see why she wouldn't just knock on the door to see if everything is OK.

It sounds likes they are away. Maybe a family emergency. I hope that’s all it is

They could be on holiday. Some people close their curtains and blinds when they go away (that always seems odd to me as it just alerts others to an empty house).

I also think maybe they've gone somewhere by taxi/lift from friend or family.
A friendly knock can't do any harm.
You're a nice neighbour!

If you’re concerned you just go and knock on the door. You don’t need to find an “excuse”. Concern for their welfare is reason enough.

However, I think they’ve just gone away without mentioning it. I don’t always tell neighbours when I’m away, sometimes I do, sometimes I don’t.

You don’t know for sure when this lady from the council was due to come, and it could have been postponed or cancelled etc.

Have you knocked on the door yet Op?

Are they all in bed with flu? Knock and see what happens from there. A slightly different situation but we saved an elderly neighbour who had fallen out of bed and got wedged against the wall. We noticed his curtains hadn't been opened. He was a stickler for routine.
We contacted his daughter and the police broke in. He had dehydration and pneumonia (along with a broken wrist) by the time they got to him.

What's wrong with just going and telling them truth

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They might feel a bit overlooked and that she is constantly watching them

What a state of affairs. No criticism here but what is goign wrong with people.

I have my partner at least. My AC don't give a damn.

I would put a webcam with motion sensor to check on them 24/7. Just to be sure.

Just knock. Say that you were worried.

Does the toddler go to nursery? An unplanned absence from nursery would trigger some sort of safeguarding action.

We went on holiday once when my youngest was still in nursery and I’d forgotten to tell them we were going. I’d had my phone on charge all morning and only just noticed at 11am that I had 4 missed calls. It was nursery checking to see if we were okay because he hadn’t turned up on the day as expected. They were just about to send someone over to our house to knock on the door as per their safeguarding procedure.

If toddler is in childcare, I think someone would have come to check on them by now if they hadn’t turned up in 3 days.

My guess would be they went on holiday and whoever collected them to drive them to the airport is also watching the dog.

Could always try speaking to people?

How awful. Your poor dad must have been traumatised too.

Do you live in Midsomer?

People in our community have checked in previously when they noticed that they hadn’t seen me walking my dog in the woods (broken ankle). It was nice to know that people noticed as it can feel quite vulnerable out walking sometimes.

In June my father in law fell over in his house and laid there for three days. before we found him. I wish he had a neighbour like you.

I hope all is well op.