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AIBU for thinking it was more than friends?

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Supercherry101 · 06/10/2025 15:58

So I had a party for my birthday and invited someone I’m interested in to the party. The whole party we were flirting back and fourth, they were talking about how they broke up with their gf as she was using tloml as a wlw accessory. After everyone left, we got closer and ended up cuddling and sleeping to billie eilish songs. When everyone was there, they grabbed my hand and held it, in a romantic way if you know what I mean. They also kept hinting at kissing me but we didn’t, and they looked into my eyes in an admiring way if u know what i mean. We woke up the next day and we were planning a date to go to an aquarium. I thought it was pretty obvious we were on the path to dating but they hit me with a text last night celebrating getting back with the ex. I was confused and said what about everything? They said that’s just friendly stuff. AIBU for thinking them speaking romantically to me, trying to kiss me, being physical and constantly complimenting me was more than friends? I feel so lost, what do I do?

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MyLimeGuide · 06/10/2025 19:49

CherrieTomaties · 06/10/2025 16:24

You need to fucking grow up for starters.

She already said she is a minor.

CherrieTomaties · 06/10/2025 20:11

MyLimeGuide · 06/10/2025 19:49

She already said she is a minor.

Thank you captain obvious 🫡

BlueMum16 · 06/10/2025 20:26

Supercherry101 · 06/10/2025 17:27

I’m just struggling with someone I thought I was seeing but I’ve realised she’s not a loyal person, I don’t want to be cheated on by her if we do go out actually

You might be talking with this girl but she's not cheating on you. You were not a couple.

She's got back together with her ex.

Just continue to speak at Explorers and don't make an issue of it.

Most importantly though is think about what happens if they split up again and she's back to talking with you. Do you really want someone's crumbs?

You're young, you're confused and finding your way in a homophobic household.

Be young and enjoy making friends and meeting people. You don't need a relationship. You need fun and laughter.

Supercherry101 · 06/10/2025 20:56

Sarover · 06/10/2025 19:02

OP. I have been on MN for over 15 years and I have never read anything homophobic on here. You can talk freely about who you are attracted to on here. Sorry you experience homophobia at home though.

You have had good advice on here. If someone is a good person and they really like you then there will be no doubt. They won’t leave you confused or go backwards and forwards to other people. It’s a good call to ask about this on MN because when you are young friends can give you bad advice. They don’t like to tell you ‘she’s just not that into you’ Added to which, song lyrics, films and books give the impression that relationships are complicated and involve lots of deep thinking and mystery. Really they are not. If someone is into you then you will know about it. That’s really all you need to know.

The person you are talking about isn’t that into you, if she finds herself free again she might start flirting again. But you’ve already found out she’s not a good person. So you’ll shut her down next time. Her, or anyone else who messed you around. Right?

Yep, we are done!

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Supercherry101 · 06/10/2025 20:57

BlueMum16 · 06/10/2025 20:26

You might be talking with this girl but she's not cheating on you. You were not a couple.

She's got back together with her ex.

Just continue to speak at Explorers and don't make an issue of it.

Most importantly though is think about what happens if they split up again and she's back to talking with you. Do you really want someone's crumbs?

You're young, you're confused and finding your way in a homophobic household.

Be young and enjoy making friends and meeting people. You don't need a relationship. You need fun and laughter.

No I mean she may have cheated on her ex w me, I feel bad and she came to me so quick? She prob isn’t loyal

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TheHillIsMine · 06/10/2025 21:00

What a load of nonsense. How old are you?

Supercherry101 · 06/10/2025 21:00

Goditsmemargaret · 06/10/2025 19:09

So this is the deal -

They had split up with somebody and engaged in some low level flirting to take the edge of the sadness off. Unfortunately it meant more to you. They then got their ex back and awkwardly told you and restore history.

Yeah I was just a second choice, I’m not going to be that choice for her anymore.

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Supercherry101 · 06/10/2025 21:01

TheHillIsMine · 06/10/2025 21:00

What a load of nonsense. How old are you?

A teen. Good lord, how many times do I have to say this? I’m not a fully mature person and I’m asking for a solution. I’ve found a solution now and you would’ve understood had u read the feed

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TheHillIsMine · 06/10/2025 21:06

Supercherry101 · 06/10/2025 21:01

A teen. Good lord, how many times do I have to say this? I’m not a fully mature person and I’m asking for a solution. I’ve found a solution now and you would’ve understood had u read the feed

I missed there were more pages.

You're not ready for a relationship. You romanticised something that didn't exist.

Schoolchoicesucks · 06/10/2025 22:21

What does "using tloml as a wlw accessory" mean please?

Katflapkit · 06/10/2025 22:49

Supercherry101 · 06/10/2025 16:11

This is because I’ve genuinely never met another person as nice and as perfect. Should I wait for him to realise that?

But he's not though is he - it was all an act. He's a flake. And he is denying anything happened.

FaceBothered · 06/10/2025 23:00

Schoolchoicesucks · 06/10/2025 22:21

What does "using tloml as a wlw accessory" mean please?

I had to Google it.

tloml = The Love Of My Life

wlw = Women Loving Women

No idea how a boy can be an accessory for a lesbian but there we are.

Teenagequeenwithaloadedgun · 06/10/2025 23:02

Supercherry101 · 06/10/2025 16:11

This is because I’ve genuinely never met another person as nice and as perfect. Should I wait for him to realise that?

No, he/she is taking the piss. They definitely aren't perfect for you because they're messing you around.

WatchingTheDetective · 07/10/2025 06:01

He's not nice and he's not perfect. He's manipulative and was weighing up his options.

Frankblackwife · 07/10/2025 06:11

Why would such a young person be on here. My kids wouldnt poke it with a stick if it was on fire.

Supercherry101 · 07/10/2025 07:30

FaceBothered · 06/10/2025 23:00

I had to Google it.

tloml = The Love Of My Life

wlw = Women Loving Women

No idea how a boy can be an accessory for a lesbian but there we are.

its a girl read the pages

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Supercherry101 · 07/10/2025 07:31

TheHillIsMine · 06/10/2025 21:06

I missed there were more pages.

You're not ready for a relationship. You romanticised something that didn't exist.

Like I said, more happened but I didn’t share

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NewYorkSummer · 07/10/2025 09:39

Frankblackwife · 07/10/2025 06:11

Why would such a young person be on here. My kids wouldnt poke it with a stick if it was on fire.

Same here, Mumsnet is for old people according to mine 🤣 they use Snapchat, Discord and Student Room forums for their advice.

Supercherry101 · 07/10/2025 09:50

NewYorkSummer · 07/10/2025 09:39

Same here, Mumsnet is for old people according to mine 🤣 they use Snapchat, Discord and Student Room forums for their advice.

Can I not be on here or smth?

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NewYorkSummer · 07/10/2025 09:51

Supercherry101 · 07/10/2025 09:50

Can I not be on here or smth?

No one has said that, we were merely talking about our own children. You can use any forum you wish.

Supercherry101 · 07/10/2025 10:18

NewYorkSummer · 07/10/2025 09:51

No one has said that, we were merely talking about our own children. You can use any forum you wish.

Ohhh I see now my bad lol. I just don’t have access to those apps right now otherwise I would too!

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