AIBU for thinking it was more than friends?

[Supercherry101]

So I had a party for my birthday and invited someone I’m interested in to the party. The whole party we were flirting back and fourth, they were talking about how they broke up with their gf as she was using tloml as a wlw accessory. After everyone left, we got closer and ended up cuddling and sleeping to billie eilish songs. When everyone was there, they grabbed my hand and held it, in a romantic way if you know what I mean. They also kept hinting at kissing me but we didn’t, and they looked into my eyes in an admiring way if u know what i mean. We woke up the next day and we were planning a date to go to an aquarium. I thought it was pretty obvious we were on the path to dating but they hit me with a text last night celebrating getting back with the ex. I was confused and said what about everything? They said that’s just friendly stuff. AIBU for thinking them speaking romantically to me, trying to kiss me, being physical and constantly complimenting me was more than friends? I feel so lost, what do I do?

I don’t think this thread is going to be teaching OP anything, but thanks….

I’m choosing to talk about this with adults instead of bottling it up or gossiping. I’m trying to help myself rn

Congratulations on typing actual full words.

Well, mostly.

I’m an old woman now, well not really but you’ll think I am, lol. I remember one lad I had a similar thing happen with when I was an older teenager, I dreamt about him and thought he was perfect. I got over him and met loads of other lads much nicer. I’m sat here trying to remember his name, I think it began with a G. Maybe Gavin or Gareth?!! Lol

You’re young and there’s loads out there who are lovely and actually available.

Trust me when I say I’ve already learnt a lot from some of the posts, stop putting teens into this little box of horrible expectations, we are nice people when you let us

Sounds like there was something there, but guess you have to question why it didn't progress once you were alone?

Why would you be interested if he so obviously prefers his ex?

You had two choices: give the teenager some advice or read another post. You didn’t have to hate on my situation, it’s not yours to hate on anyway. I’m just looking for help from women who are mature and aren’t going to side with me like my friends. Growing up comes with time and im sorry I can’t magically grow up quickly.

It did but I’d rather not discuss it

You don't need to thank me, I'm here for OP, not you.

She's obviously ready to listen to advice, let people give it to her.

Honestly you’re right. I’m done with her and the switching up, thanks for the wake up

Yes it was more than just friends. Maybe they were interested and changed their mind, maybe they were just looking for an ego boost after splitting with their partner. Either way they don't sound a very honest or grounded person.

I think he’ll try, and you’d be foolish to let him. He’s clearly chosen her over you right now. Hold out for someone who makes you their first choice. If he knows you’ll just keep hanging around hoping he’ll ditch her he won’t respect you. It’s no basis for a relationship not matter how much you think you like him.

No this is an actual situation happening to me right now. I’m here for a wake up call before i see her next at my explorer group. I’m a real person and this is a real thing that’s making me worry, sorry the stories u see aren’t good tho :(

I’m not used to dating women I keep using default pronouns, please work with me this is a new experiance for me that’s why I’m extra confused, sorry for the confusion tho :(

The whole party we were flirting back and fourth, they were talking about how they broke up with their gf as she was using tloml as a wlw accessory.

'WLW' means 'Women Loving Women'.

How can she have used a boy as a WLW accessory?

Again, I’m not used to dating women and I keep reverting back to default pronouns, please work with me here I’m just looking for help

Yep you’re right! I’m just not used to dating women that’s all I keep using he/him pronouns, I’m on here to look for help as my parents cannot give me any.

You’re their back up. Not enough for them to really leave the ex for but will do when ex is not around. You deserve more. I would chill the friendship and let them do their own thing

Ok I’m going to be even more blunt.

If you get confused calling a male “he” and a female “she” then you’re not mature enough to date anyone right now.

You are obviously very young and naive, and seem quite vulnerable. Getting involved with other people romantically is just going to be a car crash right now.

I’m just struggling with someone I thought I was seeing but I’ve realised she’s not a loyal person, I don’t want to be cheated on by her if we do go out actually

At the start I was also timid with said I liked a girl as a girl, growing up in a homophobic household I have had to say he instead of she often, it’s not me mixing he run it’s me trying to remove that vocab from my life. Do u understand what I mean?

Not nice and perfect. They were toying with your affections. Not sure why you’d want to go back to them, to be honest.

Someone I used to work with was waiting for a lad to ask her out. And waiting. And waiting. There was always an excuse why it wasn’t the right time.

100% this.

A similar thing happened to me when I was about 20 (half my life ago basically!) - I would advise you to forget completely about this person and their "friendship" and find other, more respectful people to hang out with. 😊 Don't debase yourself like I did!