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Currently away for the weekend, is this acceptable?

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DBD1975 · 05/10/2025 02:46

Would appreciate views on whether or not I am being unreasonable in thinking en-suite facilities are not acceptable.

We have paid £440 for a weekend break in the UK. I am not happy and asked to move rooms but was told not possible as fully booked.

Don't know if I am being unreasonable and others would find this shower room acceptable or I am not being unreasonable and it is not what others would expect.

Currently away for the weekend, is this acceptable?
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Gizlotsmum · 05/10/2025 10:20

NeverDropYourMooncup · 05/10/2025 09:59

It's disappointing how something that is automatically suitable for anybody with disabilities, rather than having to specifically try to order and usually end up paying extra for (or find out that actually, 'accessible' means the bathroom door opens once you've climbed up multiple stairs, done a nine point turn in a wheelchair if you use one with only three sets of bruising to the hands on the doorframe and the flooring is rough enough to cause cuts to the feet if you are able to stand) is seen as an awful thing to have.

It's spotlessly clean, clearly very new and has actually had some thought put into mobility needs.

Which are good points but surely they can do that and still make it look less like a hospital bathroom? It is great that it is functional and I don’t think it’s the fact that it is accessible which has upset op but it does look less luxury than what she has described for the other bathrooms

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 05/10/2025 10:20

DBD1975 · 05/10/2025 02:55

We didn't book an accessible bathroom/shower room and the photos of the hotel rooms on the website show luxurious bathrooms with free standing baths and separate showers.

Unless you actually need the accessible bathroom I agree it's disappointing to be given it. They are practical but usually basic/ugly. Did you book last minute as a special offer with a price reduction? If so then I'd expect there was something in the small print that entitles them to give you something other than what you saw in the photos.

If you paid the usual rate and it was the only room available I would have expected them to tell you about the bathroom before you accepted. Then you could make a decision in full knowledge of the facts. Again, unless there is something in the small print then I think you have grounds to complain.

AzurePanda · 05/10/2025 10:22

I’ve never not been told it’s an accessible bathroom at the time of booking.

DBD1975 · 05/10/2025 10:23

FutureMarchionessOfVidal · 05/10/2025 05:51

It’s a very depressing space and obviously not what you had in mind for a romantic break where you could sit in the bath with a glass of wine.

If this is clearly different from the other bathrooms shown in advertising material on the website then this needed to be made very clear to your husband at time of booking - just saying ‘accessible’ does not make this clear. It needed to be made crystal clear this was a hospital type bathroom. And if the hotel does not have a written record of having made this clear then they are in a weak position.

I would stress to them you are unhappy, think you were misled, & will be asking for a refund. (I would ask for a full refund with a view to accepting a partial one.)

I think they have treated you very badly by basically giving you an ‘old peoples’ home’ bathroom without making this clear at time of booking. It is not your husband’s fault at all. ‘Accessible’ would not have made this clear - if indeed they said it- to anyone not in the hotel or medical industry.

I hope you will describe your experience on the various review websites as people should be able to choose to avoid this very poor service hotel. I certainly would not want to risk booking there!

Thank you, you have summed up exactly how I feel x

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Anewuser · 05/10/2025 10:25

I’m guessing they are fully booked?

I can’t see why they’d give out their accessible bathroom otherwise. It’s really hard finding an accessible room when we need one, and most hotels only have one or two accessible bathrooms.

PaddlingSwan · 05/10/2025 10:27

What did you book and what did the booking confirmation say?
As others have said, it is functional, rather than luxurious. I am not a big fan of baths, personally, somthe absence would not have bothered me, but if you were expecting something different it must have been disappointing.

Hedjwitch · 05/10/2025 10:30

Well as its more luxurious than what I have at home,it wouldn't bother me. I wouldn't be planning to spend much time in there on a weekend away.

weirdoboelady · 05/10/2025 10:30

Do let us know what happens. I would be expecting a substantial refund, and agree with the points made by DBD1975

thereneverwasacloudyday · 05/10/2025 10:31

dontmalbeconme · 05/10/2025 04:30

Oh, I just saw £440 for 2 weekend nights. So Travelodge/Premier Inn/other low end hotel. Yeah, suck it up. Its a room, that's all you can expect for £cheap.

£440 is not Travelodge/Premier Inn/low end hotel 'cheap' pricing.

Unless OP had requested an accessible bathroom or been told it was all they had left, she is absolutely entitled to fee a bit aggrieved, especially if it's very different to the pictures they'd looked at before they booked.

AngelicKaty · 05/10/2025 10:33

@FutureMarchionessOfVidal "‘Accessible’ would not have made this clear - if indeed they said it - to anyone not in the hotel or medical industry."
Utter nonsense. I don't, nor ever have, worked in hospitality or the medical industry and nor am I disabled (or have any family members or friends who are) and I know full well what 'accessible' means. You'd have to have been living under a rock to not know what this means.

Isitmybathtimeyet · 05/10/2025 10:37

I think it may well also be the case that the OP’s DH was told it was an accessible room but given no information on what that meant, and may have just assumed it just meant ground floor and instantly forgot. I think it’s reasonable that someone who has never seen an accessible bathroom wouldn’t realise how different it might be.

pictoosh · 05/10/2025 10:40

Just be very sure that the hotel did not inform your husband that it was an accessible bathroom. I think they have to. Could be wrong.

They may have said so but your husband didn't register what that meant.
Accessible in his mind - easy to enter. Not an issue.
Accessible in hotel speak - mobility support equipment.
He might have dismissed it in the moment and then forgot it was mentioned.

RampantIvy · 05/10/2025 10:43

PaellaPan · 05/10/2025 10:10

Accessible bathrooms can perfectly well look high end. Simple changes, like luxury tiling instead of hospital white, a glass screen instead of a plastic curtain, not sticking a laminated weight limit on the wall. This room smacks of a venue that doesn't give a shit about it's disabled guests and making them feel welcome and valued.

The last hotel room we stayed in had a wet room. The floor was sopping wet and very slippery after a shower, so I asked why they couldn't have had a glass panel, and I was told that it would have been an issue with wheelchair users crashing into it and for people with visual problems, so it wasn't installed from a safety point of view.

IMO they should have had a sloping floor because the entire bathroom floor was wet as the shower was a rainfall shower so you couldn't even control where the water was directed.

Iloveeverycat · 05/10/2025 10:43

If just there for the weekend you don't need a bath. Wouldn't bother me at all

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 05/10/2025 10:45

RampantIvy · 05/10/2025 10:43

The last hotel room we stayed in had a wet room. The floor was sopping wet and very slippery after a shower, so I asked why they couldn't have had a glass panel, and I was told that it would have been an issue with wheelchair users crashing into it and for people with visual problems, so it wasn't installed from a safety point of view.

IMO they should have had a sloping floor because the entire bathroom floor was wet as the shower was a rainfall shower so you couldn't even control where the water was directed.

A slippery floor doesn't sound ideal from an accessibility POV, if that's their justification for no shower screen. Very odd.

Twinmum345 · 05/10/2025 10:47

DBD1975 · 05/10/2025 02:55

We didn't book an accessible bathroom/shower room and the photos of the hotel rooms on the website show luxurious bathrooms with free standing baths and separate showers.

I would be livid and ask for a refund

Rosecoffeecup · 05/10/2025 10:48

Any particular reason why he booked over the phone? Did he try to book online and it said call for availability, at which point he'd have called and they'd have said oh yes we do have a room, but it will be the accessible room?

Howwilliknow122 · 05/10/2025 10:48

steff13 · 05/10/2025 03:09

I don't really know why there would be a problem with it. And not being able to recall being told is not the same as not being told.

The problem is alot of money has been paid and pics of a lovely luxury bathroom have been seen and that's not what op has. If she wanted a no frills experience she would have booked a much cheaper place. But im sure you know all this.

Catpiece · 05/10/2025 10:49

Sorry it looks grim. I wouldn’t be happy either x

gottakeeponmoving · 05/10/2025 10:50

I am getting the total ick from just looking at that photo. Not what I would describe as a spa bathroom.

Is there a possibility your DH misunderstood accessible and thought it meant near the lift? Although no one can possibly have a DH as stupid as mine ..

AtomicBlondeRose · 05/10/2025 10:50

Double posted

AtomicBlondeRose · 05/10/2025 10:51

The bathroom in a £200/night hotel room near me. If I was hoping for this and got OP’s bathroom I’d be so disappointed. And there’s no reason an accessible bathroom can’t be decorated nicely, surely? Just laziness on the part of the hotel if they’ve spent time on the look of everywhere else.

Currently away for the weekend, is this acceptable?
LynetteScavo · 05/10/2025 10:54

Iloveeverycat · 05/10/2025 10:43

If just there for the weekend you don't need a bath. Wouldn't bother me at all

She doesn’t need a bath, she wants a bath on her luxurious spa break.

Jade3450 · 05/10/2025 10:54

SALaw · 05/10/2025 03:22

You have a husband problem, not a hotel en suite problem.

WTAF?

TeddySchnauzer · 05/10/2025 10:55

5128gap · 05/10/2025 05:41

If you're paying £220 for cheap hotel chains, Travelodge or similar, you're doing something very wrong at booking, or being repeatedly scammed. I'd contact your bank or trading standards if I were you.

Standard price for Premier Inn at the weekends these days! Nothing to do with “doing something wrong at booking” 🙄 The bank won’t be able to help you I’m afraid