Colleague sent me message by mistake

[Islandhopper10]

Our team work remotely but we get together quarterly in person. Yesterday was a meeting in the office in the morning followed by a social so it was casual dress.

I was messaging a colleague earlier back and forth about work matters and he sent something really random and then instantly deleted it but I saw it pop up as a notification so read it.

It said ‘she knew what she was doing in those leggings’ with a sweat emoji.

Now I was the only one wearing leggings yesterday so it was definitely about me. This was at about 3.30 today and I finished at 4 so nothing more was said and I expect my colleague thinks he deleted it before I saw it.

Would you say something if you were me or pretend/forget I ever saw it?

what a bitchy comment

I’ve genuinely no idea what he would have meant by that, is it a (sexist) compliment?

I haven't read that as a bitchy comment, i've read it as she looked good in them 😅 am I wrong?

It's a compliment about her looking hot in the leggings.

it's a turn of phrase. Not sexist what so ever

I'd ask what did he mean by his comment about your leggings

I’d report it and ask that IT look at their message logs.

This is what I read, sleazy but not bitchy

I think it’s a man saying her ass looked good.

good user name btw 😉

Sounds more like a Pervy comment…assume you look great in leggings OP. But ewwww yuck, he’s a gross man.

Thats how I read it. Admiring the OP, albeit inappropriate for Teams in the workplace!

For sure I would say something.

Whether the comment was a compliment or being derogatory, your male colleague is discussing your appearance with another (male?) colleague.

Thats not acceptable and personally I’d be approaching either him, his manager or HR.

Take it as a compliment.

CALM DOWN!!

Has no-one on here ever looked at a bloke and said to a friend “OMG he’s hot/lush/<insert term of choice>”? Not ever?

Honestly the way in which people get worked up about these things,

The fact that we now have messaging etc means that what you say can potentially be seen by the person you’ve said it about, but anyone who says they’ve never made a comment about someone they’ve found attractive is lying.

It was meant to be a compliment, a bit sleazy but I’d be inclined to just ignore it TBH. Can any Teams user honestly say they haven’t sent a message that is a bit inappropriate (not about someone’s appearance, just generally) and would have been mortified if it had gone to the wrong person (which is easily done!)

That’s gross OP. I’m assuming it’s from a male colleague? I’d discuss with your line manager and ask that the chat logs are viewed. That kind of discussion is completely inappropriate for a workplace.

I'd drop him a message just to say that you won't be wearing leggings again. That'll really make him sweat 😓 .

It's not appropriate for a work chat.

However, it might not have been about you - how do you know he was talking about yesterday's meeting with whoever it was - they could have been talking about some occasion outside work.

I say that to reassure you, not to detract from the inappropriateness of the comment.

And you of course have never said anything about anyone ever? Riiight.

Of course it’s sexist - it’s objectifying her. He wouldn’t have said the same about a man.

And I agree with reporting it and expecting chat logs to be reviewed. It’s not acceptable and employers are required to take reasonable steps to prevent sexual harassment.

Sounds like you are humble-bragging OP.

Do the bend and snap. Then you'll know 🤣

I would take it as a compliment and be secretly happy he thinks I look hot in my leggings, but then I'm in my forties with a saggy ass!
This wouldn't bother me, only you know yourself how you really feel.

What on earth does that mean?!