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Are you raising a child with dual heritage? Sense check needed.

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PoliteSquid · 02/10/2025 19:59

I don’t know how to ask this without sounding really patronising, but please educate me.
Someone in my fitness class was talking about her DD who is 6. They had been to a World Cup rugby match. Her DD noticed the flags and asked if they were there for the rugby. Her mum said they were there because some people don’t like black and brown people like her DD!!!! The mum is white, so I guess the bio dad must be black or Asian.
Is that the kind of conversations people are having to have with their very young kids? It has shocked me. Maybe I’m out of touch even more because my kids are young adults so I’ve forgotten how much primary school age kids know.

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Strawberryorangejuice · 03/10/2025 14:16

My children aren't dual heritage. We are all white but I've had the conversation with them. It's confusing because when I see the flag on the roundabout (one local has also recently had a Swastika added) I have to explain it's not acceptable, however the flag at Beavers is!

Dliplop · 03/10/2025 14:28

Themedat · 02/10/2025 23:58

What?! This has floored me with confusion. I am white so clearly I just don’t get it as I would never say that to a 6 year old! If it was undeniable racism then fair enough you have to address it but why would you when it’s quite easily deniable.

We have a couple of mixed race young family members and they are being bought up in a ‘white’ cultural setting (fathers not on scene). And now I am thinking are we supposed to be saying this?! I don’t think I could. That is crazy.

The Canada flag was coopted earlier for this so yes, we’ve been having those conversations a lot. Luckily the flag is mostly ours again. Yes our family had faced racism from childhood. More explicit than my childhood.

So yes, the kids need to know people with the flag up are not safe. And the adults who are only against illegal migration need to be aware they’re being used by Nazis

nopenotplaying · 03/10/2025 18:27

lickycat · 03/10/2025 13:52

The raise the flag campaign was founded by former EDL, NF, Britain First. It’s got far right fascism and white supremacy written all over it, stepping back into the ugly racism of the 1980s. It’s really depressing to see some white people sucked into thinking this is a nice campaign about unity and ‘British Values’ and it’s abhorrent the way the campaign is making our British black and brown people feel (not to mention the migrants and refugees living here).

Thank you, and others for explanation. We’ve had a flag pole since the diamond jubilee (although it’s currently down due to the weather). We fly the Union Jack. I do have St George’s but won’t be flying it after reading this thread. Love to all your children facing this x

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