Just reading about another celebrity ‘coming out’ as non binary, saying ‘there’s days when I feel more masculine, and days when I feel more feminine’. I’m putting money on the fact that they are never in a position where the world treats them absolutely as one of those genders, and all the shit that comes with it.
I am a woman who has always felt masculine.
But even if I feel this way, as a single parent, school will always call me. School will always expect me to deliver clean, tidy, organised children on time. The council/ social services/ society expected me to pick up the pieces when their dad left. No one from their side has offered me respite/ support or even acknowledgement. In the same way, their dad has never been punished or held accountable to do anything or help at all. The NHS expected me to prioritise the health and well-being of the foetus I was carrying and did nothing to check or impose the same restrictions on the father of the child. No employers will underpay or make judgements about a man’s ability to not get pregnant at an inconvenient time or take too much time off for caring responsibilities.
So it all means jack shit. I could come out as non binary tomorrow and not one of the above named societal expectations would change.