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Labour are lifting the 2 child benefit cap

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PuppyKeep · 30/09/2025 18:43

AIBU that this is a terrible decision?

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comoatoupeira · 30/09/2025 22:12

winewolfhowls · 30/09/2025 22:03

A much better idea would be to bring back and expand early start centres

agree.
and ban gambling

ToodleP1P · 30/09/2025 22:12

comoatoupeira · 30/09/2025 22:10

Do benefits really lift people out of poverty?

Wait, what?
My benefits means I can eat, pay bills and be housed.

ProcrastinatorsAnonymous · 30/09/2025 22:12

Bumblebee72 · 30/09/2025 22:09

We need government policy that will reshape who has children. Too often those who can afford it aren't having enough and those who can't afford it are having too many.

Affordable childcare flexible working...

Bumblebee72 · 30/09/2025 22:13

ToodleP1P · 30/09/2025 22:09

That sounds a bit like eugenics.

No its economics. Children born in poverty have worse outcomes. It is simple personal responsibility not gene testing.

Fidgetybit · 30/09/2025 22:13

clipboardz · 30/09/2025 22:02

Hahahaha! This comment wins the thread!

I wish we could give out awards 😆

Which comment?

clipboardz · 30/09/2025 22:13

Because you are ignoring the huge amount of immigrants coming to UK every year. They take up space and need accommodation too

With falling birth rates immigration is the prop hence why all the govs have relied on it.

ToodleP1P · 30/09/2025 22:14

Bumblebee72 · 30/09/2025 22:13

No its economics. Children born in poverty have worse outcomes. It is simple personal responsibility not gene testing.

So no child is born in poverty... just born to well off people who would not want their kids to be cleaners, carers etc..

FlyMeSomewhere · 30/09/2025 22:14

pinkpopcorn123 · 30/09/2025 21:47

Another labour policy, I completely disagree with. Why create an environment encouraging people to have more children they can’t afford. Surely, it’s better to have policies that support children who are already born (and their families). One of the biggest barriers to returning to work (and therefore lower household income) for many women is crippling childcare prices. Why not provide support there? Subsidize after school clubs, holiday clubs etc

Exactly this! In the days before the benefit cap it lead to far too many girls coming out of school and into pregnancy and council accommodation, those women have kid after kid because the system pays more money, they can't be pushed into work because the childcare bill alone makes it impractical and by the time all the kids are old enough not to need childcare, these women have had decades unemployed, no skills or work experience and pretty much unemployable.
This is a truth that people hate to hear though.

Viviennemary · 30/09/2025 22:14

Another reason not to vote Labour. I'm not subsidising other folks decision to expand their families.

LakieLady · 30/09/2025 22:14

Athreedoorwardrobe · 30/09/2025 18:46

The cap was always horrific. As someone who has fallen pregnant twice whilst on contraception absolutely no one should feel pressured to abortion because they'll be unable to feed the child. In this modern era in a wealthy western country, it's disgusting.
And the cap just entrenches poverty. As higher birthrate are linked to poverty. It makes the issues worse. Because those kids don't even stand a chance.

Second post nails it.

It was a disgraceful idea and caused no end of hardship.

EasternStandard · 30/09/2025 22:14

ThatDreamyLemonBiscuit · 30/09/2025 22:11

Of course we should be thinking about what technology will mean for jobs, in the future, but that does not mean that population collapse isn't an existential societal problem.

People talk about workers for tax. If they’re not working then that drops. Perhaps people should be concerned about how to ensure we get tax from AI related activity.

PigletJohn · 30/09/2025 22:15

I can't see an advantage in keeping children in poverty as a punishment to their parents.

@Viviennemary

apart from pleasing you, what is the advantage?

CrispieCake · 30/09/2025 22:15

ThatDreamyLemonBiscuit · 30/09/2025 21:54

The fertility crisis.

People simply arent having enough children and, unless we can find some way to completely overhaul the welfare state, its an economic time bomb.

South Korea and Japan are already on the precipice of societal collapse, and we're not that far behind.

This. There's this odd idea many people have that parents should bear the entire cost of having kids and should never expect other people to pay for their kids because children are a 'choice'.

True, having kids is a choice, but it's one we need a certain proportion of the population to make otherwise we're on the edge of a rather bleak precipice.

Society needs children. Therefore, society needs to bear a sufficient proportion of the costs associated with children that large numbers of people don't give up having them. At the moment, parenting is an increasingly unattractive proposition and more and more people are choosing to give it a miss.

This is not to say that everyone should have children or that we should judge people who choose not to have them. Parenthood is not for everyone. But we need some people to have kids. It's a bit like doctors. I've never wanted to be a doctor and would make a terrible one, but even so, it's pretty self-evident that any society needs doctors and financially supporting their education and training makes sense.

ThatDreamyLemonBiscuit · 30/09/2025 22:16

ToodleP1P · 30/09/2025 22:09

That sounds a bit like eugenics.

It touches on something relevant.

To get ahead in your career (and financially) having multiple children is just about the worst thing you can do.

Having ~2 children is a societal good, but it comes at a significant economic cost.

As a society, we're basically demonizing having kids.

clipboardz · 30/09/2025 22:17

Perhaps people should be concerned about how to ensure we get tax from AI related activity.

I've never seen this detailed have you @EasternStandard?

Tech entrepreneurs aren't really known for their generous nature.

Nayyercheekyfeckers · 30/09/2025 22:17

mumofoneAloneandwell · 30/09/2025 19:19

They needed to lean left to claw back support from Reform, so a good idea in that sense

Also thought the cap was cruel so glad its going

Leaning left will only encourage an even greater swing to the right. What the country actually needs is a centrist party right now.

ThatDreamyLemonBiscuit · 30/09/2025 22:17

EasternStandard · 30/09/2025 22:14

People talk about workers for tax. If they’re not working then that drops. Perhaps people should be concerned about how to ensure we get tax from AI related activity.

And if (a big if) we solve the tax burden issue - great, we've saved the state pension.

But we're still heading towards societal collapse.

LidlAmaretto · 30/09/2025 22:18

PigletJohn · 30/09/2025 22:15

I can't see an advantage in keeping children in poverty as a punishment to their parents.

@Viviennemary

apart from pleasing you, what is the advantage?

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Their parents are keeping them in poverty by having more children they can't afford. That m I need should be spent directly on the children- breakfast clubs, holiday clubs, surestart centres etc. Not giving people money to have more children when they can't adequately provide for the ones they have.

FlyMeSomewhere · 30/09/2025 22:18

cadburyegg · 30/09/2025 22:02

Lots of people on this thread seem to think only non working parents claim UC which is simply not the case.

I think the cap should be lifted from 2 to 3 children. 3 children is not an absurd amount of children to have. Someone could have made the choice to have 3 children whilst being able to afford it only for their circumstances to change some time later.

Most of us know that and understand working low income families having a top up but those families will maybe have one or two kids, the bigger burden is the mother sat on benefits for life with 8 kids and an invisible dad!

clipboardz · 30/09/2025 22:19

As a society, we're basically demonizing having kids.

For years the message has been don't have dc if you can't afford them, it got through.

Bumblebee72 · 30/09/2025 22:19

ToodleP1P · 30/09/2025 22:14

So no child is born in poverty... just born to well off people who would not want their kids to be cleaners, carers etc..

How rude. Are you honestly saying that only children born in poverty can be cleaners and carers? That's depressing. People on low income need to be encouraged to have 1 or 2 children, those on higher income 2-3. That will reshape the need for the state to constantly trying to dig children out of the poverty that their parent put them into. Having children is a responsibility not a right.

PigletJohn · 30/09/2025 22:20

LidlAmaretto · 30/09/2025 22:18

Their parents are keeping them in poverty by having more children they can't afford. That m I need should be spent directly on the children- breakfast clubs, holiday clubs, surestart centres etc. Not giving people money to have more children when they can't adequately provide for the ones they have.

Please tell me what the advantage is, in keeping children in poverty.

clipboardz · 30/09/2025 22:20

And many of us realise how competitive the world is so invest more into our dc which is why we have fewer of them. And of course some can't be bothered with it at all.

CJsGoldfish · 30/09/2025 22:20

TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 30/09/2025 19:04

Are you saying anyone with more than two children are shitty parents?

Anyone who decides to have another baby whilst being unable to actually support them isn't exactly a stellar parent 🤷‍♀️
Nor is someone so irresponsible the role model a child deserves to have.

This isn't 'lifting' anyone out of poverty, it just further solidifies the entitlement of someone who doesn't have to actually DO anything to be 'taken care of' and ensures the sense of entitlement continues through to their children.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 30/09/2025 22:20

Nayyercheekyfeckers · 30/09/2025 22:17

Leaning left will only encourage an even greater swing to the right. What the country actually needs is a centrist party right now.

I completely disagree

Appearing to do something about the cost of a food shop for example would really grab reform voters

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