Two adults cornered and scolded my 7yo

[Rosie5832]

At a classmate’s birthday party, my child was cornered by the parents of another classmate. They accused him of bullying their son and told him to stop it. He said he wasn’t doing that and they kept on shouting at him that he was.
After this, he was very upset and was crying inconsolably.
Another parent - the mum of the birthday child - went to his assistance and messaged me telling me to return to the party as my son needed me, and that she couldn’t settle him at all (I had left for an hour). While she was messaging me, these two parents came over to her and told her my son was a bully - he was right there and still crying. She told them to back off. When I arrived, they rushed straight over to me and told me that my son was bullying their son etc. No acknowledgment from them that they had cornered him alone and shouted at him. It was only later at home that he told me what had happened, I called the other mum and she confirmed it, describing the way they approached me as an ‘ambush’. She said the whole party turned into a ‘sh*tshow’ because of the way these parents were behaving, and all the other parents - and probably some of the kids - could see what had happened.
I’m in shock over this. I’m meeting with the school teacher today to alert her to this incident and to make sure my son is kept safe in school.
I want to say something to these parents about their behaviour. Imo they were completely out of line, and all the other mums I’ve spoken to since agree that you never confront a child alone like that, regardless of what issue you have with them.
On the way in to school this morning, my son stopped dead just before the door and said, “why didn’t you stay at the party?”. He was clearly thinking about the whole incident and probably concerned that he would encounter these parents at the school.
Has anyone any experience of this kind of behaviour from other parents?

No, just a clueless one who really ought to RTFT, or at the very least all the OP's posts, before leaping to a completely erroneous conclusion.

I hope your son is ok? Shame on those parents at the party for doing it, shame on the others for standing by and allowing it to happen!
They clearly are bullies themselves!! I would've shown the parents what happens when you corner one of my littles after the party, see how they like it

This. Perhaps they just snapped after one incident too many.

RTFT.

Little lord font? Times New Roman or Arial? Did you perhaps mean Little Lord Fauntleroy?

In any case, your spiteful post is misplaced, as the OP has explained that the adults’ appalling behaviour was due to a misunderstanding. Her child isn’t a bully, based on the information she provided in subsequent posts.

I always wonder whether anyone who uses Little Lord Fauntleroy as an example of sheltered brat has actually read the book.

Oh love. Read the fucking thread.

You really make yourself look like a tit if you respond to the op without bothering to even read any of their updates.

well both tbh
But the PP had intimated that the mother should 'always believe what her child says'. Absolutely not true. Children are renowned for leaving details out to paint themselves in a better light. It's part of their charm!

Not sure how this would apply only to the OP's child and not the other, given that you yourself say "well both tbh". The bullies made a mistake in believing what their child said, fer sher. The OP seems not to have done, but checked her child's story just to make certain.

Turns out the bullied child was the OP's (bullied by the nasty adults at the party) and the other is a silly little boy, or possibly a little boy who, bullied by the parents who have revealed themselves to all as being bullies, told a porky to turn away their wrath from himself and onto someone else.

It was not the child that was cornered party. He was there as a guest

I’d make a report tp the police about what happened at the party. What they did was abosolutely not ok.

OP has already talked to the teacher. There have been no incidents of bullying or any indication of the two boys not getting on.

At least read the OP's updates before posting.

Fair play for the admission - I just get so annoyed when I see all the messages on here calling a 7 year old names or jus presuming he’s a bull based on virtually nothing.

Obviously not. It would be a quick chat "that's a silly thing to say.even as a joke," in any school I've taught.

Yes, exactly.
The behaviour of these two - as witnessed by other parents - will probably impact the practice of dropping our kids off to classmate parties. IMO what they've done is seriously undermine the tacit expectations; that we care for each other's kids, create a safe environment for them, treat them fairly, comfort them if they are upset or injured, treat them with dignity, resolve conflicts in a calm, caring, age appropriate way and report any relevant information to the parents - pretty standard stuff for parties, playdates etc. They did the opposite of all of those things, and also created a foul atmosphere. The other children witnessed the upset and accusations. When I arrived to get collect my son the other day, there was a deathly silence - more than twelve 7 year olds not making a sound and parents asking me if I was okay - that was eerie. [I should say, the bday girl's mum handled it perfectly under the circumstances.]
It's up to each parent to figure out how to keep their kids safe, it's not my place to exclude anyone.

Only if the school is run by a complete idiot.

Indeed. A death threat… ffs 🤦🏻‍♀️

Yes, there are not enough facts here op.

Definitely it sounds like a strong reaction from them, but its hard to say without hearing what they think happened. ETA sorry op, I hadn't seen your updates - hadn't realised there were any. Yes, it's way ott for saying you're dead.

I don't have a dog in this fight. I invite you to read up on school policies yourself. You may be in for a surprise.

If a school's policy is to kick up a rumpus because one seven year old says something quite ordinary to another seven year old, not in the least "in anger" but as a comment on a situation, and nobody at the time thinks anything wrong about it, that school's staff are going to be going mad, before resigning in droves and looking for somewhere less given to making mountains out of molehills and traumatising all the pupils until they don't dare to speak to each other at all.

And if such silliness is normal school policy, I think it is indeed time all parents read up on it and then raised complaints about it.

You are lucky you have had good responses from other parents. Ours was mixed. 2 dad's stepped in to protect ds, for which i am eternally grateful. A number of other parents expressed sympathy after. A surprising number attempted to remain neutral. I found that mind blowing and have been unable to havr any sort of relationship with those parents subsequently

Yes, I believe that if parents were unhappy with a school policy, they should follow the school's grievance policy and make their case to the school, governors, or EFSA

If your son was bullying their done, why would he invite him yo the party or was it not those parents?

Read the thread !! The parents who cornered OP’s son were not the parents who were giving the party. And the extent of the ‘bullying’ was OP’s son saying ‘you’re dead’ to their son. Which is a pretty standard thing for kids of this age.