Why are women much nicer than men?

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Last night my OH snapped at me for something trivial and hurt my feelings. I find this totally disrespectful and I would never do that to him. This was about 10 hours ago and I'm still upset. I read on this site regularly about men who treat women appallingly. For example, cheating on them, physically abusing them, not helping with child care/household tasks, staying out all night, getting drunk, taking drugs etc. The list goes on. I appreciate there's some horrible women out there as well, but I think they're in the minority. I also appreciate that not all men are like this. Why do the ones I've described act like this? Is it the testosterone? Is it because they can get away with it? Is it because some women are reliant on them financially? I think as a species women are definitely nicer than men and don't disrespect them in the same way. Not really sure this is an AIBU but just wanted opinions.

No, you don't. You assume it isn't, but you can't know.

Some are, some arent. If I had to choose between a woman boss or a man boss, it would probably be a man. Make of that what you will.

My maternal Grandad was a gambling addict that stole from my sweet, kind Nan. My paternal Grandad was an alcoholic that used to hit my Nan. My Dad was financially and emotionally abusive to my Mum (she did eventually leave) At 13 I was plied with alcohol and at the very least sexually assaulted whilst unconscious. The male police officer that investigated called me a ‘slag’ and blamed me for being at a party. At 17 I was asked on a date where the man sexually assaulted me (mobile phones weren’t mainstream) and I had to play nice in order for him to take me home because I didn’t know where I was and it turned out he was married with a very small child. At 18 I met a man that appeared to be a good egg, he most likely cheated on me throughout our relationship of 13 years (never admitted to it) but I caught an STD despite having had sex with no one else for 13 years. He joined dating websites, went to strip clubs and lied about it, left me for boys’ weekends away when I had just given birth. I left him because I didn’t want that and rebuilt my life. I met a narcissist that financially abused me, I got rid of him. My best friend’s husband of 20 years made a pass at me about 6 months ago. I have never met a man that has added any value to my life. I have a strong mistrust and dislike of men, I never have said all men but I am allowed my opinion and it doesn’t need responding to on a forum where opinions are being sought. But yes I suppose I’m the common denominator.

Not one single woman has hurt or abused me. I believe women are better in every single way.

I realise it’s a massive generalisation op but I’m afraid I agree with you.

The only people who ever deliberately humiliated me, belittled me, or abused me physically were women.

Why are women nicer?

Oestrogen.

When that fucker starts depleting other people know about it. Believe.

There are SOME men around who are nicer than women. And I say this as someone who has a pretty low opinion of men in general. I have a mobility disability and one time I have noticed that women are more unpleasant than men is when it comes to getting on public transport. I have noticed that the majority of times I have had someone push in front of me to get on a bus,it is a woman.

Agree! I have noticed that since going through the menopause I am much less inclined to be a 'people pleaser'.

> I read on this site regularly about men who treat women appallingly

Keep in mind this site is heavily used by women having a moan about their partner. I often browse the threads when I'm having trouble sleeping, and I can't remember a woman ever posting a thread simply to praise their partner.

Yes, agree that women are generally nicer. They're more emotionally intelligent, better at making conversation, and generally don't do things just to impress others (which is why a lot of men behave the way that they do). And this is coming from a man... :)

My exP who split up with me in the summer has been as nice as pie lately. Stupidly because I was lonely I have gone along with it. Days out, dates, hugs, kisses, physical affection....all making me think "maybe". Oh and then the other evening I find out that he has invited a woman from back home to his for Christmas. Someone he has had a sexual past with, and there's nowhere for her to sleep other than in his bed. This from the man who after five years with me decided he didn't want to be in a relationship after all. "Is this a problem?" Damn right it's a problem.

I don't know a single woman who would be so cruel and lacking in empathy to someone they had been in a relationship for five years, who they professed to still care about.