Why are women much nicer than men?

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Last night my OH snapped at me for something trivial and hurt my feelings. I find this totally disrespectful and I would never do that to him. This was about 10 hours ago and I'm still upset. I read on this site regularly about men who treat women appallingly. For example, cheating on them, physically abusing them, not helping with child care/household tasks, staying out all night, getting drunk, taking drugs etc. The list goes on. I appreciate there's some horrible women out there as well, but I think they're in the minority. I also appreciate that not all men are like this. Why do the ones I've described act like this? Is it the testosterone? Is it because they can get away with it? Is it because some women are reliant on them financially? I think as a species women are definitely nicer than men and don't disrespect them in the same way. Not really sure this is an AIBU but just wanted opinions.

No, generally we really are. We tend not to start as many fights, let alone wars. We don't kill anywhere near as many spouses, parents or strangers. We rarely sexually abuse minors or other adults. We are less obsessed with power at all costs. We tend not to abandon our children when domestic life gets boring.

We may be bitchy, ostracise people, scream at family, which is definitely a form of abuse, but generally we don't terrorise, brutalise and end lives for our own kicks nearly as often as men. No comparison.

Sure. Here:

Dishwater · Today 10:12
"[...]I never hear a man complain that his wife snapped at him! [...] I’m in a relationship by the way but I genuinely think they’re almost all dirt"

Yep, I'd agree with your analysis here.

I've had both. The best bosses by far were women - kind, thoughtful, incredibly hard-working, superb ethic and care for staff and clients. The worst by far was also a woman. The men were usually lazy, complacent and promoted way above their ability.

The fact that you asked this question on this forum!! You're painting with a broad brush

Perhaps query it with the author.

You’ve never snapped at your husband for something trivial??? Really? Fuck me. You should try it. It’s good for the soul.

The thread had moved on a bit and I was querying the author of claim that I was being unnecessarily unkind. Which was you.

So what do you think - is it more unkind to suggest someone's own behaviour may have played a part in the failures of their relationships, or to use a dehumanizing and offensive term about a whole class of people?

Excuse me?? This is utterly bizarre!

I think I've raised my voice two or three times in two decades and shouted once. But I was sorely provoked...

Women aren’t ’better’ than men. You’re comparing based on comments made on a site targeting women so your answers aren’t reflective of society.

How would you know it isn't you? You are hardly the most objective observer. There's a saying that if one day you meet an asshole, then you met an asshole. If you meet 20 assholes, then you're the asshole.

Are they? Some women are awful as well.

It’s not me. I know it’s not me.

Women are less violent, they do more voluntary work, they do more charity work, they're better at keeping in touch, they're better at looking out for the vulnerable, they're more interested in others generally. Women tend not to drive around loudly revving engines, or race each other up and down dual carriageways, not caring that they're disturbing people. Women don't tend to show off to their mates when driving, not caring that their speed and recklessness could kill people.

Seem like nicer people from where I'm standing.

I don't think either sex is nicer. I have met lovely and nasty people of both sexes. Bar my current line manager - who is a lovely lady - I've preferred my male line managers.

However, I do find female drivers are not patient and considerate on the road.

I hope you have support irl and within the community if necessary.
Hope you get it resolved.👍

I have known men and boys who could give
the most bitchy, manipulative two faced women a serious run for their money.

'Why are women much nicer than men?'

They're not. Hope that helps.

When we look at crime, violence, rape, pedophalia, drugs, sex trafficking etc these are mostly done by men. Men are more likely to walk out on their kids than women. Plenty of horrible women out there (& female criminals) but if I'm walking out late at night it's not women I'm wary of.

That's really kind of you.

You're welcome.
Everyone is entitled to live in peace.

also see "If you can't take me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best".

Or the OP is the one that everyone avoids unless absolutely necessary.

Big stereotype
I know men who are much more cheerful and friendly than their wives.

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