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5 days in the office - rant!!!

472 replies

DonnyDoris · 25/09/2025 09:22

My company mandated 5 days in the office a couple of months ago, which in principle I have no issues with. However, my commute is just over an hour on motorways that have long term roadworks, so massively tedious and today I have no meetings so absolutely no reason to be here other than presenteeism. Could have got so much more done and also all my housework if I could've worked from home 😖Just needed to get that off my chest!!!!

OP posts:
Abitlosttoday · 26/09/2025 19:11

TheCurious0range · 25/09/2025 09:59

If you can do your housework while you're working you're not giving your job 100% of your attention while your employer is paying you to do so. This is why employers are moving away from remote working

I understand your point of view here. However, I think sometimes the shift of focus to something practical and mindless (putting out washing, unloading a dishwasher) can help your brain find news ways to sort something out. My job is mainly creative though, so maybe that's not the case where there's just a set volume of similar tasks to work through. I also find ideas and solutions surfacing when I work out at home. When I was fully office based, I spent time wandering and chatting to colleagues. I can't sit for 8 hours and generate creative thinking. It doesn't work.

RufustheFactuaIReindeer · 26/09/2025 19:23

Actually i have just read the opening post again, the OP at no time said that she did housework in office hours

i thought that was the case but a number of posters have accused her of doing housework during working hours that I thought id been mistaken

Lispbon · 26/09/2025 19:24

I think OP’s strike through of “doing the housework” hadn’t helped her here.

RufustheFactuaIReindeer · 26/09/2025 19:29

Lispbon · 26/09/2025 19:24

I think OP’s strike through of “doing the housework” hadn’t helped her here.

No

its a lesson to us all, don’t say anything even vaguely flippant cos no one will let it lie….

Wexone · 26/09/2025 22:17

StinkyCheeseMoose · 26/09/2025 18:27

This thread started with an OP who used to be happy when she was working from home and doing all her housework during working hours.

She is no longer happy, because her employer has now decided - for reasons she cannot understand - that it's in the best interests of the business that she and her colleagues work from work instead.

None of us can know for certain why OP's employer made this decision, but unless OP and her colleagues have a contractual right to work from home, the employer is within their rights to insist they work from work.

I doubt they have made this decision without a good reason, but OP has herself given us a possible clue as to what the reason might be.

If she (and maybe her colleagues) think doing all their housework in company time is OK, the employer might be justified in wanting to monitor them.

If you can work from home and you enjoy working from home, FFS don't abuse the privilege.

where in her post does she say she does housework during working hours. 19 pages in and numourse people have siad that as you have no commute time you have more time to do housework hobbies etc. doesn't sound like it's being abused at all. it's not a privilege it's a different way of working. we are not all robots

CarefullyCuratedFurniture · 26/09/2025 22:35

WFH is pretty awful though - I hate it. Its cold, lonely, and there's nothing to stop me eating all the biscuits. I probably have a day at home every couple of months if I have a particular piece of work to finish, and inevitably I come back to the office to a ton of things that I have to sort out. I am far more productive in the office!

SwingTheMonkey · 26/09/2025 23:49

CarefullyCuratedFurniture · 26/09/2025 22:35

WFH is pretty awful though - I hate it. Its cold, lonely, and there's nothing to stop me eating all the biscuits. I probably have a day at home every couple of months if I have a particular piece of work to finish, and inevitably I come back to the office to a ton of things that I have to sort out. I am far more productive in the office!

You must realise you’re in the minority preferring to work in the office every day though?

CantHaveTooMuchChocolate · 27/09/2025 07:03

Untailored · 25/09/2025 11:15

Well, I’m sure the OP is very diligent about only doing her housework in the commuting times, short breaks and lunch hour and is very careful about actually working the same number of minutes as she would in her office but unfortunately not everyone is that conscientious and as it’s difficult for employers to distinguish between the two groups of employees, the easy solution is to have one rule for everyone.

I don’t agree at all, employers/managers really should be monitoring productivity/performance, rather than just presenteeism otherwise they’re simply not doing their job properly. That should be the case whether 100% office or WFH.

LlynTegid · 27/09/2025 07:05

MadisonMarieParksValetta · 25/09/2025 14:19

People get soooo angry on here when people who wfh dare leave their desk!

I wfh and I've watched 2 episodes of MAFS today 😁 seethe away.

Your choice of programme to watch I would criticise not wfh.

What I think is wrong is changing now when effectively wfh in its current way is at least three years old. How poor a manager are you if it takes three years to form an opinion about work productivity and whether to continue with wfh. Seems in the OPs case that it is a poor manager or director wanting to be seen doing something about poor performing team members instead of dealing with them directly.

CantHaveTooMuchChocolate · 27/09/2025 07:07

NotMyNigelFarage · 25/09/2025 20:51

I feel it's probably not great for one's health either if you only walk from bed to the kitchen table, then to the sofa when done. It's unsurprising there are so many porky professionals!

Edited

I don’t think it’s great for one’s health being stuck sitting on a two hour daily commute, instead of being able to spend that time in the gym.

CarefullyCuratedFurniture · 27/09/2025 07:59

SwingTheMonkey · 26/09/2025 23:49

You must realise you’re in the minority preferring to work in the office every day though?

It's not really about choice to be fair. I work in an industry where noone works from home, except for a few admin people with reasonable adjustments, so it's not a thing for us.

I included my own experience for balance!

Spudding · 27/09/2025 11:42

Some managers do think people will shirk when out of the office. Weirdly however, they trust those same people to wfh and deliver frequent additional work out of official hours.

DonnyDoris · 27/09/2025 14:24

Plastictreees · 26/09/2025 16:47

What is even happening on this thread 😂😂😂😂

I know right!! Didn't think it would become such a controversy that I just wanted a moan about how on random Thursday I didn't really feel like sitting in the traffic just so I could be seen in the office but was obliged to do so anyway!!

OP posts:
DonnyDoris · 27/09/2025 14:28

StinkyCheeseMoose · 26/09/2025 18:27

This thread started with an OP who used to be happy when she was working from home and doing all her housework during working hours.

She is no longer happy, because her employer has now decided - for reasons she cannot understand - that it's in the best interests of the business that she and her colleagues work from work instead.

None of us can know for certain why OP's employer made this decision, but unless OP and her colleagues have a contractual right to work from home, the employer is within their rights to insist they work from work.

I doubt they have made this decision without a good reason, but OP has herself given us a possible clue as to what the reason might be.

If she (and maybe her colleagues) think doing all their housework in company time is OK, the employer might be justified in wanting to monitor them.

If you can work from home and you enjoy working from home, FFS don't abuse the privilege.

This thread started with an OP who used to be happy when she was working from home and doing all her housework during working hours.

At no pint in the original op or anywhere else have I said - or even intimated - i would be doing my housework during my working hours. I said, if I didn't have to commute for 3 hours a day I would be able to get all my housework done. You just assumed - and you know what that does!!

OP posts:
SwingTheMonkey · 27/09/2025 15:15

Lots of employers are happy to have their employees doing non work related bits and pieces during the day, alongside work. Because they know the work still gets done. That seems to be something that lots of posters can’t get their heads around though. The idea of working for an employer who wants you to be sitting at your work station every second of the day from 9-5.30 makes me shudder. So unnecessary. My husband often mows the grass whilst he’s on a teams call. He’s getting some exercise whilst listening to the call - what’s the issue with that?

AzureCats · 27/09/2025 15:16

NatalieW1907 · 25/09/2025 22:36

Azure cats so you worked in the workhouse too, what a daft comment. Just my view like that was yours. Too near the truth you probably wfh too.

I'm unemployed and loving the freedom actually. I rescue animals for no payment whatsoever. My workhouse joke alludes to your username having the year 1907 in it.

JWeegie · 27/09/2025 15:18

My guess it's JPMC.

NatalieW1907 · 27/09/2025 17:20

JPMC????

Valeriekat · 27/09/2025 19:14

DonnyDoris · 25/09/2025 10:22

I didn't actually say when exactly I would be doing my housework - you just assumed

You said that you multitasked so the inference was that you did your housework when you were also (supposed to be) working.

Wexone · 27/09/2025 20:22

Valeriekat · 27/09/2025 19:14

You said that you multitasked so the inference was that you did your housework when you were also (supposed to be) working.

please show where exactly ?

LizzyEm · 28/09/2025 20:40

NatalieW1907 · 27/09/2025 17:20

JPMC????

JP Morgan Chase

Rounder888 · 28/09/2025 21:18

TheCurious0range · 25/09/2025 09:59

If you can do your housework while you're working you're not giving your job 100% of your attention while your employer is paying you to do so. This is why employers are moving away from remote working

Do you think we concentrate for 100% in the office either 😂 people coming over for a chat, making a drink I don’t really want/need, randomly opening spreadsheets etc. no job should mean you have to concentrate for 100% of an 8 hour day in my opinion

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