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5 days in the office - rant!!!

472 replies

DonnyDoris · 25/09/2025 09:22

My company mandated 5 days in the office a couple of months ago, which in principle I have no issues with. However, my commute is just over an hour on motorways that have long term roadworks, so massively tedious and today I have no meetings so absolutely no reason to be here other than presenteeism. Could have got so much more done and also all my housework if I could've worked from home 😖Just needed to get that off my chest!!!!

OP posts:
AzureCats · 25/09/2025 22:12

Oh come now, everyone go easy on @NatalieW1907 the workhouse place was very different when she was born 118 years ago after all!

SwingTheMonkey · 25/09/2025 22:17

AzureCats · 25/09/2025 22:12

Oh come now, everyone go easy on @NatalieW1907 the workhouse place was very different when she was born 118 years ago after all!

Ffs. This is why I miss the laughing response!

DonnyDoris · 25/09/2025 22:18

Empress13 · 25/09/2025 17:18

Your comment re housework has backfired on you OP . Think you may have had different responses had you not mentioned it just saying

Not entirely sure that's the case - given that many people appear to understand the lack of commute / lunchbreak in the home allows for housework rather than being stuck in a car on the M62 - just saying

OP posts:
NatalieW1907 · 25/09/2025 22:33

Honestly can no one air their views on here without being bogged down with sarcastic comments. I take it these comments are coming from people who wfh.

NatalieW1907 · 25/09/2025 22:36

Azure cats so you worked in the workhouse too, what a daft comment. Just my view like that was yours. Too near the truth you probably wfh too.

NatalieW1907 · 25/09/2025 22:37

It wasn't me who originally mentioned cleaning up then it was crossed out.

NotMyNigelFarage · 25/09/2025 23:28

User21548967 · 25/09/2025 21:10

Very often it’s what they would like but it absolutely is not necessary. I’m aware of a large corporate company who stipulated employees had to return to work inhouse. The employees said no. The company stood firm. So did the employees ( The company then said three days. The employees went to the union. They said no. It’s now one day a week from one of a number of office hubs.

Employees have to be firm and say no to unnecessary requests.

This is the best case scenario but most people were doing it before covid. It's much harder if it's in your contract.

NotMyNigelFarage · 25/09/2025 23:30

Home shirkers 🤣

Spudding · 25/09/2025 23:47

Bambamhoohoo · 25/09/2025 12:47

Haha every where I’ve worked no one gives a shit about socially acceptable and only what is corporately acceptable and you’d get a short shrift phoning in sick “healthy but contagious” and it would result in people needing higher levels of sick leave (i reckon I’d need to take at least another 10 days a year for colds that people very commonly work through) but maybe in your company they don’t care whether the work gets done or not.

I saw a consultant surgeon this morning who was sniffing and coughing away. I Wonder what would happen if he’d phoned in and said “i could do all these consulates today but I do have a cold someone might catch so I’ll stay at home for the week” 🤨

I wish patients were given the choice as to whether they’d rather postpone the appointment than have someone coughing and spluttering over them.

materialgworl · 26/09/2025 06:02

MinnieMountain · 25/09/2025 10:27

You said “multitasking” OP. That’s doing more than one thing at the same time.

Well duh, you can be watching a training video, a town hall, a webinar while walking on the walking pad with a standing desk above you. You can cut vegetables, peel potatoes while doing all these things

wfh means a 1 minute commute walking 12 steps downstairs into the home office

while on a work phone call, you can dust the blinds, sort sofa cushions and put the bin out.

Empress13 · 26/09/2025 06:27

DonnyDoris · 25/09/2025 22:18

Not entirely sure that's the case - given that many people appear to understand the lack of commute / lunchbreak in the home allows for housework rather than being stuck in a car on the M62 - just saying

Oh c’mon you crossed out the phrase ‘getting my housework done’ as if to say you could be doing that whilst working at the same time nowhere did you state I could get my housework done instead of having the trouble of the commute or doing it in my lunch break. we are not stupid we know what you meant.

Twinsmamma · 26/09/2025 06:29

DonnyDoris · 25/09/2025 22:18

Not entirely sure that's the case - given that many people appear to understand the lack of commute / lunchbreak in the home allows for housework rather than being stuck in a car on the M62 - just saying

Anyone who says they don’t get their washing done whilst WFH are either lying or massively missing a trick 🤣 I go into the office 3 days a week and my washing machine is on all day on my wfh days! I don’t know many jobs that requires you to be glued to your laptop for 8 hours, mine certainly doesn’t and I’m in a mid/ senior HR role! I do far more than is expected of me and needed of me, yet have the flexibility to step away from my desk as and when I need to! I’d be feeling EXACTLY the same, 10 hours a week in the car could be spent in far more productive ways! I’d be looking for a more flexible role personally this isn’t sustainable IMO x

Pomegranatecarnage · 26/09/2025 06:30

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 25/09/2025 09:49

"And all my housework"
Might just explain why they want you in the office

She could have done her house work in the two hours commute time though.

Countryspaniel · 26/09/2025 06:34

People have started to think working from home is normal. I'm terrified of tge social skills people will have 20 years from now.

PloddingAlong21 · 26/09/2025 06:54

MuffinsAreJustCakesAtBreakfast · 25/09/2025 10:38

And if you work for a global company in a global role then you're :

on/checking in/responding: 6-7.30ish for APAC

at desk: 9-12
[second dog walk 12-1.30pm]
at desk: 1.30pm (8.30am for east coast) until about 6pm

on/checking-in/responding: 8pm (3pm east coast) - bed time

My office days I am "on" 9-5 then on trains with crappy signal. and busy when i get in doing all the tiny little things i couldn't do during the day.

Also work for a global company with leadership in San Fran and I cover the EMEA Geo.

Fully WFH contract but we have ‘we work’ offices in London. I go in to see clients ad hoc.

I am constantly available - at desk 8am but on slack/email before then via phone if needed. WhatsApp chats with colleagues. Come 5pm my San Fran colleagues come online so ad-hoc calls and continual slacks into the evening. It’s simply not a standard role when you work in a global corporate.

I quite openly do tasks in the middle of the day and have zero issues telling people. I often work through lunch and I’m constantly available. I travel out to the US 4x per year so luckily not too much.

While I work far more than a standard 9-5, the flexibility and time management is something I would not change. I love I can do what I need to like pop into school etc.

However it really is working and not shirking. My cleaner comes once per week and my son is in after school club/with my mum until I finish.

My whole company is this way. I simply wouldn’t work anywhere that forced me into an office (I also work in the tech industry so remote is the norm. Would be easy to move elsewhere and largely WFH).

Mh67 · 26/09/2025 07:36

The issue is people doing exactly what you said. Doing housework when geing paid for job. If you are in office you need to work your paid hours

Mondayblues2 · 26/09/2025 08:05

Twinsmamma · 26/09/2025 06:29

Anyone who says they don’t get their washing done whilst WFH are either lying or massively missing a trick 🤣 I go into the office 3 days a week and my washing machine is on all day on my wfh days! I don’t know many jobs that requires you to be glued to your laptop for 8 hours, mine certainly doesn’t and I’m in a mid/ senior HR role! I do far more than is expected of me and needed of me, yet have the flexibility to step away from my desk as and when I need to! I’d be feeling EXACTLY the same, 10 hours a week in the car could be spent in far more productive ways! I’d be looking for a more flexible role personally this isn’t sustainable IMO x

Totally agree. I’m in a mid-rank role, I do more than is expected whether i’’m in the office or at home, it’s just that on my WFH days I don’t need to commute and therefore have extra hours to spend (if required) on housework etc. My outputs are still the same, it’s just that the day is more flexible. A lot of people pretend not to understand this.

RufustheFactuaIReindeer · 26/09/2025 08:18

Dh and i work from home

he makes a cup of tea and does things like putting the washing in while its brewing, he quite often takes work calls at tea making time as well

i get 1 five minute break in the morning, and i can do the same

the lack of a commute means i can do some of the housework, dh can also clean during his lunch break if he wants to, and his break will fit around his calls and meetings

DonnyDoris · 26/09/2025 09:08

StinkyCheeseMoose · 25/09/2025 19:36

Maybe not, but if your employer previously let you work from home and now they want you in the office (as appears to be the case with the OP), you probably went a bit too far with your piss-taking.

It's not just me they want in the office - it's all 170+ of us, with only 45 car parking spaces......Maybe we were all taking the piss.........

OP posts:
Wexone · 26/09/2025 09:17

DonnyDoris · 26/09/2025 09:08

It's not just me they want in the office - it's all 170+ of us, with only 45 car parking spaces......Maybe we were all taking the piss.........

45 car park spaces ? sweet holy Jesus that's carnage straight away
bet there is not enough desks or meeting rooms either

Goldenbear · 26/09/2025 09:18

Nightmare OP, you are not being unreasonable!

DonnyDoris · 26/09/2025 09:20

Wexone · 26/09/2025 09:17

45 car park spaces ? sweet holy Jesus that's carnage straight away
bet there is not enough desks or meeting rooms either

Exactly - so when you've been stuck in traffic for 90 mins, then you get here can't park and can't sit at a proper desk with screens etc it does feel a bit pointless!!! But obvs i shouldn't have been taking the piss by putting the washing machine on during the day!!!

OP posts:
StinkyCheeseMoose · 26/09/2025 09:26

DonnyDoris · 26/09/2025 09:08

It's not just me they want in the office - it's all 170+ of us, with only 45 car parking spaces......Maybe we were all taking the piss.........

Maybe we were all taking the piss

Maybe you are.

Your employer's decision certainly suggests they believe there is a problem and they are probably right. After all, everyone who has read your OP knows that at least one of their staff sees "working from home" as an opportunity to get all their housework done.

If I was your employer I wouldn't trust you to work unsupervised. They know you better than I do and they obviously don't trust you either.

Wexone · 26/09/2025 09:27

DonnyDoris · 26/09/2025 09:20

Exactly - so when you've been stuck in traffic for 90 mins, then you get here can't park and can't sit at a proper desk with screens etc it does feel a bit pointless!!! But obvs i shouldn't have been taking the piss by putting the washing machine on during the day!!!

🤣🤣🤣
it's going to be a fucking nightmare
it Will actually reduced "collaborative work" and productivity because you will be spending half the time trying to find a meeting room and a desk

bendmeoverbackwards · 26/09/2025 09:32

Leaving aside the practicalities, human beings are social beings, having people work separately from others from behind a screen is just weird and not good for mental health. Virtual meetings are just not the same without face to face interaction and tech failure doesn’t help. Get back to the office and stop whinging.