WTF IS THIS ENTITLED MESSAGE FROM FRIEND!!!

[Iamthequeenoftheworld]

I get a text message from old friend from work who lives abroad I talk briefly to like once a year or once every 2 years, we were never close at all, more like Facebook friends

“hey, I gave your number to these people from Ukraine. Can you please explain uk pensions to them. What they are and how they work, how they can get them etc. They will call you tomorrow”

i dont helping people, at first thought it was just a question or two and when I heard Ukraine I thought some vulnerable refugees.

I didn’t think and just agreed.

my husband and son and daughter are now telling me off. Going wtf is this entitled

what do you think, is my husband right?

I don’t mind helping, but it’s the way she told me is the problem

Why on earth would you even speak to them?!?

You said you’re a cleaner working nights on another post. Are you that and a pensions expert for Ukrainians too? Must be a tough juggle.

BOLLOCKS 😅

Hmmm… care to explain OP?

I’m an immigrant so I used to have people hitting me up for help all the time.

Unless it’s something simple that I am dead sure about, I’d just direct them to official websites. Expecting you to explain pensions etc is crazy.

My first thought was that someone has hacked her phone and this is a scam. Surprised someone didn't mentioned that on the first page of replies. Although people have on later pages.

Your husband and children are very correct in telling you off - you should have assumed it was a scam straight away, blocked the number, and contacted the acquaintance (via a different route) to tell them you think their phone has been hacked.

Well it's all just made up by OP isn't it.
Starts out saying that they will, according to friend, be calling her.
But all of a sudden OP is able to dm them.

Read one of my updates. Dd looked them up in her friend list

If this is real and you work in pensions you'll know who to report this to.

So OP is looking for pensions advice herself.

Happy to apologise if wrong, of course.
OP, come back and correct me...

The cleaner one is my mom. She had that problem at work and I posted as if I were her asking for advice.

So you're in the UK, work in the field of UK pensions but you call your Mum "Mom"? That's a bit weird.

Regional differences - could be in the west midlands.

Yes. My mom is a cleaner. It’s my mom story. She was having a problem at work and asked for my advice and I posted on here looking for advice and I posted as if I were her

Don’t answer. It sounds like you’d be opening a can of worms and while you may well have knowledge you could share. At the end of the day, you’re not best placed to actually help, other than signposting them to the correct website.

You should message your friend and say you’ve looked into it some more but don’t feel you’re able to advice accurately for their situation and she/they need to go along more official channels for up to date information. Or something along those lines 🤷🏼‍♀️

This is one of those classic situations when you try to be helpful and do the right thing to be nice. Yet it ends up causing you lots of stress. If it’s your actual jobs and paid professional- they can get their info from you through proper process. otherwise, it’s someone else’s actual job to do.

Also bear in mind, if you help this time, your number could end up getting passed onto others in future! If your friend persists then I’d be blocking them (after letting them know it’s not ok to give your phone number to strangers).

Good luck whatever you do! Keep up posted!

Ok. That’s quite odd.

Why? When you quickly need advice and from your account, posting I, is simpler than my mom is having this problem! She said this, she told me, she feels this etc Especially to get traffic on post in the title. I just thought it was simpler that way

Tell them to send you all their money and you will invest their pension pot for them

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Or just tell them that all they have to do is move to the UK get a visa to work here then after 35 years of working and paying Tax and National Insurance they can claim their “free” money and have the luxury of choice.

Do they prefer Eating or Heating

Why would Ukrainians who don’t live here be entitled to a UK state pension?

Is it? I think it makes you look dishonest because people can see your previous posts. Why should they believe you now?

you’re right. I won’t be doing that anymore. at the time I just really needed quick advice for my mom and didn’t think I’d be coming back to mumsnet anymore in future/start threads

Fair enough. I just think it’s better to be upfront about things. And as for your situation it is nuts and your ‘friend’ is appalling. Hopefully not a friend after this.

I really don't believe a word of this.
So many slip ups.

I'll stop now 🙄

I hope you bloody told them! What a CF!

3 pages and it's clear as mud.

Why are you swerving the question as to WHY your friend has set this thing up. WHY does your friend think you're the person ?