to report every man who lies about his height on hinge

[PoliteEagle]

i've really had enough of it. Had another hinge date this week where the guy claimed to be 5'8. He was 5'5 at most, more towards 5'4. I reported his profile to hinge for lying about the height. How they expect to build a relationship on lie, I dont get it

I'm not sure how much women can be held responsible for this. If a man is too thick to realise a woman's eyelids aren't naturally purple, he shouldn't be reproducing.

No I don’t. I don’t like how it feels on my skin

Actually yeah makeup is big difference to filters. The same with wearing heels and overstating height

Some people go long way to put all the blame on women even when it is clear that it it a man who is a liar

No, the concept is not new, but the shopping list mentality and the unwillingness to give someone a chance if they don’t immediately tick all your boxes is.

Tbh, in this day and age, nobody should trust the pics or even the videos. If you're interested, arrange to meet up early for a drink. They should bring back more RL meet ups for single people looking to meet somebody anyway.

He seemed to have a lovely personality so I let it slide. He ended up being a prick. Certainly won’t be making that mistake again.

Men can be wierd about height. My BIL insists he's 5ft 8 but he's shorter than me and I'm 5ft 6! It's very odd.

For those saying women wearing make up is lying isn’t the same as lying about height. Men know women wear make up and when they meet the woman will likely have make up on. Yeah it can alter the appearance of some people but then it is totally obvious they are heavily made up the majority of the time. A man that lies about height is doing just that lying thinking we won’t notice. If his profile says he’s 5’4 or 6’4 it won’t matter if the initial attraction is there and the chat has been good. But if he shows up and his profile has said he’s 6’ and in reality he’s 5’6 then yeah I will notice and it will make me think if he lies about that then what else would be capable of lying about which would put me off him.

filters on the other hand I hate and men are just as bad using them as women. That and old photos I want to see what the person looks like now and not how they looked years before.

when I was online dating my pictures were a mix of glam/casual/ activity/head shot and full body etc and all taken within the past year.

Report it by all means,but whether they'll take it seriously and act upon it is another matter! I've found that 5 ft 8 in seems to be the default height of most shorter men. I knew a guy who was exactly the same height as me (5 ft 5 in) but he swore he was 5 ft 8! Another bloke who was actually shorter than me insisted he was 5 ft 8. Totally bizarre. They're really not fooling anyone,are they?

"... Short men seemed less interested for whatever presumably wanting a partner shorter than them"

Or perhaps it is this ever pervasive issue where women loudly proclaim that they will categorically not date someone smaller than them, that they think it isn't worth the effort because she will only turn them down because of it?

Ive heard stories of really tall women becoming quite despondent at not having men approach them and i cant help but feel that women as a group have brought this problem on themselves.

I think men on OLD should certainly be reported for lying about their marital status. Frankly I think that is as bad as, if not worse, than lying g about your age or height.

Forgive me if Ive read this wrong, but are you saying that only tall women are allowed to date tall men?

Does that work for size too? Slim people aren’t allowed to date fat people?

One guy I dated insisted that he didn't have a fixed height as he was taller in the morning than in the evening. I think he said 1m 78 v. 1m 80 (he was from mainland Europe). Another guy I met insisted he was 1m 80 when he appeared to be significantly shorter. Perhaps 1m 80 is a significant cut-off in some European countries?

It's sad that as a society, we make such a big deal out of men's height. The longest relationship I had was with a man who was about 5'7". I later dated a guy who was nearly 6'2" and whilst I fancied him, I'd say that his height and looks were his best attribute. That might sound harsh, but as well as having made major mistakes in his life, he wasn't actually a nice person.

Yes, that is awful!

You know the feeling of sexual attraction? I ONLY get that with taller men.
I'm not choosing to cut off short men, just like I'm not choosing to cut off women. I am simply only sexually attracted to tall men.

Well of course lying about marital status is way worse! As annoyed as I was by the 5ft 2 guy lying I don’t put him in the same category as a married man. (Still doesn’t make lying about height or age ok)

Bit off topic but since it’s been mentioned I will say though married people are deceiving their dates in what I think is the worst way possible and making unsuspecting women be complicit in their extra-marital affairs. Furthermore they’re betraying their spouses. It’s a whole different and very evil ball game.

I read a depressing stat that almost half the people on OLD are married or in relationships. I believe it.

So when smug marrieds say they’re so glad they don’t need to do OLD , I always think hopefully your spouse is on the same page with that too.

Meanwhile on another forum, plenty of naive men are offended after discovering their date's assets aren't anywhere near their apparent size once the padded push-up bra came off.

Edited for misspelling of forum

We can have it both ways actually.

Suggesting otherwise is extremely oppressive, and I'd argue it's even more oppressive than many other issues facing women, if you're trying to say that women can't complain about oppression if they want to have a say in their own relationships, something will impact them every day.

That's what I said earlier. I asked why strong capable women can't have relationships with strong capable men, and got a flurry of "oppressive gender stereotypes!", because these people seem unable to conceive of such a relationship. That's their prerogative but I'm hardly going to listen to what they have to say about regressive sexism if they don't think a strong woman could have a strong man.

Besides, you better bet I expect my husband to protect me when I need it and can't do it (he fought off a would-be mugger once, I was definitely not a fair physical match for the guy). Why on earth would I be with a man who wouldn't do that?

I do think the filters are a problem in that people sometimes probably put their ideal rather than what they would actually be ok with. I have some pretty short blokes in my family (shortest being 5ft 2) and they are all shacked up with lovely, and beautiful women. I think you probably do have to have a bit more in respect of other attributes if I’m being completely honest, very funny or smart etc. perhaps a mans idea is a size ten but actually he’d happily date a size 14.

I think it’s probably true that people don’t actually know what they are talking about when it comes to things like height and size. DH is 5ft 11 but I’ve had an insane crush on someone who must be about 5ft 6 max. I’m 5ft 2 so after about 5ft 8 I really can’t tell the difference.

But lying about it is bloody stupid imo.

As a woman I've suffered a lot at the hands of men, rape, sexual assault etc, I've also been psychological abused by someone who was my friend and forced into a relationship that way because he threatened suicide if I wouldn't, spent far too many years stuck in that relationship.

So one thing is certain is that when I choose men to date or be in relationships with they will be men who I am sexually attracted to, who I want to touch me and who I want to be in a relationship with. And I won't be told that I should be giving shorter men a chance when I do not want to. I've already had to be touched by and be in a relationship with men I didn't want to touch me or be in a relationship with.

This idea then that I can't really expect to have equality etc unless I'm willing to give up my autonomy over my own choices in men is absolutely disgusting and backwards.....yet those people try to make out we're backwards if we only date who we want to date....

It's all very 'nice guy' but unfortunately women like to advocate on their behalves now too .....my teenager daughter already has to deal with this bullshit, boys she only likes as friends who beg for a chance even though she doesn't want to be with them and she doesn't fancy them.

And then to top it all off when a woman posts on here about how she gave a man a chance despite not fancying him because she liked his other qualities and then a few years down the line the sex is gone and she only sees him as a friend and she's made out to be a horrible user who has ruined his life 😂

Maybe my desire for strong tall men who could protect me is indeed a throwback, I've always thought of myself as a cavewoman that way, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with that at all, and yes I still deserve equality!!

I'd feel exactly the same as if someone turned up who'd been using old photos, who'd made themselves look a lot slimmer than they really are, had since dyed their hair pink etc.

Not the end of the world. You're not obliged to find anyone attractive.

What do you mean? Are you asking this as a question? Men do this all the time, of course it's ok, nobody's attempting to stop them.

Everybody has a right to be attracted, or not attracted to anybody at all for any reason, or no reason.

The relevant question would be should women who are fat be reported for saying they are slim - but then "fat" is more subjective than height so that wouldn't really work either. It's also a lot harder to hide being fat in a picture than it is to hide your height.

Bottom line, it is fair and right to tell the truth about your height, your size or any other significant factors on a dating site where such things matter enormously to some people, and lying about it is a red flag.

A dating site that included a necessity for a short video where you walk towards the camera with something like a car in the shot to give context for height would probably be very popular. Maybe there is already something like that out there. Would actually help a lot of short and overweight people too, as often when we see someone move, talk and walk we find them attractive, whereas often a still shot doesn't give the real picture.

Anyway, of course men can say they're only interested in whatever, just as women can.

You’re doing a public service