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to decide not to be bridesmaid 4 weeks before wedding?

132 replies

sponkle · 02/06/2008 17:03

the hotel in Ireland is full and the bride is expecting me to 'not to worry about it we'll sort something out, & that I'll 'just have to bunk down with someone' ie a complete stranger as I don't know any of her friends.

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mspotatochip · 02/06/2008 20:04

there are only postcodes in dublin otherwise its all a bit Mrs Murphy the hill galway ish.... Methinks ( and I'm irish by the way) that you should just rock up and an aunty cousin neighbour will put you up, drive you round, ply you with food and alcohol, adopt you and your kids, say prayers for you and your family forever and generally take over your life.......... seriously it will be fine but the hangover will be hellish

Now where is the damn wedding maybe my mam can put you up??

mspotatochip · 02/06/2008 20:05

Also if you book a local b&b they will probably give you a life or recommend taxi as they will be worried about a wee gurl all on her own...

mspotatochip · 02/06/2008 20:06

lift not life sorry

littlelapin · 02/06/2008 20:07

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cheeset · 02/06/2008 20:07

If she was my bridesmaid, I'd have held a room for her, being a good mate and all that.

annh · 02/06/2008 20:11

We're never going to find out where that wedding is, are we?!

mspotatochip · 02/06/2008 20:14

cmon ireland isn't that small its probably not my second cousins wedding next month

GreenElizabeth · 02/06/2008 20:36

There are now 6 million people in Ireland (inc NI) so please tell us where the wedding is. Just the town!! EVEN if we knew the hotel, at this time of year every hotel is going to have a wedding every saturday, so we are not going to say, oh my Goodness, Jane Browne's wedding !! Jane Browne is being a cow to her bridesmaid!

Just tell us where the wedding is, ah go on go on go on go on go on go on go on go on go on.

FreddysTeddy · 02/06/2008 20:39

Methinks the wedding may be somewhere urban like Central Dublin and the OP is too to say.

littlelapin · 02/06/2008 20:41

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GreenElizabeth · 02/06/2008 20:45

Yeah but that's a great photo of me. I love that one. TWAS the day trinny and Susannah came to Craggy Island.

Normally I look ruff.

Where's the fekking wedding.

Fek fek fek fek fek fek fek fek fek fek fek fek fek fek fek

harpsichordcarrier · 02/06/2008 20:46

lol at having nowhere to sleep in rural Ireland
they will be scrapping over who gets to put you up, honestly

GreenElizabeth · 02/06/2008 20:47

"you can stay at my house www.powerscourt.ie/gardens/house/"

GreenElizabeth · 02/06/2008 20:52

"or is it here www.portmarnock.com/"

SSSandy2 · 02/06/2008 20:58

sponkle forget the PRINCIPLE of the thing for now
Rise to the challenge, c'mon you can do it, you gave birth 4 times, right or was it 2x? You can find somewhere to stay.

Call the g'damn hotel and TELL THEM you are coming over for the wedding, you're a bridesmaid and you need a room. Do they defo not have one, then can they recommend somewhere you can stay nearby? Then call that one etc. If that doesn't work, call the bride's mum and say you'd hate to pester your friend when she's concerned with the wedding etc blah blah and get her onto it.

It'll be an adventure. Surely you're chaffing at the bit at times for a bit of adventure.

So where is this wedding then? Fancy going myself.

mspotatochip · 02/06/2008 20:59

is the bride irish living in uk or uk just going to ireland for wedding? Because if shes getting married in her home town you really will have about a zillion people offerign to put you up hence her apparent relaxed attitude. Also if her family are doing most of the organising they may not have told her whats going on......

peacelily · 02/06/2008 21:00

YABu you should have sorted out your own accommodation as soon as you found out about the wedding.

Brides have enough to do let alone ringing round because someone hasn't bothered organising themselves.

GreenElizabeth · 02/06/2008 21:05

ha ha ssssandy, why don't the rest of us go?! maybe that's what the op is afriad of, that 800 people will turn up, claiming they were invited to the wedding on the internet by sponkle. HOnestly, we are mumsnetters not facebookers or Beboettes

jajas · 02/06/2008 21:08

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boudoiricca · 02/06/2008 21:14

Good God woman, you HAVE to go - sounds like this is exactly the kind of experience you need...

purpleduck · 02/06/2008 23:03

Are we all adopting Irish accents on this thread

[clears throat]

now tell us WHERE the fecking wedding is already.

I like it.

chipmonkey · 02/06/2008 23:22

Is it Armagh?
Is it Antrim?
Is it Carlow?
Is it Cavan?
Is it Clare?
Is it Cork?
Is it Derry?
Is it Donegal?
Is it Down?
Is it Dublin?
Is it Fermanagh?
Is it Galway?
Is it Kerry?
Is it Kildare?
Is it Kilkenny?
Is it Laois?
Is it Leitrim
Is it Limerick?
Is it Longford?
Is it Louth?
Is it Mayo?
Is it Meath?
Is it Monaghan?
Is it Offaly?
Is it Roscommon?
Is it Sligo?
Is it Tipperary
Is it Tyrone?
Is it Waterford?
Is it Westmeath?
Is it Wexford?
Is it Wicklow?

Blueskythinker · 02/06/2008 23:32

LOL.

I can't believe I read through this thread & I still don't know. Just tell us where it is.

Blueskythinker · 02/06/2008 23:33

And are you going on a hen night? Surely you will meet other guests at that, and you can discuss where they are staying?

sunnydelight · 03/06/2008 00:00

I'm impressed chipmonkey! I'd forgotten half those counties exist