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Is this racist

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Whoiam · 17/09/2025 18:57

I am seeing many posts about Charlie Kirk being racist. I also note that there are references to his stance on DEI.

I am interested, is this racist nowadays?

https://youtube.com/shorts/8HDYrISA1TY?si=m7vBABFnGn-6uqBy

YABU- yes
YANBU-no

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Livelovebehappy · 18/09/2025 08:50

Bambamhoohoo · 18/09/2025 08:44

Yes and they do. It’s a very underrepresented and missed opportunity within DEI but it is getting better. I am a huge advocate for working towards closing the class discrimination gap and there are initiatives in place that help a little- as they other poster said, the university example is a great one to get disadvantaged children at the table into the recruitment pool in the first place. It’s pretty early days though, I reckon it’s 20 years away from being as sophisticated as other DEi groups

But that’s the thing. Why would it take 20 years for DEI to be put in place for this kind of disadvantage, when it was quickly put through for other groups? Is there a push back on it by one group, who don’t want others to share their privilege?

BundleBoogie · 18/09/2025 08:52

5128gap · 18/09/2025 08:35

No it doesn't assume that all people with a particular skin colour are disadvantaged in the same way. No one with a shred of intelligence would think that a disabled POC had the same disadvantage as a POC who was not disabled for example. Or a woman as a man. Or a POC from a wealthy family as a POC living in poverty.
The focus of the initiative is on commonality not individual experience. The commonality being that there are patterns demonstrating that POC are disadvantaged because of their race, in a way white people are not.
This is not to say every single POC is highly disadvantaged, but that a pattern has been identified. Just as there are patterns to show people can be disadvantaged by being disabled, or female or due to their age.
Its possible of course that a POC who is fortunate not to have experienced too much disadvantage might 'slip through the net' and benefit from a training course. But in the process many more will be given a much needed levelling of the field.
POC who feel patronised by the schemes can simply not apply, leaving more opportunities for those who do see the value. I really think you're creating problems here.

Edited

I really think you are just dismissing problems here.

It all sounds so simple to you but clearly it’s not that simple or easy to do well. There have been countless issues with overreach, mis-targeting and the ignoring of other disadvantaged groups.

5128gap · 18/09/2025 08:53

Livelovebehappy · 18/09/2025 08:40

You could say that about lots of life circumstances. Class also plays a big part. A young white boy who has come from a deprived background without opportunities someone else from a different class might have had. A young girl who has been abused her entire life by family, leading to lack of self confidence. Should these people have access to the privilege of DEI?

Absolutely. Here in the UK we have schemes to increase representation for women and for people from deprived backgrounds too, regardless of race. People whine about those being unfair to middle class white men too. But yes, I wholly support them.

BundleBoogie · 18/09/2025 08:53

Bambamhoohoo · 18/09/2025 08:36

I’ve been in a few interviews where one panel member has dismissed black or brown people due to their colour. In the last 10 years.

what should organisations do to stop those panel members if they have no EDi?

We’ve got a law that protects against unlawful discrimination on the basis of race.

Livelovebehappy · 18/09/2025 08:54

Bambamhoohoo · 18/09/2025 08:46

I didn’t need to. I spoke to the panel member and in one of those instances overrode him because she was the best candidate.

but your suggestion makes no sense. If there is no DEi why go to HR? What would they do?

HR surely would have investigated your allegations and disciplinary would follow if it was found that the interviewee had deliberately discounted the candidate based on race. But DEI would have made sure in the first instance that the candidate would be picked for the job, regardless of whether they were the best person for the job. So totally different takes on the situation.

AlasPoor · 18/09/2025 08:54

Bambamhoohoo · 18/09/2025 08:47

My answer isn’t policies. It’s awareness and building structures and frameworks that reduce the impact and risk of discrimination

These structures and frameworks enforce discrimination. I’m only in my 30s, but I don’t remember any adverts for positions saying something along the lines of ‘..we particularly encourage applications from white people’. I think you’re letting your personal bias’s get in the way of being objective about this.

5128gap · 18/09/2025 08:55

BundleBoogie · 18/09/2025 08:52

I really think you are just dismissing problems here.

It all sounds so simple to you but clearly it’s not that simple or easy to do well. There have been countless issues with overreach, mis-targeting and the ignoring of other disadvantaged groups.

So, the flaw lies in the execution not the measure. As I said, educate and continue. If we simply gave up on everything just because there are problems to overcome we'd never see progress or achievement at all, would we?

Bambamhoohoo · 18/09/2025 08:56

Livelovebehappy · 18/09/2025 08:50

But that’s the thing. Why would it take 20 years for DEI to be put in place for this kind of disadvantage, when it was quickly put through for other groups? Is there a push back on it by one group, who don’t want others to share their privilege?

Because the public don’t care about poor people. Society needs to change for DEI to be successful, and that’s like moving an oil tanker

AlasPoor · 18/09/2025 08:57

5128gap · 18/09/2025 08:55

So, the flaw lies in the execution not the measure. As I said, educate and continue. If we simply gave up on everything just because there are problems to overcome we'd never see progress or achievement at all, would we?

People are of course going to whine about discrimination.

pointythings · 18/09/2025 08:57

itsgettingweird · 17/09/2025 22:08

I guess it depends on your definition of preferential treatment?

Is it equity that my ds has a wheelchair provided by the nhs, a BB and mobility car adapted, a space reserved in a convenient spot at his office and a lift key to get to different floors when everyone else has to park if and where they can and walk to wherever they need to be? Also flex to WFH when his muscles spasms are bad.

or is he being given preferential treatment?

Whatwver you call it he wouldn’t have been able to access the same work experience at the place he now works permanent during his training to be a software developer.

he wasn’t the one given the job because he’s disabled - he was given the job because he was the best coder on the course and that was discovered because he was given the opportunity to turn up with everyone else.

equality initiatives are (and should be) about removing barriers to give everyone in an equal playing field to achieve an outcome.

@AlasPoor, any chance of you addressing this post, which makes the point so well? Do you think this poster's son shouldn't have been given the extra support he got, given that in terms of innate talent he was manifestly the best? Do you accept that without the support, he would not be where he is now, benefiting his employer?

That's how these initiatives work when done properly.

Bambamhoohoo · 18/09/2025 08:58

AlasPoor · 18/09/2025 08:54

These structures and frameworks enforce discrimination. I’m only in my 30s, but I don’t remember any adverts for positions saying something along the lines of ‘..we particularly encourage applications from white people’. I think you’re letting your personal bias’s get in the way of being objective about this.

I think you’re letting your lack of experience and knowledge get in the way of having a productive discussion.

DorothyGaleFromKansas · 18/09/2025 08:58

Yes. He was extremely ignorant on the subject. DEI is not about hiring unqualified minorities. It’s about ensuring that highly qualified minorities who are the best candidate for the job are not blocked from that job because they are a minority.

Ironically, what Kirk and his ilk describe as DEI is exactly what Trump has done. He’s put completely unqualified people into positions of power purely because they are a certain skin colour, gender and political persuasion. Which is why the US currently has a government of unqualified bigots.

BundleBoogie · 18/09/2025 08:59

5128gap · 18/09/2025 08:49

Can we be perfectly clear? Under UK law it is illegal to discriminate positively or negatively against a person on the grounds of any protected characteristic when selecting for a job role unless certain exemptions to the EA apply. If you think this is what the schemes involve, then you need to research them.
It would be naive to believe that the law removes all discrimination. It is after all very hard to prove. However I think its safe to say that if a white man fails to gain employment its vanishingly unlikely the reason will be because he is white or a man. Whatever he may prefer to tell himself.

However I think its safe to say that if a white man fails to gain employment its vanishingly unlikely the reason will be because he is white or a man. Whatever he may prefer to tell himself.

Except that that exact thing has been happening in a number of organisations like the armed forces and city organisations - and that’s just the ones who have been caught out and it proven.

5128gap · 18/09/2025 08:59

AlasPoor · 18/09/2025 08:54

These structures and frameworks enforce discrimination. I’m only in my 30s, but I don’t remember any adverts for positions saying something along the lines of ‘..we particularly encourage applications from white people’. I think you’re letting your personal bias’s get in the way of being objective about this.

What reason can you think of that would make it necessary to particularly encourage white people to apply for a role?

AlasPoor · 18/09/2025 09:01

pointythings · 18/09/2025 08:57

@AlasPoor, any chance of you addressing this post, which makes the point so well? Do you think this poster's son shouldn't have been given the extra support he got, given that in terms of innate talent he was manifestly the best? Do you accept that without the support, he would not be where he is now, benefiting his employer?

That's how these initiatives work when done properly.

Sorry, thought I did. No this seems entirely sensible and hasn’t discriminated against another group. I just don’t see not being white as a disability, its quite obviously just racist social engineering to push that idea.

Everyonelikecapybaras · 18/09/2025 09:02

I think lots of people don't realise the difference between UK and US application of positive action.

Re economic disadvantage. It took so long to even start on that because unlike sex, race, age, it is divine to absolute define. And then define the disadvantage it caused. Eg. Mum abroad grew up in poverty, but GM still very much encouraged her to make the most so she got good alevels and work (it wasn't standard to go to uni). Mum did better at school and work than some of her peers from better background. Hence why it's difficult to actually do schemes based on economic backgrounds because it could be easy to get them wrong.

AlasPoor · 18/09/2025 09:03

5128gap · 18/09/2025 08:59

What reason can you think of that would make it necessary to particularly encourage white people to apply for a role?

I can’t think of a reason to encourage any particular race to apply for a role or discourage any particular race to apply for a role

Livelovebehappy · 18/09/2025 09:03

5128gap · 18/09/2025 08:49

Can we be perfectly clear? Under UK law it is illegal to discriminate positively or negatively against a person on the grounds of any protected characteristic when selecting for a job role unless certain exemptions to the EA apply. If you think this is what the schemes involve, then you need to research them.
It would be naive to believe that the law removes all discrimination. It is after all very hard to prove. However I think its safe to say that if a white man fails to gain employment its vanishingly unlikely the reason will be because he is white or a man. Whatever he may prefer to tell himself.

However I think its safe to say that if a white man fails to gain employment its vanishingly unlikely the reason will be because he is white or a man. Whatever he may prefer to tell himself

But that’s exactly what’s happening. But not just against white men, but against white women too. Many companies are being pushed into a situation where they have quotas imposed on them, so it’s highly likely that to meet those quotas, there’s going to be positive discrimination going on, whatever people like to tell themselves. DEI would probably have been a good thing to have 30 years ago. But it’s now no longer needed. IMO.

5128gap · 18/09/2025 09:04

BundleBoogie · 18/09/2025 08:59

However I think its safe to say that if a white man fails to gain employment its vanishingly unlikely the reason will be because he is white or a man. Whatever he may prefer to tell himself.

Except that that exact thing has been happening in a number of organisations like the armed forces and city organisations - and that’s just the ones who have been caught out and it proven.

Please tell me how many white men have failed to secure roles solely due to these initiatives? Because if you want to persuade people this is harming white men, you need to show patterns that clearly prove white men have unlawfully lost out to less qualified women and/or people of colour in significant numbers.

5128gap · 18/09/2025 09:07

AlasPoor · 18/09/2025 09:03

I can’t think of a reason to encourage any particular race to apply for a role or discourage any particular race to apply for a role

Lots of people on the thread have explained this. You may not agree with the reasons, but if you read the thread, you will certainly be able to think of them!

AlasPoor · 18/09/2025 09:08

5128gap · 18/09/2025 09:04

Please tell me how many white men have failed to secure roles solely due to these initiatives? Because if you want to persuade people this is harming white men, you need to show patterns that clearly prove white men have unlawfully lost out to less qualified women and/or people of colour in significant numbers.

Do you have to show patterns when it’s by design? The ideas behind it is to get people with certain characteristics in jobs rather than people with other characteristics. That’s the aim. A job is zero sum, if it goes to someone else because of DEI then someone has lost out.
It’s straight forward.

Livelovebehappy · 18/09/2025 09:09

5128gap · 18/09/2025 09:04

Please tell me how many white men have failed to secure roles solely due to these initiatives? Because if you want to persuade people this is harming white men, you need to show patterns that clearly prove white men have unlawfully lost out to less qualified women and/or people of colour in significant numbers.

Let’s be honest, there’s never going to be a collection of figures or statistics to prove this is there? I guess it would go under the label of collateral damage. Something necessary to progress the privilege of others.

AlasPoor · 18/09/2025 09:10

5128gap · 18/09/2025 09:07

Lots of people on the thread have explained this. You may not agree with the reasons, but if you read the thread, you will certainly be able to think of them!

You are the one who asked me !?!

5128gap · 18/09/2025 09:18

AlasPoor · 18/09/2025 09:10

You are the one who asked me !?!

I asked you if you can think of a reason why a company may not have felt the need to particularly encourage white applicants, but may have chosen to particularly encourage POC to apply. You stated you couldn't and I pointed out the thread explains why employers may particularly encourage POC.
The short answer being, they want their staff to be more representative of the population rather than being disproportionately dominated by white men.
You may not see a problem with white middle class men disproportionately holding the highest status most powerful positions in our society. Personally I think society has room for improvement and I'd like to see what people who aren't white middle class men can also bring to the table.

AlasPoor · 18/09/2025 09:28

5128gap · 18/09/2025 09:18

I asked you if you can think of a reason why a company may not have felt the need to particularly encourage white applicants, but may have chosen to particularly encourage POC to apply. You stated you couldn't and I pointed out the thread explains why employers may particularly encourage POC.
The short answer being, they want their staff to be more representative of the population rather than being disproportionately dominated by white men.
You may not see a problem with white middle class men disproportionately holding the highest status most powerful positions in our society. Personally I think society has room for improvement and I'd like to see what people who aren't white middle class men can also bring to the table.

representative of the population rather than being disproportionately dominated by white men.

This is just a different way of saying we want less white people and more non white people in jobs, less men and more women in jobs and we want to introduce policies to achieve this. I’m agreeing with you, that this is the aim of these policies. I’m just disagreeing that discriminating based on race and sex is in anyway a good idea.