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Is this racist

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Whoiam · 17/09/2025 18:57

I am seeing many posts about Charlie Kirk being racist. I also note that there are references to his stance on DEI.

I am interested, is this racist nowadays?

https://youtube.com/shorts/8HDYrISA1TY?si=m7vBABFnGn-6uqBy

YABU- yes
YANBU-no

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https://youtube.com/shorts/8HDYrISA1TY?si=m7vBABFnGn-6uqBy

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AlasPoor · 17/09/2025 21:22

pointythings · 17/09/2025 21:06

We have that here in universities too. It's called 'contextual offers' - it isn't based on ethnicity though, it's based on population data around participation in higher education. What tends to happen is that students from state schools who don't have a slew of A* grades get offered university places they wouldn't otherwise have had.

And most of them outperform their privately educated privileged peers. It would be so helpful if those opposed to these initiatives would accept that actually, there are people who have a head start in life from birth, and that it is not wrong or discriminatory to provide extra support to those who have not.

there are people who have a head start in life from birth, and that it is not wrong or discriminatory

In your example, it’s quite clearly discriminating against someone based on the school they went to. It’s blatant discrimination. It completely fits the definition of discrimination, you could say you think discrimination is acceptable for your social engineering aims but you can’t say it’s not discrimination.

Letstheriveranswer · 17/09/2025 21:23

SummerFeverVenice · 17/09/2025 21:12

You were not told accurately. (Lived in USA for over 20yrs and have direct experience with EEO programs) EEO= Equal Employment Opportunity which is DEI for employers.

Well that's reassuring. Although I am sure there are places and examples of it being well run and places and examples where it was poorly run. Could vary across states, regions, employment sectors, decades etc.

SummerFeverVenice · 17/09/2025 21:23

Account734 · 17/09/2025 20:12

Nothing racist in that video. Not sure if the people commenting and voting even watched it. It was Martin Luther King himself that said "I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character"

Rev. Dr Martin Luther King, Jr was the lead activist for the civil rights movement and the EEO laws for DEI in the USA were written as a direct result of his activism and success. To paraphrase a quote from him to imply he would not have supported DEI is a disgusting perversion of history and an insult to his memory and sacrifice. He was assassinated while fighting for DEI to be put into law.

smallpinecone · 17/09/2025 21:25

SummerFeverVenice · 17/09/2025 21:23

Rev. Dr Martin Luther King, Jr was the lead activist for the civil rights movement and the EEO laws for DEI in the USA were written as a direct result of his activism and success. To paraphrase a quote from him to imply he would not have supported DEI is a disgusting perversion of history and an insult to his memory and sacrifice. He was assassinated while fighting for DEI to be put into law.

What it meant in his time, and what it has become since, are very different things.

EmeraldRoulette · 17/09/2025 21:25

as a woman of colour, I cannot tell you how much I miss the days when things were normal.

I don't think Charlie Kirk was being racist, but i'm of an age where I've suffered every one of the crazy societal stages that we went through to get to this one. As he was clearly an intelligent man, I think those stages have fed into his response.

I never took up any DEI opportunities and was annoyed with them as soon as they were available about 20 years ago

There was an excellent play on at the National Theatre maybe 12 years ago? Great Britain with Billie Piper. The playwright attracted some ire because of one character who had been the token hire.

I knew exactly what he meant and I knew why he included that character because it is so fucking frustrating to work with that person.

normally on MN when I see the thread title "is this racist?" I guess my answer my answer would be yes before I've even read the question.

Interestingly, we've come all the way round to a time where I'm automatically expecting my answer to be no.

I really wonder if we'll ever see any kind of restoration to normal. The race Grifters have done their absolute best to ruin race relations and it seems to fucking worked it's so sad. I just didn't think so many people would go for it. But it's such a huge business now. I actually have reached the point where I'm not even sure how I'm supposed to refer to myself. I think when the term BME originally came out, I said "can't I just go with non-white?" Due to having a mixed appearance. Let's face it -that's what all of these things mean.

I didn't think about the colour of my skin much 20 years ago. Now it seems that people who are employed by the DEI obsessive behemoth want us to think about it all the time. It pisses me off so much. It has fed into every aspect of culture and it makes me so angry.

I miss normal <cries> I genuinely find myself focusing on my skin colour every day now. It's utterly mad. It's been forced on me by other people, by popular culture. I had a solicitor faffing around around with sensitive comments today. Like she thought I might have some particular requirements because of the colour of my skin.

Sorry OP - I realise you asked a genuine question and were not prepared for an emotional outburst! But I am just so sick of all this.

And so are a lot of people - as I think we can probably see from Saturday's numbers.

sigh.

CapriceDeDieux · 17/09/2025 21:26

MumoftwoNC · 17/09/2025 21:06

But that isn't EDI policy - quotas for minoritised groups fall under positive discrimination in the UK I think and are therefore illegal.
Didn't Labour still have all women shortlists until quite recently for example? And universities have contextual offers (not that I specifically disagree with that but just as an example). I'm sure there are many more examples.

Anyway I think we do agree on this, that DEI can be done well or done badly. It's been done badly enough and for long enough to have damaged its brand entirely among a large proportion of the population. I think we've made some good progress as a society with supporting people with disabilities and towards tackling economic disadvantage (still a way to go on those) but where DEI tries to cover race, it's been done badly on the whole and divisively. Because being non-white is very much not equivalent to being poor or disabled, but DEI tries to treat them with analogous strategies.

That's my opinion but I think many would agree

There are of course exceptions ,and I can't speak to shortlists for Labour (but they bloody needed them) - though I have a feeling EDI law actually applies to businesses and employment so a political party or orgnisation might be exempt (but I am guessing here I would have to check - I should read my own links!!).

Agree with what you say about it being done well (quite rare) and badly (more often), and that there are definite improvements in some areas and protections in the law from discrimination and many of the principles are very sound. - I was quite impressed by that government web page. Absolutely agree also that all protected characteristics cannot be treated the same and have their own unique issues to be addressed. So I try not to make comparison or analogies or claim expertise in the discrimination of other protected characteristics for example.

However, I think that EDI in relation to race remains problematic quite simply because of widespread, unexamined, entrenched racism (eg the disingenuous start to this thread - with as another PP pointed out that "nowadays" doing a lot of work!) - perceived threat about what EDI is and does, which is why I mentioned the quote about priviledge. So much EDI training in recent years has been about crappy "unconscious bias" training, whereas I would like to term it "haven't bothered to think about it ever and didn't think it was important bias".

Just to note, I am not sure that people with disabilities, and from poorer, even women backgrounds would agree EDi serves them better (setting aside intersectionality here). It would be very difficult to make a comparison. But what we are talking about here is racism.

I have to sleep soon, but thank you for the discussion.

ShesTheAlbatross · 17/09/2025 21:27

Letstheriveranswer · 17/09/2025 19:44

My understanding from an American friend is that, unfortunately, in America DEI was not run the way EDI is in the UK. What you and other posters describe is how it is in the UK and it is easy for us to assume that it done the same over the pond.

I am only repeating how it was explained to me, by someone of a minority themselves, so if this is not the case and all the posters here are very familiar with how it was run in the states, then I stand corrected.

I was told that the educational opportunities were not being put in place for disadvantaged groups so that they could bridge that gap and be as equally qualified as anyone else. That is a huge failing compared to how we run EDI in the UK and if I was told accurately, it needs correcting.

Even if that’s the case, I suspect it’s never led to an unqualified person being hired to fly a passenger plane. So really no need for Kirk to say that he would be worried to have a black pilot, because he’d worry they weren’t qualified.

CrazyAboutFurBabies · 17/09/2025 21:29

This thread is giving: show me you’ve never watched through Charlie’s WHOLE debates with context, without showing me.

Maybe get off MSM, Yahoo news, CNN, BBC News etc etc and the rest of the diabolical left wing media sources.

There are thousands of black women and men coming out providing videos of how he wasn’t racist so maybe understand and believe them instead of being offended on another races behalf.

Same for the homophobic labels, plenty of gay men and women have come out in support to say he in fact was not in the slightest homophobic.

‘He didn’t spout hate speech, it was just speech they hated’

SummerFeverVenice · 17/09/2025 21:30

Letstheriveranswer · 17/09/2025 21:23

Well that's reassuring. Although I am sure there are places and examples of it being well run and places and examples where it was poorly run. Could vary across states, regions, employment sectors, decades etc.

Of course nothing is well run everywhere, that is an impossible standard.

But the whole mythos of his that we should live in a perfect meritocracy where economic advantage, nepotism, racism, sexism, ageism, ableism, classism etc etc don’t affect decisions that affect every human being’s life opportunities is a more of a crock of shit.

DEI may be imperfect, but at least it acknowledges these disadvantages due to a circumstance of birth or accident exist and tries to even the odds.

CatBooksWineInThatOrder · 17/09/2025 21:31

The assumption is that all the straight white men get there because they’re the best but a “DE&I hire” gets there because of preferential treatment. You only have to look at who’s in the majority of the positions of power in the world to see what BS that is.

AlasPoor · 17/09/2025 21:31

pointythings · 17/09/2025 21:18

You haven't read that post properly.

If it's taking 3 years to get a black person on the board, it means that in the interim, white people will join the board. And after that black person joins the board, more white people will also join the board.

This is about providing mentoring, training and support to bring a specific, underrepresented group up to a level playing field where they can compete for these posts. Which will benefit the company financially, as all the evidence shows.

However, there are people on this thread who are deliberately choosing to misunderstand how it works.

It’s a scheme that is only open to people of a certain race, there’s not a lot of room for misunderstanding.

SummerFeverVenice · 17/09/2025 21:32

smallpinecone · 17/09/2025 21:25

What it meant in his time, and what it has become since, are very different things.

I think the US has gone full circle and regressed to where a second MLK is now necessary.

AlasPoor · 17/09/2025 21:36

CatBooksWineInThatOrder · 17/09/2025 21:31

The assumption is that all the straight white men get there because they’re the best but a “DE&I hire” gets there because of preferential treatment. You only have to look at who’s in the majority of the positions of power in the world to see what BS that is.

DEI is preferential treatment is it not?

Bambamhoohoo · 17/09/2025 21:39

AlasPoor · 17/09/2025 21:36

DEI is preferential treatment is it not?

No. Again, it is not

EmeraldRoulette · 17/09/2025 21:40

SummerFeverVenice · 17/09/2025 21:32

I think the US has gone full circle and regressed to where a second MLK is now necessary.

In what way?

SouthernFashionista · 17/09/2025 21:41

I don’t believe he was racist and you’d better believe that as a Black woman I have met many in my time. In fact he spoke a lot of sense. His death is such a waste.

BundleBoogie · 17/09/2025 21:43

MumoftwoNC · 17/09/2025 20:06

I stand by my opinion. If that little guy struggling to see over the wall is supposed to represent ethnic minorities, then as a non white person my response is "piss off" and I'm pretty sure I'm not alone.

I hadn't even heard of Charlie Kirk until he was murdered so I can't comment on his views, whether he was racist etc.

But I will say that the DEI movement has been losing a lot of momentum and people don't like to try to explain why because they get shouted down, as I have been on this thread for bothering to explain.

People don't like to be patronised, and that invludes ethnic minorities. Being mixed race doesn't make me disabled. We resent being portrayed as a hopeless little guy who needs two boxes to stand on.

Didn't they say young black men helped Trump win the presidency? And everyone was baffled because they hadn't been listening. Just listen rather than shouting me down, if you want to hear people's point of view.

I agree with your points. You’ll notice that the “Charlie Kirk was definitely a racist” people on this thread rely heavily on mocking and derision and misrepresented ‘quotes’ rather than honest points or facts.

Talking about the failings and issues with DEI or EDI or ‘affirmative action’ is not racist.

Choosing a candidate based on their skin colour over their skills is not necessarily a good thing for the candidate or the job.

CatBooksWineInThatOrder · 17/09/2025 21:45

AlasPoor · 17/09/2025 21:36

DEI is preferential treatment is it not?

No. It’s making sure people from different backgrounds with the same abilities as the straight white men get the same opportunities as they do.

AlasPoor · 17/09/2025 21:45

Bambamhoohoo · 17/09/2025 21:39

No. Again, it is not

LOL. If you’re giving preference to one group of people over another group of people, they are receiving preferential treatment.
You can say ‘giving preferential treatment to one group over another group is okay if it’s in pursuit of well intentioned social engineering’ maybe? I don’t think you help your cause by denying the meaning of words, you’ve got a hard enough sell on your hands for this nonsense as it is.

AlasPoor · 17/09/2025 21:48

CatBooksWineInThatOrder · 17/09/2025 21:45

No. It’s making sure people from different backgrounds with the same abilities as the straight white men get the same opportunities as they do.

By restricting opportunities based on sex, sexual preference and race?
You must understand how this comes across?

SouthernFashionista · 17/09/2025 21:48

MumoftwoNC · 17/09/2025 20:45

You could argue that having a blind recruitment process in the first place is good DEI practice, and I agree. It's things like quotas that get people resentful

I disagree with blind recruitment processses. Why shouldn’t I know where the applicant went to uni? I’ll be impressed if they’ve been to Oxbridge and even more so if they’ve done so from a bog standard or deprived comp.

Bambamhoohoo · 17/09/2025 21:50

AlasPoor · 17/09/2025 21:45

LOL. If you’re giving preference to one group of people over another group of people, they are receiving preferential treatment.
You can say ‘giving preferential treatment to one group over another group is okay if it’s in pursuit of well intentioned social engineering’ maybe? I don’t think you help your cause by denying the meaning of words, you’ve got a hard enough sell on your hands for this nonsense as it is.

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What are they getting?

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AlasPoor · 17/09/2025 21:51

Bambamhoohoo · 17/09/2025 21:50

What are they getting?

Who?

Bambamhoohoo · 17/09/2025 21:52

AlasPoor · 17/09/2025 21:51

Who?

the people you say get preferential treatment. What are they getting? It’s not preferential unless they get something, is it? Any of the examples you’ve poo poo’d here, what are those people getting?