To make a cheeky comment to my friend about this?!

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Last night I hosted drinks and nibbles for a couple of friends; one of whom we haven’t seen in over a decade. I bought wine and nice wee snacks for us.
The local friend I see more regularly brought a box of posh crackers. Looking at the box, I could see that they are 6 months out of date. Not only that, but the date was covered with a weird sticky stuff that was murder to remove from my kitchen surface. Clearly the box had come from the deepest corner of her kitchen cupboard!
Wealthy friend, money no object. And to be honest, it grates a bit.
I’m tempted to make a light-hearted comment which shows that it hasn’t gone unnoticed.
A bit passive-aggressive maybe, but AIBU? And any funny suggestions of what it could be?!

I think you'd be crackers to make a fuss over this.

You don't sound nice OP.

You are coming across as not very nice to be honest. Im sure she didn't do it on purpose.

Actually there are certain types of people who DO do this regularly. They will rummage through their cupboard and give whatever they have.

Next time she has an event and you feel obliged to take something, you do the same. Maybe buy a box of biscuits now to save them for said event so you can be sure they will have passed the date?

Honestly baffles me that people have this amount of a) energy and b) pettiness.

And what a fucking waste of food and money. Deliberately buying something to let it go out of date? Mental.

This is what is bothering you to the point of posting online at 7am…?

I wouldn’t be saying anything about it - why would you want to humiliate her or make her feel small?

The get the feeling the OP would probably be insulted if the friend had brought a bottle of 1970 Chateau Mouton Rothschild 1er Grand Cru Classe Paulliac, because it was ‘out of date'

Passive aggressive TBH

Yes, passive-aggressive and not very nice, showing your envy like that.

Agreed. It’s less insulting to bring nothing at all.

Like you wouldn’t have been straight on here posting about it if she’d turned up and ate all your posh nibbles without contributing something herself.

I'd think that it doesn't matter. It's nice they all came, no one needed to bring anything!

Don’t be silly. Crackers do not usually improve the longer you keep them.

I wouldn’t mention it. Definitely wouldn’t be passive aggressive about it. It’s petty and life is too short.

Sounds like you aren’t their friend, how petty!

My sister brought a box of WELL out of date Thorntons chocolates!

wtf! 😆

At the time you could probably have got away with a cheeky comment, bringing it up after the event would make you look like a bit of a bitch. It’s not worth it

Omg don’t say anything - that would be really embarrassing!!

You CAN make passive-aggressive comments later, but what you are trying to achieve? You will sound like a twat, she will be mortified - do you really want her to get you an updated box of crackers? (what even are posh crackers! 😂)

If a friend was telling us that "Linda brought out-of-date posh crackers!", I assure you that it's not Linda who people would judge

Did she eat any??

If you want to carry on being her friend, don't say anything. It really doesn't matter. It's just crackers.

But it seems to really matter to you, so bring it up. No idea how you do it without souring the friendship though. You'll sound petty, she'll be mortified - where's the win here?

So choose. Keep schtum and keep the friend, or die on the hill of crackers.

My absolute favourite comment of all time!

You're having a hard time on here. I think it's thoughtless to bring an out of date gift. Unless she said, 'found these in the back of the cupboard, out of date, but let's give them a go!'. Is she generally stingy? Or just a bit scatterbrained?

This seems like such a non issue, I wonder what’s really going on here and why you’re so miffed!?

My auntie gifted my mum a bottle of baileys once, that was so out of date that it was like cottage cheese. She was mortified. Mum thought it was hilarious. Auntie doesn’t drink baileys and didn’t realise it expired. They still laugh about it now, years later. No love lost.

meh, I hate passive aggression either say something in a straight way or don't say anything. Honestly if it was me I couldn't get worked up about some crackers