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Should I stop what I’m doing to rescue him?

107 replies

Typicalwave · 14/09/2025 08:50

My partner has gone out without his keys again and is knocking on the door. He does this every time he takes our dog gif a walk. We have a spare key in a lock box. He refuses to yse it. He thinks I should stop what I’m doing and find and let him in each time. He thinks im lazy and unreasonable to expect a man in his 50’s to take his keys or use the spare key tgat we have for incidents such as this.

AIBU to tell him to take his keys/use the spare?

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gmgnts · 15/09/2025 12:26

My FIL used to do this to my dear MIL. Horrible man, asserting his power over her and using her as his personal skivvy.

FinallyHere · 15/09/2025 13:10

Is this really how you want to live I’m guessing not. What are your options at this point ?

SirBasil · 15/09/2025 13:12

Typicalwave · 15/09/2025 10:22

I opened it.

then, get used to putting up with this?
he is ridiculous, but he is also controlling and you are enabling that.

dammit88 · 15/09/2025 15:31

LurkNoFurther · 14/09/2025 10:17

What a weird thread. Sounds like you hate each other? I’d be happy that DH has taken the dog out, opening the door would literally take less than 1min. I wouldn’t even be insisting he ‘has to take keys’

If it has got to a point that opening the front door has become a huge issue in your marriage, you need to take a step back and reassess whether you should even be together.

I could not agree more!

LadyDanburysHat · 15/09/2025 15:41

Typicalwave · 15/09/2025 10:22

I opened it.

Why? You are teaching a toddler if they tantrum long enough they get their own way.

JayJayj · 15/09/2025 19:12

I can’t believe you gave in and opened it. Be brave and stand up for yourself. He’s not a child he is a grown man.

FinallyHere · 16/09/2025 18:20

Yeah, I’m really sorry for you. This is no way to live.

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