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Single so I never go away on holiday

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JNicholson · 13/09/2025 18:03

I’m realising I’ve become completely crap, since post-pandemic made travel abroad a thing again, at booking time off for myself and actually going away somewhere. I seem to have got into an awful habit of basically just spending annual leave at home (and not even away somewhere else in the UK), sleeping late and eating crap and watching TV. Which can be enjoyable, sometimes, but it’s definitely not uplifting and it makes the whole year feel sludgey and samey and as if you haven’t really had actual holiday. I feel like one of those empty nest divorcees who says she doesn’t feel it’s worth cooking a proper meal when it’s just her. I never thought I’d be like this, but I feel like I’ve become really bad at giving myself permission to have an actual holiday. My job is stressful and full on (although I mostly wfh) and it’s so easy to go ‘oh I can’t afford to take time to actually plan and book something abroad, it will be easier to just have a staycation and then I won’t have the post-trip adjustment either, it will be easier to just go back to work’. But it’s meaning I really don’t feel like I have much of a life outside work. I kind of think how much easier it would be if I had a partner and had to go away because they wanted it. Has anyone else experienced this? How did you pull yourself out of it?

OP posts:
Chilliprawnpls · 14/09/2025 15:18

Almostwelsh · 14/09/2025 11:28

I've just done a comparison quote on a P&O cruise. For a couple the cost was 1818 (just over 900 each) and for a single the cost was just over 2k! Same cabin. How does that work?!

Edited

Link?

Almostwelsh · 14/09/2025 16:46

Chilliprawnpls · 14/09/2025 15:18

Link?

I've closed it down now and I can't remember which cruise it was, but it was on the P&O website.
Allegedly there are single cabins available, but they must be few as every cruise I clicked on they were sold out, so I don't know what price they were. But if you go for a standard cabin as a single person they are expensive.

Chilliprawnpls · 14/09/2025 16:50

Almostwelsh · 14/09/2025 16:46

I've closed it down now and I can't remember which cruise it was, but it was on the P&O website.
Allegedly there are single cabins available, but they must be few as every cruise I clicked on they were sold out, so I don't know what price they were. But if you go for a standard cabin as a single person they are expensive.

What dates out of interest?

Almostwelsh · 14/09/2025 16:52

Chilliprawnpls · 14/09/2025 16:50

What dates out of interest?

One of the Easter cruises 2026. 7 nights to Norway.

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 14/09/2025 16:58

Following as I’m in a similar situation.

Next year I’d like to go on holiday with my dd and I’m planning a road trip with my mum.

It would be nice to go with a friend though.

Plastictreees · 14/09/2025 17:02

JNicholson · 13/09/2025 19:56

Thanks for all the replies. I think this one sums up best what I’d enjoy - I’m sure group holidays can be great but not really my thing. I think just making myself book a short-ish city break somewhere lovely and cultural would be a good start.

I think that sounds great.

Do you have any friends that would go away with you OP? I’m married with young children but would definitely go away with friends for a long weekend.

GiveDogBone · 14/09/2025 17:53

There are loads of travel companies that offer trips specifically for single people (or for singles, couples and families). Just google.

KateMiskin · 14/09/2025 17:56

Short city break: I have done Athens, Barcelona, Paris on my own

MyElatedUmberFinch · 14/09/2025 18:02

I am not single so I know it’s different but I have just returned from my third solo holiday, I really enjoyed it.

Trip one was 4 nights all inclusive in Tunisia with one big excursion, 2 small activities on my own and a spa session and treatment each day apart from the big trip day.

Trip 3 was 3 nights in Switzerland with a big excursion on a train, a tour with a local couple on various buses, , a lunch boat trip and a ferry to France. Plus a visit to the hotel spa every day and a walk along the promenade each day too.

Trip 3 was a week all inclusive in Egypt with a big excursion to Luxor, a boat trip and five days chilling on the beach/in the sea. I read 2 books and hung out at the beach bar and beach restaurant during the day and walked around/had dinner in the evenings.

CoffeeCantata · 14/09/2025 18:04

OtterlyMad · 13/09/2025 18:34

You can go on group holidays. If you have any sort of hobby or interest, there’s probably a group for it - cycling, walking, painting, canyoning, scuba diving, etc. Be adventurous, you have nothing to lose!

Holiday Fellowship holidays are great for singles. They have hotels in the UK and in Europe. They’re very friendly and you’re bound to meet nice people.

Pelsall116 · 14/09/2025 18:09

I am not single, but DH is not particularly into travel, a week abroad a short break in the UK, and that does him for the year.
Not me though; I love travelling and want to see places, so I go solo, sometimes totally alone, at other times as part of a group. There are loads of singles/groups holidays to be had; grab the chance. There is a whole world out there, you don't want to be reaching old age and wishing you had done much more with your holiday time

SpigTheFish · 14/09/2025 18:11

I've been single for donkeys years but I go away with friends, family members, groups or on my own.

Just book it - you wont regret it.

Tuesdayschild50 · 14/09/2025 18:13

Chilliprawnpls · 13/09/2025 18:44

well it sounds like you need some kind of relaxation retreat.
Urgently!

Why the off you pop with misconceptions she is asking for advice to help her change what she is doing ... a nicer message would boost her confidence.
You go and run off to your large friendship group have a wine a sit down and chill .

Chilliprawnpls · 14/09/2025 18:15

Tuesdayschild50 · 14/09/2025 18:13

Why the off you pop with misconceptions she is asking for advice to help her change what she is doing ... a nicer message would boost her confidence.
You go and run off to your large friendship group have a wine a sit down and chill .

Sweet Jesus

read the exchange 😆

I was not replying to the op!

Chilliprawnpls · 14/09/2025 18:15

That’s made me chuckle!

Lincslady53 · 14/09/2025 18:20

DD, single in her 40s, will book a week on an organised tour, and tag on a second week, decided where she is going to stay during her first week, depending on if she meets a person she wants to spend a week with. She has been to Sri Lanka, Costa Rica and Colombia like this, has met people from all over the world and has really got the travel bug. She has also been to Lanzarote and Fuerteventura with us for a week, and been to visit some of the people she has met. She doesn't like being in the UK at Xmas and NY so has booked some of these trips at that time. In Sri Lanka, her company let her work from there for a week or it may have been 2, so she takes her laptop and extended her time away. She has loved it, and it has really boosted her confidence following a bad break up.

Chezcov · 14/09/2025 18:32

I’m married but my husband goes off on motorbike holidays so I’ve joined a facebook group called Ladies who travel. It seems to be a real mix of ages and single and married ladies. I’ve booked a holiday with them for next summer sailing around Croatia. We’re all in a whatsapp group and have already met up with some ladies quite local to me for a coffee so we won’t be strangers. Also lots of events and UK holidays. It seems great for single ladies, empty nesters etc. There are some amazing trips on offer! Just a recommendation if there are other ladies on here with nobody to go away with but not brave enough to travel solo.

linelgreen · 14/09/2025 19:06

Try a cruise - there will be other solo travellers and most cruise lines arrange meet up events plus safe to dine,drink in an evening and no worries about safely getting back to cabin at night

Firebox64 · 14/09/2025 19:26

I went on an Explore Worldwide holiday cruising the Greek Islands on a fishing boat. Met a nice young man...who I married.

Firebox64 · 14/09/2025 19:35

I used Thelma and Louise.com a few times and enjoyed the experience.

Chinsupmeloves · 14/09/2025 19:41

Any friends or family you can go with? Also groups, holidays for single people, so many options.

Push yourself to do it, once you have then you've done the hardest bit. Xx

Netcurtainnelly · 14/09/2025 20:31

Warner holidays. Lots of people go alone and join in with the activities.. They have single rooms/cosy rooms for one.
They do, 2,3,4,5, night breaks. You could start with a short break. All food and entertainment included. Alot of them are set in lovely grounds and have alot of history.
They all have pools too.

Steeleydan · 14/09/2025 20:37

JNicholson · 13/09/2025 18:03

I’m realising I’ve become completely crap, since post-pandemic made travel abroad a thing again, at booking time off for myself and actually going away somewhere. I seem to have got into an awful habit of basically just spending annual leave at home (and not even away somewhere else in the UK), sleeping late and eating crap and watching TV. Which can be enjoyable, sometimes, but it’s definitely not uplifting and it makes the whole year feel sludgey and samey and as if you haven’t really had actual holiday. I feel like one of those empty nest divorcees who says she doesn’t feel it’s worth cooking a proper meal when it’s just her. I never thought I’d be like this, but I feel like I’ve become really bad at giving myself permission to have an actual holiday. My job is stressful and full on (although I mostly wfh) and it’s so easy to go ‘oh I can’t afford to take time to actually plan and book something abroad, it will be easier to just have a staycation and then I won’t have the post-trip adjustment either, it will be easier to just go back to work’. But it’s meaning I really don’t feel like I have much of a life outside work. I kind of think how much easier it would be if I had a partner and had to go away because they wanted it. Has anyone else experienced this? How did you pull yourself out of it?

Iam.single I go on holiday on my own, have been aboutv15 times! Yes I have friends that would come too but I decline as I like foing what I want to do, which is sunbathe, read, sleep, swim, eat ,drink repeat.
If you ho with someone else you're obliged to do whst they want to do.
My idea of a holiday from hell would be going sightseeing, bus trips and walking !!

Fallenangel289 · 14/09/2025 21:13

I play tennis and attend three tennis holidays a year. Fab place for singletons...no judgement just phys, sun and sangria. If tennis is not for you any other sport. There are numeroud holidays for sport, arts, walking, yoga, golf ect. Just find what you like!

Tidalwave9 · 14/09/2025 22:12

Oh what I wouldn’t give to have a week to myself in Devon or Cornwall in term time. Coastal walks, cream teas, reading books, exploring at my own pace 😭

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