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To be alarmed at the number of women who are throwing support behind causes that are clearly anti-woman?

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DorothyGaleFromKansas · 13/09/2025 13:18

With the recent threads about flags/immigrants and Charlie Kirk etc, there seem to be a bewildering number of women supporting causes that directly go against their own interests, and it’s baffling and frankly a bit disturbing.

Reform have voted against tougher laws on stalking, sexual harassment and upskirting, against clamping down on revenge porn, and against further protections in the workplace. Farage cited Andrew Tate as “an important voice for men”.

Then you have Trump, who was found to have committed rape, forced himself into changing rooms where teenagers were undressing, made sexual comments about his own daughter, not to mention 34 other felonies, and that’s before we even get to the Epstein files.

Charlie Kirk said that women should only vote if they were voting for the candidate chosen by their husband, that women shouldn’t go on to higher education unless it was to find a husband, that women should have to submit to their husbands, and that little girls as young as 9 or 10 including his own daughters should be forced to give birth to babies conceived as a result of rape.

What has happened to us that there are so many women willing to endorse attitudes like this? And how do we fix it?! How have we sunk so low that there are women who think this is what we all deserve? It’s terrifying.

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sugarapplelane · 13/09/2025 17:45

OneAmberFinch · 13/09/2025 17:43

Sorry, I'll try to be as agreeable and cooperative as OP next time...

Well you were about the third post into this thread and you started straight away with an aggressive stance.
The Op wasn’t being aggressive or defamatory in any way. She was just asking a why question.

Theswiveleyeballsinthesky · 13/09/2025 17:45

feistyoneyouare · 13/09/2025 17:32

Frustrating isn't it, this assumption so many seem to have that every single issue that affects women needs to have the trans debate dragged into it, and that if you don't agree you must not consider the trans debate important? I've seen it on so many threads recently. I actually got called a TRA a while back for daring to suggest that some issues deserved to be debated in their own right without conflating them with the trans issue. Such a blinkered view.

If you cannot define women without also including men with lady feelings then there are no women's issues are there?

There are only women + men with lady feelings issues 🤷🏻‍♀️

you cannot defend what you cannot define

sugarapplelane · 13/09/2025 17:46

meeleymanatee · 13/09/2025 17:45

How does that sound in any way argumentative?

for the record - my post is not argumentative. It’s just asking a question.

I wasn’t replying to your post. Don’t know what you’re on about. I was replying to Amber

meeleymanatee · 13/09/2025 17:47

sugarapplelane · 13/09/2025 17:45

Well you were about the third post into this thread and you started straight away with an aggressive stance.
The Op wasn’t being aggressive or defamatory in any way. She was just asking a why question.

And she made a statement. I don’t see why that is argumentative.

should she use flowery feminine language?

meeleymanatee · 13/09/2025 17:47

sugarapplelane · 13/09/2025 17:46

I wasn’t replying to your post. Don’t know what you’re on about. I was replying to Amber

i Know! I was asking what was argumentative in her post as I did not read it that way.

sugarapplelane · 13/09/2025 17:48

meeleymanatee · 13/09/2025 17:47

And she made a statement. I don’t see why that is argumentative.

should she use flowery feminine language?

She was being aggressive and defensive from the get go.
Third post into and bam straight to the defence and taking the Ops post personally

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 13/09/2025 17:49

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 13/09/2025 17:43

In which case you aren’t a supporter of women

No one who votes for or supports the people in the OP can call themselves a supporter of women.

sugarapplelane · 13/09/2025 17:49

meeleymanatee · 13/09/2025 17:47

i Know! I was asking what was argumentative in her post as I did not read it that way.

Well maybe argumentative is probably not the best adjective to use. Defensive is better

Daygloboo · 13/09/2025 17:50

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 13/09/2025 17:42

Actually, no it’s not “completely tedious” the trans debate is just the latest iteration of how society has been manipulated to silence women and remove their voices. It has become so prevalent in shutting down women it is probably the biggest threat to women in a generation. It has been used by men to infiltrate women’s spaces, take away economic freedom, to shut down access to support from rape and Domestic abuse. The “trans debate” isn’t a debate so much about a man wearing a dress it’s about men telling women they have no rights, no bodily autonomy, no right to meet without men, that their right to economic freedom depends on the whims of men.

How does it affect economic issues. I dont get that.

GoodG0dWoman · 13/09/2025 17:50

The patriots are lobbing shit at the police now. Wonder where the ‘save our kids’ handmaidens are right now?

How ‘Great’ our Britain is! How brave our men!

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/09/2025 17:51

Plastictreees · 13/09/2025 17:34

It’s completely tedious.

Too bad. Don’t you want to understand what women you disagree with think?

ForgetMeNotRose · 13/09/2025 17:52

FKAT · 13/09/2025 17:44

I'm not clear why wanting to pay less tax inherently conflicts with "women and girls' rights, safety and dignity" ?

Many women rightly resent paying tax to prop up misogynistic institutions from the police (Spycops and Wayne Cousins being two of many examples) to the NHS (and it's treatment of women in labour not to mention the recent cover up of the poor woman raped to death on an ICT ward) to the prison system. I don't think wanting to have more control of our own money is unfeminist?

Edited

Read the post I was responding to then it will make sense.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 13/09/2025 17:52

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 13/09/2025 17:42

It’s more tedious having to constantly explain that you can’t even begin to talk about things that affect women if you can’t, at the very least, define what a fucking woman is, or that it includes boundary pushing males with special feelings.

Yes, obviously the concern about understanding why other women support people that they disagree with is fake.

feistyoneyouare · 13/09/2025 17:53

Tartantotty · 13/09/2025 16:55

Nasty comment particularly about a man just brutally shot dead. Maybe time for you to look in the mirror.

Maybe time for you to look a little further into some of the things Charlie Kirk actually said.

A murder is always going to be tragic on a personal level, but politically this man was downright dangerous in some ways. Of course that doesn't justify his murder, but at the same time it does mean people who weren't personally connected to him aren't exactly likely to be weeping into their hankies given some of his policies.

TheKeatingFive · 13/09/2025 17:53

Theswiveleyeballsinthesky · 13/09/2025 17:45

If you cannot define women without also including men with lady feelings then there are no women's issues are there?

There are only women + men with lady feelings issues 🤷🏻‍♀️

you cannot defend what you cannot define

you cannot defend what you cannot define

Quite. It is extraordinary how many people do not seem to understand this.

meeleymanatee · 13/09/2025 17:55

sugarapplelane · 13/09/2025 17:48

She was being aggressive and defensive from the get go.
Third post into and bam straight to the defence and taking the Ops post personally

What words or wording were ‘agressive’?

Plastictreees · 13/09/2025 17:55

@MyHeartyCoralSnail Bringing the trans debate into every issue and dominating the discourse and making it the focus IS tedious. That’s my, and others posters, experience of it. This thread is not about trans rights, it’s about why women endorse misogynistic views of people such as Trump and CK.

I will not be dragged into trans rights rhetoric. There are umpteen threads on MN focused on that, usually full of the same posters saying the same things. Why does this need to be yet more of the same? As I say, tedious.

sugarapplelane · 13/09/2025 17:56

GoodG0dWoman · 13/09/2025 17:50

The patriots are lobbing shit at the police now. Wonder where the ‘save our kids’ handmaidens are right now?

How ‘Great’ our Britain is! How brave our men!

You’ve just got to look at photographs of these so called patriots to see that they all look as rough as the back of a bus. I wouldn’t want to be in a pub late at night with any of them. The women would probably shout at you if you happened to glance in their direction “what you looking at” and the men look unhealthy

Minkton · 13/09/2025 17:58

GoodG0dWoman · 13/09/2025 17:50

The patriots are lobbing shit at the police now. Wonder where the ‘save our kids’ handmaidens are right now?

How ‘Great’ our Britain is! How brave our men!

Too true, I bet they’d run for small boats at the drop of a hat!

Minkton · 13/09/2025 17:59

sugarapplelane · 13/09/2025 17:56

You’ve just got to look at photographs of these so called patriots to see that they all look as rough as the back of a bus. I wouldn’t want to be in a pub late at night with any of them. The women would probably shout at you if you happened to glance in their direction “what you looking at” and the men look unhealthy

Thank goodness all non racists are so attractive! Certainly all immigrants are super good looking.

Happyjoe · 13/09/2025 17:59

Papadulo · 13/09/2025 13:23

Name me a political party that has actually protected women’s rights? The Tories were going to bring in self id of sex in law, just as the SNP did, and Labour are still content to have men in womens prisons.
They're all as bad as each other. It’s not as simple as just saying this person is bad, that party is good etc etc . Life and politics is much more nuanced that that.

Not true about prisons, it was stopped a couple years ago.
And Labour accepted the Supreme Court judgement on transgender last spring.

Livpool · 13/09/2025 18:01

I agree with you OP - I find it quite baffling

lifeturnsonadime · 13/09/2025 18:01

Plastictreees · 13/09/2025 17:55

@MyHeartyCoralSnail Bringing the trans debate into every issue and dominating the discourse and making it the focus IS tedious. That’s my, and others posters, experience of it. This thread is not about trans rights, it’s about why women endorse misogynistic views of people such as Trump and CK.

I will not be dragged into trans rights rhetoric. There are umpteen threads on MN focused on that, usually full of the same posters saying the same things. Why does this need to be yet more of the same? As I say, tedious.

You really don't get it do you?

This thread is about women's rights.

The way the left has treated women who even question the impact of allowing the definition of woman to become 'any person who says they are' is misogynistic and threatens women's rights.

If we can't be defined - we don't have rights.

It is not a right wing position to say that the left have failed women on this.

You are trying to silence us on this on this thread. Why? Why won't you actually engage with the points that we have raise rather than repeatedly banging on about 'trans rights'?

sofaRunner · 13/09/2025 18:02

Daygloboo · 13/09/2025 17:33

Farage wants to shrink the state which basically means withdrawing money from all the services

& keeping it for himself & his wealthy friends

sugarapplelane · 13/09/2025 18:02

meeleymanatee · 13/09/2025 17:55

What words or wording were ‘agressive’?

Defensive straightaway. If you don’t think the below statement is defensive then I don’t know what to say really…..

“I'll decide for myself what counts as being for or against women's interests thanks.”

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