Toddler won’t come of dummy at 2 years old?

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This morning I have attempted to get my toddler of the dummy and he went crazy and had a tantrum for an hour and a half and I gave in.

He has it all day and night.

If he dosent have it he will hit me, pull my hair, throw a tantrum and cry hysterically for an hour until he gets it.

He only really says a handful of words so it is definitely affecting his speech as he excels in all other areas on the 2 Year Health Check.

I have tried to give him a teddy, comforter, his nan’s hat (he loves this) and a Xmas jumper that he loves holding when he is upset but to no avail.

His sleep is awful as he wakes up in the night frequently for his dummy and in turn wakes me up multiple times.

I just don’t know what to do and I am at a loss.

Ive never liked a naughty corner as usually the behaviour is not naughty but out of frustration or being upset.

I use a thinking step, place child and explain what they did and what they need to think about "mummy is putting you here because you hit me which is unkind, stsy here and i will come back in 2 minutes" if they get up rinse and repeat. At the end of the timr talk to the child about why they are there, give them a hug and carry on as normal

Many years ago I accidentally took my DD's dummy out with me in the evening. DH put her to bed and she managed to go to sleep without it. She never had it again.
Other than that I had planned to leave it for Father Christmas along with the mince pie and sherry

Well of course - if there is a choice then the dummy would be preferred over a toy!! The key with the dummy fairy is that it isn’t a choice!! Parents shouldn’t be scared to parent and actually make a decision for the good of their child!!

I threw all ours away when I decided I didn’t want my daughter to have it anymore and then there was no way I could give in when I was feeling desperate. She had forgotten after a week. Just have to ride out the shit week xx

Well no thats why I did another strategy that worked?
And therefore parented!!
Are you really that angry on a sunday morning!!
Or just wanted to randomly reply!!

You're an adult and he's 2. You ride out the tantrum for however long it takes. He'll have forgotten the dummy ever existed in a day or two.

If he's hitting and/or hair pulling, you just move away, surely?

My eldest was easier and came off it turning 2. My youngest now 3 has only just stop using it, but he can comprehend what I'm telling him so that makes it easier. I started weaning it in the day first, then the night. He will get used to it, it took a couple of weeks for my son to finally settle to bed without it but it's worth it in the long run. Best of luck

Respectfully, the kid is 2 and still can't talk, so I'd say this is a battle worth picking.

If the NHS recommends to ditch the dummy between 6 - 12 months why do so many people let there kids still have them.

Frankly, the NHS recommends some right shit so most of us don’t take any notice on it and just do what’s best for our individual children.

No he doesn't have the understanding or impulse control for that to be a good idea.

I hate the things, never used them, was horrified when someone gave them one each, I let them use it for a while, but after 4 days they got thrown out of the car window (by the kids).
Never to be replaced.
I’ve witnessed dummy bound kids and it’s awful, especially the older ones.
Their speech is affected and delayed, no child should be stuck with a dummy and thousands of mothers are of the same view.
Cold turkey and retraining are going to be hard.

mine Loves it, if I don’t have time for a tantrum I swap it for food and then take it

Is it for the best though with all the parents saying how hard it is to get them to stop having one. If they didn't have one in the first place they would never miss it.

We had 'The Baby Reindeers' at Christmas....
Envelope (addressed to Grandpa 😉) dummies in, stamp on and a walk to the Post Box to post it themselves, a little treat in the cafè and we told EVERYONE in there what we had just done and then home. A few days later there was a little thankyou note from Mummy Reindeer and a gift of a blanket with their name on

@Noelshighflyingturds
The username!!! 🤣🤣🤣

My mum flushed my sisters down the loo in front of her at that age 😂😂

Wait for rubbish collection day, put it in the bin, put the bin out. Then you can't give in.

Do they really only have one people I have known have had children that have a handful.

Im always taken aback by the threads that start with a 2 year old wont stop doing something.

My brother in christ

Of course they wont stop theyre 2.

Be the parent and stop them doing it.

I would have lived on sweets and chocolate and never gone to school when I was 8 but you know I was parented.

Kids dont stop doing something harmful unless you stop them.

Update:
I took the dummy of him at 09:37am today and he cried and screamed for 40 minutes until he fell asleep.

I have noticed though that now he seems to just be attempting to shove anything and everything into his mouth.

He is also teething which I think made him super reliant on the dummy.

I have tried the teething granules such as Nelson and Ashton & Parsons but the don’t do nothing for him.

Honestly unless the dentist has advised or the HV thinks it's causing a speech development issue I would carry on with nap and bedtime only.

For teething chewing try soft fruits, or a wet cold flannel. Or you can get chewy toys

Well done for doing it. The thing to remember is, he isn't crying because he needs the dummy, he's crying because he wants it and has been told no. Stay strong, this will become easier quite quickly, he just needs to break the habit and routine of having it. There really isn't any benefit to dummies and they are causing huge issues with speech for many children so it will be the best tjing long term. Anbesol is good for teething if needed.

How do you know this? My daughter was obsessed with her dummy and she was later diagnosed with autism. For her the dummy was an important way for her to self regulate and whenever we tried to remove it she sucked on her thumb and then her arm.

I've been heavily involved with SALT. It's not a criticism, it is just best not to start with them and find other options if you can.