Attending A&E when no one to look after child after school

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I’ve got some on and off chest discomfort for a year or so now. Previous ECGs all ok. Awaiting CT of coronary arteries and 24hr tape to be on the safe side according to cardiologist. It’s probably menopause and stress. It’s worse today. I have literally no one to look after my 10 year old except for his 16 year old sister once she gets back from college around 3 hours after he finishes school. I’m a single parent and his dad is dead. What happens in these situations?

But she’s ok and she’s home.. she’d have been admitted if it was life or death 🤷🏻‍♀️

When we're talking about potential cardiac issues, I wouldn't be taking any risks.

There's a reason why it's always recommended to go in with chest pains.

Not having a support network is unhealthy and leaves you really vulnerable. I understand that it is easier said than done, but you really need to put yourself out there and get to know people. Please say hello to your neighbours, some friendly looking parents at the school gates, join the class WhatsApp, whatever you can. Next time there's a problem you will have people to ask. I've picked up children before whose parents I don't particularly know following an emergency request on the WhatsApp group. Lots of people would.

There is yes, but sometimes common sense does not prevail. I’ve rang 111 before with what was obviously a gastric issue and I’d only had an ECG very recently and as soon as I said I’ve had pain in my chest they wanted to send an ambulance and I had to pretty much beg them not to. I’ve got an ambulance to a&e before that 111 advised and they’ve asked why I turned up in an ambulance and when I’ve said 111 advised it they’ve rolled their eyes and said I thought as much.

I’m not saying if someone has chest pain they’ve never had before or worsening to not get it seen to as it could always be something but if I rang 111 every time my chest hurt I’d never leave a&e.

OP's case sounds very different though as she had scans and bloods etc and was told by several medical professionals that she did the right thing.

Her chest pain was worsening, you should always go in with that. Especially women as heart attacks can present so differently compared to men.

Why are you so determined to be right? Why can't you just accept that OP did the right thing for her circumstances at the time. What exactly are you trying to achieve here?
Being unwell enough to need to go to A&E does not necessarily have to mean that you need admitted. That dosent mean you should have gone in the first place. You really aren't contributing anything helpful to the thread. You just seem to be on a tangent about why OP shouldn't have gone and seem to think you've been proved right because she is now home.

@rainbowunicorn because in all honesty, what did she get from her a&e trip other than reassurance?

she needs to sort out what to do with her children in these situation, and it shouldn’t have been left until the situation arised.

im glad it all turned out ok and I hope OP gets to the bottom of her issues but it may well be all stress related.

That's easy to say in hindsight knowing the outcome.

It's different when you don't know what the outcome will be so A&E for worsening chest pain is always a good idea because it would be a very different story if it was cardiac related and she just ignored it.

I'm glad you went and got checked out. It is good news that you can be at home.

Going forward - you need to work on creating the network that is missing or (without friends/relations) at finding out how social services can help you. Looking after people in really challenging situations like yours is the sort of thing they were created for.(They are not wicked child collectors and won't be trying to find ways of taking your children from you.)

Finding a network of your own is a challenge. I wonder if there is anyone on here with experience of how to do this - and how to overcome the additional challenge of doing all this with autism and for children with additional needs.