Teacher told my child that child is not a Muslim

[Jkam24]

My daughter has recently started reception and asked me today if our family are Muslims, to which I said yes. She then started crying saying her teacher told her that she (my daughter) is not a Muslim. Is it unreasonable to be angry about this?

No she wouldn't.

She'd have exactly the same response.... Ask the teacher, because it's more than likely your daughter got the wrong end of the stick.

That's the same advice anyone sane gives anyone on MN when they say anything like "my small child says the teacher/a child said some outrageous thing"

It's almost as if the child is only 4 years old, in a new setting, and has had to have all sorts of information to take in over the past few days surrounded by noisy chaos goblins all day, and has misinterpreted a comment/statement/question from an adult, because her brain is so busy and trying to process everything...

I doubt very much after the reaction of the Muslim community against some teachers any teacher would dare mention anything about islam or Muslims ? That last teacher who had to go into hiding is he even out yet ?

I don't know why this is so unbelievable to some posters. This same thing happened to a friend of mine.

In time she will say something outlandish about her parents, perhaps indicating something amiss at home, upset at home, mistreatment at home (much like the posters child who said he had rum for breakfast)

Will OP consider that her child is very advanced and no misunderstanding or miscommunication has taken place then?

But how do you know this actually happened, how reliable are 4yo?

@Kohll hilarious and mature. Agree with what the previous user said - I suggest going to therapy or dealing with whatever personal issues you have.

I don't have an issue with any regions or non religions, I teach tolerance and respect, and I most certainly don't make comments like the ones you do. Your hate is showing and your values clearly don't align with a lot of us.

Highly unlikely.
Talk to the teacher

Not the teachers place to make that judgement about a child and then tell the child.

Well that’s what I think. I’m very aware of religion and I think it’s nonsense.

What exactly happened?

It's one thing if the children are saying, My parents say that I'm not allowed to do x, y, z because according to our family's religious beliefs, these things are forbidden to us'.

Quite another if they are telling random other children that they, the other children, shouldnt do these things, because (blanket statement) they are taboo.

My personal belief is that no child can be any religion until they chose to follow that religion freely as an adult. .I always say I was raised Catholic .

Raised not am

What they had a 4 year old be told by a reception teacher that they weren't actually muslim? 🤔🤔🤔

@soupyspoon you're another one with the microaggressions behind a mask - not once did I say that this certainly happened - just that I feel cross IF it did. Comprehension is key

I know a family where it was the other way round, brown child with foreign name not allowed to have a certain meal at lunchtime as "Muslims can't eat that.". Mother checked and school confirmed it. Mother not impressed and made that clear.

You feel cross already, therefore you are assuming it happened and your veiled comment about 'why it might have happened' implies you're making some sort of accusation about the teacher. I dont think its me with the micro aggressive nature. At least be honest with yourself

You started a thread in AIBU - yes you are

And you cant shut people up by shouting micro aggression at people. It doesnt work.

Op don't you think the more pertinent issue here is a Four year old feels this is worth crying over ?
My DC were told mummy loosely follwed the Catholic faith and went to Catholic school there is no way at any age let aloneage four they would come home crying if a teacher said they weren't Catholic
I think that's what you need to focus on

Unfortunately there are a lot of very hostile so called liberals on Mumsnet who will derail threads posted by Muslims.. there is a good group on Facebook (Muslim mamas) which might be more helpful.

I would ask the teacher without accusing her, just to find out her side. Quite often things get lost in translation by kids and she may have said something completely different.

As an aside, as a teacher I hate teaching RE as I’m constantly afraid of accidentally saying the wrong thing, upsetting someone and being complained about. It’s a shame really as it’s a very interesting subject and there’s often fantastic discussions and chances for children to learn respectfully from each other.

I may not believe in religion, but I do believe people are racist. It’s sometimes unconscious, but I’d def ask the teacher. Something was said!

You have a problem with children refusing to hold hands with other children….?

genuinely? This is offensive to you…?

I don’t think you belong anywhere near a school.

children are not in school to do anything they’re uncomfortable with.

also state school is what it says on the tin ‘state’ there for everyone.

nutter.

@arcticpandas why do children not wanting to hold hands bother you? If a child doesn't want to do something that is not necessary, they should not be forced to, end of. Doesn't matter what the reason. Admit to yourself you had an issue because of the religious context.

Yet ANOTHER thread where a child has just started reception and parent is already mistrustful of teacher and ready to start complaining.

You were not in the classroom.
Before you take a 4 year old's word at face value, use your adult critical thinking skills.
And then ask the teacher if you still need to.

But all these mums ready to go up to school on the bounce in week one of their child's school career are going to find it a very hard slog for the next 13 years if they don't find some trust in the teaching staff.

Hopefully all will be clearer once you have spoken to the teacher in the morning.

Some people do not understand that being a Muslim is not tied to being a particular race, dress, or skin colour.

So it could be a lack of understanding by the teacher, or Islamophobia, or your child misunderstood. Try not to worry until you know more.

Your title says "Teacher told my child that child is not a Muslim" not my child said her teacher told her she is not a Muslim.