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Teacher told my child that child is not a Muslim

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Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 20:45

My daughter has recently started reception and asked me today if our family are Muslims, to which I said yes. She then started crying saying her teacher told her that she (my daughter) is not a Muslim. Is it unreasonable to be angry about this?

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lazyarse123 · 11/09/2025 09:45

This post is so full of arseholes. If you don't believe it fuck off and find something you do believe.
You are just making yourselves look foolish.

CatrionaBalfour · 11/09/2025 09:46

Petitchat · 11/09/2025 09:29

Getting a hard time because OP thinks her daughter is advanced.
What a weird attitude!

Good job you don't live in America, it's common practice to think their own children are more advanced.

I like it, it's a good positive attitude.
Not negative like UK, where you're demonized for thinking your child may be advanced.

I agree that young children get confused easily but it doesn't hurt to check.

Hope you get it sorted OP

No, I think it's just that even if a 4 year old is advanced, they can still get confused (qv).
I don't know what you've been reading, but believe you me, no parent in the UK is "demonized" for thinking that their child is advanced.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 11/09/2025 09:47

Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 20:59

Let's not be patronising, I'm sure you are well aware why someone might have done this.

Why?
I'm not aware.

GleisZwei · 11/09/2025 09:47

Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 20:45

My daughter has recently started reception and asked me today if our family are Muslims, to which I said yes. She then started crying saying her teacher told her that she (my daughter) is not a Muslim. Is it unreasonable to be angry about this?

I'm not sure this actually happened exactly as written OP, did it? Are you sure your daughter didn't mishear/understand?

MrsSkylerWhite · 11/09/2025 09:48

Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 20:51

I'll be addressing it with the teacher tomorrow in case it is a misunderstanding.

It was almost certainly be a misunderstanding by your 4 year old.
(Unless you are Muslim converts, by any chance? If so, it’s possible the teacher may not be aware?)

ByTipsyRubyBalonz · 11/09/2025 09:49

MrsSkylerWhite · 11/09/2025 09:48

It was almost certainly be a misunderstanding by your 4 year old.
(Unless you are Muslim converts, by any chance? If so, it’s possible the teacher may not be aware?)

Than it's a stretch.

Most likely they are in a Catholic school and child is confused

Petitchat · 11/09/2025 09:50

ByTipsyRubyBalonz · 11/09/2025 09:44

Because I was a teacher

A psychic teacher??

MrsSkylerWhite · 11/09/2025 09:51

Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 20:59

Let's not be patronising, I'm sure you are well aware why someone might have done this.

I really don’t understand why? Are you suggesting the teacher is Islamaphobic (that’s the only thing I can think you’re suggesting). Really can’t believe someone would risk ruining their career like that.

ErrolTheDragon · 11/09/2025 09:52

ByTipsyRubyBalonz · 11/09/2025 09:44

Because I was a teacher

The OP is a teacher too.

Zebedee999 · 11/09/2025 09:55

Jkam24 · 10/09/2025 20:45

My daughter has recently started reception and asked me today if our family are Muslims, to which I said yes. She then started crying saying her teacher told her that she (my daughter) is not a Muslim. Is it unreasonable to be angry about this?

What idiot parent believes what their child said without listening to the teacher's side?

We already have teachers in hiding in this country because Muslim mobs have hounded them out of their jobs with death threats. Don't cause yet another teacher to have to flee for their life.

IzzyHandsIsMySpiritAnimal · 11/09/2025 09:56

@Jkam24 hopefully you'll have some clarity on the issue today.
Some people on this thread seem to be being deliberately provocative.

MasterBeth · 11/09/2025 10:01

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a) that's three things.

b) how do you know?

MegMez · 11/09/2025 10:02

Have a chat with the teacher. I'm not saying that your daughter was lying but at that age it's very easy to be confused and it could be a misunderstanding. If the teacher isn't aware of your child's faith, this is a chance to make sure they're aware. Please don't start the school year with an us v them mentality, you're all on the same side.

Shellyash · 11/09/2025 10:14

Wow this is nasty, you may have a discrimination case on your hands here. Either that or it is a misunderstanding.

ShoveItUpYourArseMargaret · 11/09/2025 10:16

Kids at that age say all sorts of bizaree things so how do you know its true?

Even if it is, we are a non-religious household and my DD frequently used to affiliate herself with various religions in order to fit in so maybe perhaps the teacher thought your DD was doing similar? My DD did claim to be Muslim for quite a while because her lovely TA was Musilm.

That said, it sounds like she possibly could have looked at the colour of your DD's skin and made a judgement based on that? Is this what you're implying? If this is the case, it's not great but I'd just drop it into conversation that you are.

cumbriaisbest · 11/09/2025 10:27

That 4 year old must have one hell of a memory and amazing language skills.

helpfulperson · 11/09/2025 10:27

When I was 5 we had moved from scotland to england. We were doing parents names and I told the teacher my mum's name and she told me that wasnt how you pronounce it and refused to believe me when I said yes it was. It is often pronounced with a hard G in scotland but almost exclusively with a soft G in england. So I can totally believe a teacher believing they know best.

CatrionaBalfour · 11/09/2025 10:30

helpfulperson · 11/09/2025 10:27

When I was 5 we had moved from scotland to england. We were doing parents names and I told the teacher my mum's name and she told me that wasnt how you pronounce it and refused to believe me when I said yes it was. It is often pronounced with a hard G in scotland but almost exclusively with a soft G in england. So I can totally believe a teacher believing they know best.

What's the name?

helpfulperson · 11/09/2025 10:33

CatrionaBalfour · 11/09/2025 10:30

What's the name?

Gillian.

Rewis · 11/09/2025 10:36

helpfulperson · 11/09/2025 10:27

When I was 5 we had moved from scotland to england. We were doing parents names and I told the teacher my mum's name and she told me that wasnt how you pronounce it and refused to believe me when I said yes it was. It is often pronounced with a hard G in scotland but almost exclusively with a soft G in england. So I can totally believe a teacher believing they know best.

I was telling at school how excited I was that my brother was coming home for the weekend from the army. The teacher called me silly and correct me that it was my dad, not my brother. I said that it is my brother. She said it was impossible and I was confused. She was corrected at the pick up.

ShoveItUpYourArseMargaret · 11/09/2025 10:37

Zebedee999 · 11/09/2025 09:55

What idiot parent believes what their child said without listening to the teacher's side?

We already have teachers in hiding in this country because Muslim mobs have hounded them out of their jobs with death threats. Don't cause yet another teacher to have to flee for their life.

Wow, just googled this.

Agree, the OP does need to be quite careful not to fall into an "US" and "THEM" viewpoint. Tolerance and Mutual Respect springs to mind, the UK (if that is where you are), while being traditionally Christian is also now a multi-faith, multicultural country.

Also, the reacher is teaching their child to read, write etc so they should be f#@*ing grateful instead of nit-picking over a misunderstanding.

Cinaferna · 11/09/2025 10:39

When DS was in reception class I asked a teacher about something very concerning that he told me she'd said. She smiled and asked if I (can't remember the details but it was something daft like kept a pet melon or only ate peas) I said no, and she said: 'Tell you what - I won't believe every unlikely thing your child tells me about you if you don't believe every unlikely thing they tell you about me.'

cumbriaisbest · 11/09/2025 10:39

30 odd kids in class, some of them with very limited skills. They have no concept of time, they are tiny. Some poor teacher is supposed to micro manage every single conversation.
My son identified as a lion at 4. He was one in his head.

ByTipsyRubyBalonz · 11/09/2025 10:40

cumbriaisbest · 11/09/2025 10:39

30 odd kids in class, some of them with very limited skills. They have no concept of time, they are tiny. Some poor teacher is supposed to micro manage every single conversation.
My son identified as a lion at 4. He was one in his head.

Roar

cumbriaisbest · 11/09/2025 10:41

Obviously I kitted him out in the full furry suit.

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