Teacher told my child that child is not a Muslim

[Jkam24]

My daughter has recently started reception and asked me today if our family are Muslims, to which I said yes. She then started crying saying her teacher told her that she (my daughter) is not a Muslim. Is it unreasonable to be angry about this?

My daughter told her teacher I drank so much gin I at my friend's house we had to stay the night. True story: we went to see my friend (also my TA) on a snow day. It got dark, it was a rough area and there was deep snow so my friend suggested we stay over. We had had a g&t or two but I assure you I wasn't drunk.

The teacher might have said it if she didn't know the child's religion, and has ignorantly assumed that she's not a muslim based on the way the child looks. If that is the case, then, of course, OP has every right to be angry. Or, as has been said, it could be a misunderstanding on the child's part.

The only way to get to the bottom of this is for OP to speak to the teacher, which she has said she will do. I don't know why so many posters are getting so angry about this.

Yes, I'm sure it can be sorted one way or another. If there is a cause for concern about the teacher, it can be followed up. The OP is right to ask for clarification from the teacher because her daughter was certainly very upset.

The OP doesn't even make any sense. Why would the child cry if she didn't even know herself whether she was muslim or not?

It does matter if the OP talks to the teacher today about it because if people talk to the teacher about nonsense like this every day, then the teacher's time is being completely wasted.

The OP has concerns, and those concerns need to be addressed. The teacher needs to have a conversation about what happened, the OP isn't just going to let this go.

Did you speak to the teacher at drop off op?

The family I quoted earlier where a child was told they couldn't have a certain meal because Muslims can't eat that didn't have any other school issues, kids did well, went to uni, mother was a volunteer at school. She had every right to challenge the school about what happened and the fault was the schools and not hers or her child's.

I would imagine the child did think she was a Muslim and if the teacher told her she wasn't she was confused. She then checked with her mother that the rest of the family was Muslim and was upset as she had been othered in her own family.

I think it's really obvious why she was upset.

Where in the UK is it normal to throw bacon at people's doors? I've never had it happen to me in over 70 years.

The people who have been put in prison for it

Can be awkward with terms people use. My granny was a proud Orange woman, I'm a Catholic. According to granny I didn't go to church I went to chapel and she went to church. I found that confusing as a child. That child's confusion was different to mine but probably felt similar.

At grammar school friends thought the biggest thing about being Catholic was we got priority for fish and chips on Fridays. Fish and chips was the most popular meal so non Catholics often missed out.

Well it isn't a normal legal activity then is it.

Don't you think a teacher would want to know if a child goes home and cries about something she heard or misheard at school? I assumed teachers would want four year olds to be settling in happily not going home crying.

It's possible that the teacher said something like that (other child at the table) child is not a muslim.

You are being VU to get angry over something a 4 year old says without telling the teacher your child was upset because she though she was being told she is not like her family - and asking the teacher politely what was really said.

You are getting a hard time first because you think your child is advanced and second because you started talking about micro aggressions very early on when most people were simply telling you that young children get confused easily.

Your four year old doesn't understand other people aren't Muslim. So the teacher never said this.

I am staunchly atheist and agree with the fundamentals of your post but you would be a really dreadful teacher if you tried to make this point to a child of 4.

Neither of what things happened?

Getting a hard time because OP thinks her daughter is advanced.
What a weird attitude!

Good job you don't live in America, it's common practice to think their own children are more advanced.

I like it, it's a good positive attitude.
Not negative like UK, where you're demonized for thinking your child may be advanced.

I agree that young children get confused easily but it doesn't hurt to check.

Hope you get it sorted OP

In a class of busy 4/5 year olds she probably wasn’t listening with complete focus and maybe thought child asked is she (the teacher) was Muslim…it’s a strange question for anyone to ask teacher “am I Muslim”…not strange as in odd, but a bit random and not what a teacher is expecting to be asked…
almost certainly teacher would not have even tried for a minute to answer a question like that with a straight “no you’re not” ….at worse it would be a “ well we all need to make our own choices about our faith ..type of woken answer!

I'm confused. How do you know nothing was said or happened?
Were you there or have I missed something?
Apologies if I have....

She might have to if the teacher cant remember anything about it. Might be an off the cuff remark or discussion she has no memory of

It might have been an indepth (for a 4 year old) discussion about philosophy and religion.

Who knows.

That's true! None of us know what happened and the teacher may have no idea, at least the teacher knows something has upset the child and concerned the parents, in all likelihood it'll be sorted.

Because I was a teacher