To ask what you think of a proposal after 1.5 years aged 35+?

[Evilwasp2]

Let's assume you're that age or over, recently moved in together, would an engagement at that time be obscene if you're both ready?
I don't get when people say 'Oh you first need to see how they act in a difficult situation/in an argument'.
These things can come after years and people can change, hence people divorcing.

You have figured it out OP! We can cancel all the divorces now!

Perhaps OP can answer.

Did you see my previous post?

Ps, we're literally on mumsnet, I think its a safe bet most users are women that have or want kids

I think that’s a perfectly reasonable time frame.

Obscene? Are you mad 🤣

Its perfectly fine and normal.

Not on their own!!

Many women are already fudging it alone or would be happier and with happier kids of they were doing it alone.

Some kids have absolute arseholes for fathers.

But very few set out with the intention of doing it on their own!

I’ve never known anyone say that is needed.

Engaged after 6 months, married 3 months later. That was 26 years ago. I knew he was 'the one' as soon as he looked at me and smiled

Which phrase? My username indicates a place I lived for a long time, but I’ve moved now.

The time frame is perfectly reasonable.

The idea that you can love someone enough to ignore their flaws is a problem. Love is not enough for a successful relationship. You need to share values, especially in respect of finances, day to day life and future goals. You also need to have a successful communication style and each other's best interests at heart. You can know these things without living together but I think living together does help. Someone can say they believe in 50-50 chores but the reality may be different.

Just fine. I know people who got engaged faster than that. I know someone who got engaged after 21 days of dating, married around 4 month mark and married 3 years now... with a 14 year age gap..
Yep that someone is me.

For me it depends on how you have spent the 1.5 years. If it's been wined, dined and wooed I'd probably you say you want to consider making sure you aren't missing a flaw as it's possible to be a false person for that length of time.
If you have 1.5 y where you have been integrated in one anothers lives ideally with some cohabitation even if that is spending significant time at one anothers houses rather than a house you share.

Two things I think are crucial for a relationship is similar viewpoints on money and finances and a someone willing to care for the other. Financial pressures are hard enough on a relationship without a mismatch in views on spending and credit etc. Knowing some has your back when you need and for this I find how someone treats you when you are sick is often and indicator for how they would be when you have other needs. I hadn't been seeing my partner very long at all and a lot younger than 35 when I had cause to be in a and e one evening whilst he was revising for an exam. He spent the evening in a and e with me although did bring his revision notes with him. He's stood by me through all sorts of crises since and I have him. This was a small incident which just highlighted where his caring priorities lay.

Have you been in a long term relationship previously op?