What would your husband say if he came home from work and you’d had a drink?

[khlolea]

I have had a glass of wine tonight after work, thought why not?
Dh is home and is furious, speaking to me like a disgrace and slamming cupboards.
I now have an uncomfortable silence which isn’t quite a silence because he’s saying he’s not giving me the silent treatment.

He'd be confused and a bit worried. For me to drink alone at home- as someone who might go a few months without alcohol- he'd probably think I'd had some very bad news!

It’s extremely controlling behaviour. I would just totally ignore his behaviour and get on with my evening. If he isn’t engaging, leave him to it. When you are talking, he needs to be explain himself, he doesn’t get to behave like a child and sulk when he doesn’t like something. Clearly this has worked for him with you in the past.

Wouldn’t say anything! Why would he!!

"Bought you some more (so I don't get sent to the store later)" 😂

Well, if my husband reacted like that, I’d honestly be questioning if I’d married the right person. How dare he!

Think you need to ask whys he's making such a fuss over a glass of wine? Either he's a boring dickhead who thinks you need his permission or he thinks you have a problem? If you don't have a problem, then it's none of his or anyone's business. My hubby would either be jealous if he's on shift pattern (in a jokey way) or join me if he felt like it.

I have had this reaction as previously my DH had a drinking problem and it just got really bad.
He still drinks but I nearly ended the relationship over it (it wasn't him having one drink now and then -this was to a high level and not like what you are describing- as it is 1 and not excessive etc.)
Is it possible your dh had someone in his life e.g. a parent etc who had a drinking problem or had a bad day and over reacted but it wasn't necessarily about the drinking it was about the other thing and he took it out on you? Either way its a bit OTT and not acceptable. Maybe if you drank every night & to excess or had a drinking problem this would be mildly acceptable but even then its still OTT.

Wow! Unless you have some sort of drinking problem and had agreed to abstain, that's pretty unacceptable in my opinion. My husband would have said "Can you pour me a glass of that too, please?"

There must be a reason for the way he feels about alcohol?

He'd be surprised because i rarely drink but would be happy that i was relaxing

Mine would say, "did you buy any beers"

Mine wouldn’t say anything (or care) any more than if I was having a bar of chocolate or a slice of toast. I’m going to be honest, I’d pour myself another large glass. What a prick. He’s your husband not your jailer.

If you have a glass of wine every evening you are both alcoholics.

My DH would probably think he was definitely onto some for the night and ask would i want a top up, bath and back rub🤣

the Op has already described her partner's parents' attitude to drink. Anything except one glass on high days and holidays is dancing down the path to alcoholism.

read all the OP's posts.

"Ooh I'm getting some tonight" lol
But in all seriousness it would be a non issue because I'm a fully grown independent adult that makes her own choices and my partner is not controlling in any way

He would check I'm alright as I don't drink much, but if it was just because I fancied a drink he'd be all for me having a cheeky chill out beverage and maybe join me.
This sounds like not only immature but also controlling behaviour from your husband. 🚩🚩🚩
Tbh if my partner kicked off and behaved like that at any point I would be extremely annoyed. Not okay.

He'd say "tough day?"

On the sauce I see !!!!!!!! I wish they still had the laughter emoji !

Ridiculous I am a husband and having the odd glass of wine after work is fine

Well said

You clearly have an issue with alcohol. A glass of wine a night is not an issue. I like the European attitude to wine with meals.

Thought you were going to say it was lunch time

my parents don’t drink at all & my dad thinks n anyone who has one drink is a raging alcoholic
I’ve obviously developed my own views on growing up & discovering other families have different ways of doing things & I’m quite partial to a midweek glass of vino after a stressful day

his reaction to you isn’t ok though. You’re an adult who can make your own choices, you don’t need his permission. I’d get a taxi to the nearest pub & let him stew

Your husband is being controlling.

In my house if I or DH want a drink/food/go for a run/whatever then we do so.