What would your husband say if he came home from work and you’d had a drink?

[khlolea]

I have had a glass of wine tonight after work, thought why not?
Dh is home and is furious, speaking to me like a disgrace and slamming cupboards.
I now have an uncomfortable silence which isn’t quite a silence because he’s saying he’s not giving me the silent treatment.

Nothing! But to be honest we are both wine lushes!

Say “good or bad day”. I either had a drink because I went out with a friend or I’ve had a shit day. I never drink except at Christmas. If I drove home after a drink then that’s a different story.

This.

It would be so unremarkable he wouldn't even think to comment.

Well I get in from work at 10am so he'd probably say "a bit early don't you think" 🤣🤣

Dh would find it amusing as I rarely drink whereas he has a glass of wine 3/4 times a week. He sometimes has a glass of wine with lunch. The thing is, what do you do now? Promise never to do it again? Drink only in secret? Or tell him that you are an adult and are allowed to have a glass of wine whenever you feel like it.

This it’s controlling behaviour. Your body, your money, your life, your choice!

A pint of wine ? Blooming 'ec. 😂

This guy sounds controlling as hell! Get out of that marriage. I rarely suggest this on here, but seriously. That's an enormous overreaction, an assumption that you should live as he does, and silent treatments are a form of abuse. A glass of wine one evening and he reacts like this? I am speechless. Are you living in a convent? I mean WTF?!

Mine would be confused as I don't drink alcohol. However he wouldn't behave like your partner, he would be asking me if I were OK.

Unless you have a drink problem I can't understand why he's so upset, even then there's a much better way of approaching it.

This. But you're perfectly entitled to have a drink if you want. Men don't own women's bodies. Put whatever you want in yours!

Currently my DH would raise an eyebrow as I'm not allowed to drink due to ill health (he'd then be finding out what's driven me to it 😂),. When I'm not ill, he'd ask where his is and would I like another. For what it's worth, I told my DH what you'd posted, his response was "What a controlling twat waffle!" 🤷🏼‍♀️

If you have an alcohol problem possibly although still childish behaviour on his part if you dont or haven't had one then this is controlling and weird

Do you have issues with alcohol? Or does he think you do?

He'd probably pour himself a glass unless he was going out again. Otherwise he wouldn't bat an eyelid unless I was half way through a bottle already.

I guess the question is how much do you usually drink in a typical week OP? Do you have a problem? I remember a recent thread about someone who drank 8 cans a day and didn't think they were an alcoholic.

If you are married to this man it's surely not a surprise for him to react this way. Unless it was some sort of arranged marriage and you only met him a week ago. I consider that to be bizarre and controlling behaviour but I'm guessing you knew that and picked him anyway, so what can we add?

Unless there’s a backstory involving an alcoholic parent or you have had a history of substance abuse, it seems like a gross overreaction from him. My DH would probably say ‘where’s mine then’ or something along those lines. He would be surprised nowadays since I no longer drink, but a few years ago it wouldn’t have been particularly unusual.

My teetotal DH would probably say 'bad day at the office?' or something similar. He would be totally fine about it. He definitely wouldn't make a fuss or say anything negative.

If you don't need to drive, don't have small DC or a drink problem then he's a misery Op. My DP wouldn't comment, I'm a big girl now and he knows I make my own choices. Slamming cupboards and calling you names reduces you to a naughty child.

Flipping heck what an overreaction- I usually have a drink after work and he would join me. He sounds like a bully. Can’t believe how many mumsnetters ‘hardly ever drink’ ‘out of character for me’ ‘simpers’.

He sounds insane.

He definitely wouldn’t behave like that

He wouldn't bat an eyelid. I'm a grown up and can do what I like...

I’d be so tempted to pour a second glass, just to make a point.