What would your husband say if he came home from work and you’d had a drink?

[khlolea]

I have had a glass of wine tonight after work, thought why not?
Dh is home and is furious, speaking to me like a disgrace and slamming cupboards.
I now have an uncomfortable silence which isn’t quite a silence because he’s saying he’s not giving me the silent treatment.

His choice not to drink. I’d be having a stern word about his behaviour and controlling behaviour

My DH would join me. He quite often has one poured for me on a Friday evening as he is home first

No were not alcoholics before anyone starts down that road

My hubby would think he might be on to something and tell me to have another 🤦‍♀️

Exactly this. Your husband sounds absolutely insufferable. I can only imagine that this is the tip of the iceberg in terms of wankerish behaviour. My DH probably wouldn't even comment if I had a random glass of wine. He certainly wouldn't tell me off like a 4 year old. Im an adult and can drink when I choose.

Fury is a very very weird reaction to getting home from work to find your wife has had a glass of wine after work.

Are you not allowed to enjoy anything without him being there? Have you asked him what his problem is? It sounds like your biggest problem is him.

When he was working he would have laughed and asked me to pour him a glass!

It would be very likely that I had. So nothing whatsoever. Other than maybe ask if he can have a glass of my wine. I'll invariably reply with 'what's wrong with your beer?'

Your husband sounds horrible. I mean if you were dying of liver failure and had just come out of a really expensive rehab I get he might be disappointed. But otherwise it's none of his concern!

My husband doesn’t drink. If he came home and saw me with a glass of wine, which he does sim nights, he would probably make a joke about “drinking again” and I would raise my glass and laugh back.
Your husband sounds like he has a problem

Hmm personally I think that anyone who comes home from work and pours a drink has a drink problem. Don’t care if I get flamed for this. Drinking during the week is a no no, Drinking afternoon/early evening, a no. I have AdHD going through bad perimenopause symptoms and wouldn’t dream of drinking alcohol to help me cope after a stressful day at work If you do rely on alcohol to unwind, you have a drinking problem in my book. The minute you start using alcohol as a crutch, that’s a problem. People don’t seem to realise how damaging alcohol is, a lot of breast cancers are due to drinking alcohol. My cousin just lost her life at 49, had breast cancer, loved her wine & gin. Someone else I worked with died of Brest cancer, she liked her drinking too. Just because it’s legal, doesn’t mean it’s safe to drink it. I think alot of women now have a drinking problem but to them its completely normal life.

Were you caring for children at the time? While I (and most people) could easily do that while having one drink, I would wait until they were in bed and would worry if DH couldn't do that unless it was at a party/bbq etc.

Same here. OP, I think he's being really out of order, you're an adult and assuming it isn't part of a bigger pattern, and doesn't impact on anything you're supposed to be doing at the time, you're perfectly entitled to pour yourself a drink if you want one.

Missing the point much

Thank God for that! 🤣🤣🤣

Seriously though, DH seems to be overreacting and I'm curious about any pertinent missing details 🤔

Did you know this was how your husband felt about drinking on ordinairy weekdays, before pouring yourself one?

He would say
"glass of wine on a school night? pour me one too then"
But then he isn't a controlling arsehole

My partner was once living with an alcoholic and has since been 100% tea-total himself. He is very sensitive to heavy drinking and has some lasting trauma. He'd ask me if my day was that bad (I am not a big drinker) and would likely suggest we went out for me to get a margarita (the only thing I drink, wine is not my tipple!) He has no problem with me drinking, I am an adult and make sensible chouces!

My husband would, but that’s because I’m a recovering alcoholic 😂 and my one glass would have been 3 bottles. But aside from that, no. He’ll often have a beer after work on a Thursday or Friday, or I’ll sometimes meet him at the pub on the way home (non alcoholic version for me)

According to some here you definitely are lol! No offence intended, I like a drink in the week too if I fancy one but it's my body, my money, my early start tomorrow and I'm a grown woman paying my way and keeping on top of everything so who cares? 🍷😁

Cut and dried then 🤷🏻‍♀️

I was going to say, he'd probably say "oi, where's mine?" then pour himself one, but as we don't generally drink on a Monday evening (or most weekday evenings except Friday), and certainly not so early, he'd probably ask me if everything was ok.

If it’s unusual for you to have a drink after work, surely it would raise concern and he should be asking if everything’s ok, not see his arse about it. Maybe he’s had a bad day and thought he deserved it more

My DH wouldn’t say anything about it.

I don't understand why he's angry. He needs to grow up. Is he controlling in other ways.

My husband would die of shock as I’ve not had a drink since 1997! 😂
Similar to your husband I come from a teetotal family, however, if I came home and my husband had poured a drink and it wasn’t the norm, I’d be more concerned at the reason for it and be checking he was ok, rather than calling him a disgrace.

I’d tell him to fuck right off if he was my husband. What a bell end