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To think England flags are intimidating?

201 replies

Nikki7506 · 07/09/2025 09:09

Let me start by saying I LOVE MY COUNTRY!🥰🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿
I am an Army veteran. I fly a tonne of flags for St Georges Day, major sporting tournaments, Royal occasions because I love the monarchy!! I'm the only person on my street who bothers to get the flags and bunting out, although, there is one other house on the next road who does too👍
Woke up one morning to find England flags all the way down the street. They were well high up on the lamp posts. I couldn't reach them so I complained to the council. I feel like I'm living in an EDL rally. The council finally sent an email saying they had removed the flags but they hadn't. They were still there.
So I decided to fly two pride flags from the lamp posts opposite my house. Before the end of the day an angry GAMMON 😡 ripped them down with such vigour I thought he might have a heart attack.
It made me really sad because to me the pride flag is a symbol of acceptance and kindness to everyone LGTBQ+, disabilities and everyone who is neither white nor English!!🏳️‍🌈
So I have to look at their flags (and its not the flag, the reason they're flying them is because Nigel wants everyone to hate immigrants and they are happy to use the England flag as a dog whistle ) but I can't fly mine😡
Am I being too upset by this? I'm seriously thinking of using a water gun with food dye in it. We have a diverse community here💖 The other day a man said hello to me in mandarin with his little toddler on his shoulders and it was lovely🌈 I don't just want to cut my neighbours loose and keep quiet😔 they are lovely people who deserve respect.
This feels like a Trump/Farage takeover😡
This sudden display of patriotism (Flag shagging) from folks who don't normally bother is a worry😬

OP posts:
BettysRoasties · 07/09/2025 13:57

A lot of them being put up are by groups rather than local residents though have funding via residents.

However the only way to claim the flag back from racism is to use the flag rather than hide the flag and be offended by it. If everyone treated it as just another flag like any other country it wouldn’t be able to be held captive by those who use it for racist reasons.

So on that basis I’m all for the flags. Fly them high and proud (not the round about shit) have them as bin stickers and painted rocks like the Welsh and Scottish and don’t let it be an offensive item let it just be a flag.

ilovesooty · 07/09/2025 14:02

If people want to fly flags in their own garden no one can stop them. No one has any business putting them on lamp posts. If someone climbs up on road bridges to drape them they should be prosecuted if they are identified. There's a crudely drawn red cross painted on a road sign near me. I've reported that as vandalism and presumably money will have to be spent removing the paint.

HRTQueen · 07/09/2025 14:12

usernamealreadytaken · 07/09/2025 13:13

And the Palestinain flag isn’t?

In some cases I believe can be I am not going to deny the growing antisemitism in this country and those who will hide their feeling behind the flag

but I am also aware of the genocide of the people in Gaza and that people are showing recognition of this

ainsleysanob · 07/09/2025 14:20

No, I don’t find any countries flag offensive or intimidating especially when it’s flown in the country it represents.
I saw many Slovenian flags when I was in Slovenia last week. Lovely sight and not at all intimidating.

zingally · 07/09/2025 14:40

thebabayaga2025 · 07/09/2025 13:51

How very fortunate for their neighbours they never ended up with you living next door to them. Whew. Close call for them.

I know right?!

Gingernessy · 07/09/2025 14:49

RobustPastry · 07/09/2025 09:34

Some very naive posters on here. Wake up. The St George’s flags are being put up by organised racist groups to intimidate at the moment. Territorial pissing.

The white road markings and the white street furniture getting red crosses painted on to them is the same racist vandalism which is designed to ‘mark territory’. It’s disgusting.

And why we all take notice and rave about it - they're achieving their aim.
Best ignored especially by the media

JudgeJ · 07/09/2025 14:55

WetSlates · 07/09/2025 09:25

Actually it’s interesting that no British people generally say they’re an ‘Army veteran’, they say ‘ex forces’, don’t they?

Both terms get used, I would say that 'vets' is the older of the two, in my town there used to be the Vets Club, a social club for ex servicemen.

JudgeJ · 07/09/2025 14:57

HRTQueen · 07/09/2025 14:12

In some cases I believe can be I am not going to deny the growing antisemitism in this country and those who will hide their feeling behind the flag

but I am also aware of the genocide of the people in Gaza and that people are showing recognition of this

So you accept some political use of flags if it's something with which you agree! MN hypocrisy at its best,

RobustPastry · 07/09/2025 15:01

Gingernessy · 07/09/2025 14:49

And why we all take notice and rave about it - they're achieving their aim.
Best ignored especially by the media

I very much disagree with ‘best ignored’
Why is that a better way to deal with racism?

Best disagreed with as publicly as possible, and that way also to show solidarity with the many groups that racists are trying to send an intimidating message to.

SuziQuinto · 07/09/2025 15:03

JudgeJ · 07/09/2025 14:57

So you accept some political use of flags if it's something with which you agree! MN hypocrisy at its best,

Good point, especially bearing in mind the first paragraph from that poster.

HRTQueen · 07/09/2025 15:07

JudgeJ · 07/09/2025 14:57

So you accept some political use of flags if it's something with which you agree! MN hypocrisy at its best,

I do not agree with any flag being used as a way to intimate people

nothing hypocritical about that

pilates · 07/09/2025 15:08

No, it doesn’t bother me but stopped reading when I saw gammon. Grow up!

SuziQuinto · 07/09/2025 15:08

HRTQueen · 07/09/2025 15:07

I do not agree with any flag being used as a way to intimate people

nothing hypocritical about that

The Palestinian flag has been used to intimidate Jewish people.
Obviously you and many other people on here will vehemently disagree with me, but I'm concerned about how and where it has been flown
Note: I am not supporting genocide or any war crimes before I am accused of this.

HRTQueen · 07/09/2025 15:10

SuziQuinto · 07/09/2025 15:08

The Palestinian flag has been used to intimidate Jewish people.
Obviously you and many other people on here will vehemently disagree with me, but I'm concerned about how and where it has been flown
Note: I am not supporting genocide or any war crimes before I am accused of this.

Edited

Have I said it hasn’t ever been used to intimidate Jewish people

maybe re read my previous post

Gingernessy · 07/09/2025 15:11

RobustPastry · 07/09/2025 15:01

I very much disagree with ‘best ignored’
Why is that a better way to deal with racism?

Best disagreed with as publicly as possible, and that way also to show solidarity with the many groups that racists are trying to send an intimidating message to.

Showing solidarity also applies to finding the cause of the problem and addressing it - not assuming that all protesters are bigots and all asylum seekers are genuine.
I find it staggering that so many people seem to think racism is confined to white indigenous brits. It isn't.

SuziQuinto · 07/09/2025 15:13

HRTQueen · 07/09/2025 15:10

Have I said it hasn’t ever been used to intimidate Jewish people

maybe re read my previous post

Good 👍. Perhaps it's not always flown with the most noble of intentions.

AcquadiP · 07/09/2025 15:17

CoffeeCupOnBreak · 07/09/2025 09:42

We are mixed race and religion first gen immigrants. The flags don't intimidate us. It's a flag of England 🤷 We just chose the "let them get it out of their system and their point out" path. Now physical face to face threads would be a different matter.
I do wish some put bit more artistry into the drawn flags though at least. And I do wish others just let it go and stopped proving their "can't even fly own flag" point...

And pride (whichever edition) flag has nothing to do with us.

👏 👏 👏

mackers1 · 07/09/2025 15:19

As a brown person, born and raised here, I do not find the flags intimidating or offensive. I have no reason to believe that I do not belong here so do not find them intimidating. I cannot see any situation why I would feel intimidated/offended by the flag of a country I am in.

The problem seems to be the lack of flags flying beforehand. So, just let them be and they will blend into the background.

Insanityisnotastrategy · 07/09/2025 15:29

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Whereas you're really doing the Armed Forces proud. I dread to think what it's like if you're representative of the aggression and nastiness.

SuziQuinto · 07/09/2025 15:34

mackers1 · 07/09/2025 15:19

As a brown person, born and raised here, I do not find the flags intimidating or offensive. I have no reason to believe that I do not belong here so do not find them intimidating. I cannot see any situation why I would feel intimidated/offended by the flag of a country I am in.

The problem seems to be the lack of flags flying beforehand. So, just let them be and they will blend into the background.

I think this is a good point actually, although I have seen the England flag fly, particularly for the Lionesses, which is great.

Wynter25 · 07/09/2025 15:36

No they look good!

Wynter25 · 07/09/2025 15:38

RobustPastry · 07/09/2025 09:34

Some very naive posters on here. Wake up. The St George’s flags are being put up by organised racist groups to intimidate at the moment. Territorial pissing.

The white road markings and the white street furniture getting red crosses painted on to them is the same racist vandalism which is designed to ‘mark territory’. It’s disgusting.

🙄🙄

The13thFairy · 07/09/2025 15:38

EmpressaurusKitty · 07/09/2025 09:23

It made me really sad because to me the pride flag is a symbol of acceptance and kindness to everyone LGTBQ+, disabilities and everyone who is neither white nor English!!🏳️‍🌈

To everyone, in fact, except people who think sex matters more than gender. I remember when it simply stood for the rights of same-sex-attracted people, regardless of race or whether they had disabilities.

I’m a lesbian & I used to love the rainbow flag but nowadays it feels actively hostile.

Edited

And the Pride flags in Regent Street, London. Intimidating - and, I think, intended to be.

EmpressaurusKitty · 07/09/2025 15:59

The13thFairy · 07/09/2025 15:38

And the Pride flags in Regent Street, London. Intimidating - and, I think, intended to be.

Horrible.

localnotail · 07/09/2025 16:50

In my view, you are only going to be intimidated in you dont consider yourself English, or dont consider you belong to this country. Its a flag of a country, not a flag of a white racist person. It needs to be owned by everyone who considers themselves English, and not made to be allowed to be seen as some sort of a far right symbol.

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