Page 8 | Can't Believe What I've Just Seen at a Wedding

MarvellousMonsters · 07/09/2025 18:21

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 06/09/2025 19:25

Actually I came home in the 'down time' photos etc. I posted because I was just so surprised by it.

And of course I can't take a photo of a stranger and post it on the internet!!! Christ. But she looks a bit like this, without the straps and with a train.
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Yep, that’s an evening dress, not an afternoon wedding guest dress, and with a train etc is definitely bridal. Maybe the reason she was gone by the time you got back was because the bride saw her and got someone to tell her to do one.

NavyTurtle · 07/09/2025 18:32

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 06/09/2025 18:15

Afternoon wedding, on a beach. Bride in traditional wedding dress, guests mostly in smart normal wedding attire.

One guest was in a wedding dress. A proper, full on wedding dress. Strapless, corset back, full length, big full skirt with a TRAIN.

The bride had asked guests not to wear white and it wasn't white but bloody hell, who would do that? She looked amazing in it but I simply can't understand the thought process. I've no idea who she was other than a friend of the bride, close enough to go to the hen night, but I'm pretty sure the bride wouldn't have said this dress was OK if she'd been asked. She wasn't a bridesmaid, literally just a guest with no other role to play at the wedding( unless she's going to step up and sing Don't Cry For Me Argentina at the reception later which is possible I suppose!)

I'm just gobsmacked that someone would do this.

Just ignore it. None of your business.

TheGetAlongGang · 07/09/2025 18:50

Cathandkin · 07/09/2025 15:15

Imagine telling people what to wear to your wedding. A wedding is more than the photos, surely?

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My sister in law told me I had to pay for my own dress (bridesmaid) and red dresses for my dds (flower girls) and grey/white for my ds's (pageboys)

She didn't offer a penny for this-she seemed to think i should be honoured to pay (i was a skint single mum)

Silly cow then changed the colour schemes to pink/white but didn't tell me

First I knew about this was on the day-we all looked like lemons in the photos (us in red/grey and everyone else in pink/white)

Thankfully I'm nc with her now because she did nothing but slag me off for 'ruining her big day'

Her mother has never forgiven me and I don't really give a fuck

dynamiccactus · 07/09/2025 18:55

LemonTT · 07/09/2025 10:44

This is a great post. The rules are nonsense and instead of getting more relaxed they are becoming absurd. Guests spend stupid amounts of money to attend these events only to be made to feel uncomfortable throughout the day whilst forced to dress according to stupid rules.

For this reason alone I would applaud someone turning up in a ballgown to stick 2 fingers up at the pomposity. I mean who the hell thinks a beach wedding is a good idea? heat, wind, sand and water spray along with a dress code.

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And stupid rules that are IYKYK.

No wonder neurodiverse people struggle, all these unwritten rules that somehow you know by osmosis.

I've not been to many weddings but I've never seen anyone have a hissy fit about what people were wearing and I suspect most people don't care. I didn't know about the beige/white thing until I joined MN. Well if that's the case, why are so many dresses like that sold for weddings? Go and look at Phase Eight and then tell me it's not ok to wear a beige dress to a wedding if you are not a bride!

eg https://www.phase-eight.com/product/annika-midi-dress-10004100785.html#cgid=mother-of-the-bride&is=true&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=10004100785&pos=46

Annika Midi Dress | Phase Eight UK |

Annika Midi Dress

https://www.phase-eight.com/product/annika-midi-dress-10004100785.html#cgid=mother-of-the-bride&is=true&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=10004100785&pos=46

Dawnb19 · 07/09/2025 18:57

She either has a thing for the groom, a mad MIL or hates the wife.

dynamiccactus · 07/09/2025 18:58

wasdarknowblond · 07/09/2025 18:12

FFS is she totally stupid or something?

Something - she doesn't understand MN roolz.

KatsWhiskas · 07/09/2025 19:04

SheSpeaks · 06/09/2025 21:39

I’ll preface this with I’m not a wedding person and have zero idea of the “rules” that are apparently just common knowledge (exactly how one gains this knowledge nobody can ever explain to me) but these thread always astound me.

As far as I can tell these rules only apply to women and men can all wear matching or similar suits etc and that’s fine. But what I have learned so far from MN in terms of weddings is:

Women must not, as a wedding guest, wear the same colour as the bride. Even if we don’t know in advance what colour that is. We must not wear white because it has a recent association with women getting married in the UK (very recent, white is in no way traditional). We must not wear red because it indicates a scandal. We must not wear green because it means jealousy or is bad luck. Or black because it indicates mourning and is associated with funerals. We must not wear pale colours lest it is mistaken for white, not lace in case the brides dress has lace, nor white background patterns because of photos. No styling that might be mistaken for a wedding dress (such styling is found in a large percentage of formal wear) Also not formal enough to wear separates, and entirely frowned upon to choose anything someone might interpret as showy or with too much leg or cleavage.

Now I learn we also cannot wear pink or ball gowns.

I have worn pretty much all of above to weddings in the past including white, and including wearing the same colour as the bride, and realise I have lived my life in a perpetual state of faux pas. And yet nobody has seemed concerned and all my friends are still talking to me and most of them am still invited me to their second and third weddings so I can’t have annoyed them too much.

Please do tell me how we are supposed to intuit these mad rules and even better do tell why they only apply to women and why they only apply at the one specific social occasion of a wedding?

Totally agree 😁
Why is it OK for all the men to look identical-and interchangeable-at weddings, but women have to follow these ridiculous rules?

pipthomson · 07/09/2025 19:20

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 06/09/2025 18:15

Afternoon wedding, on a beach. Bride in traditional wedding dress, guests mostly in smart normal wedding attire.

One guest was in a wedding dress. A proper, full on wedding dress. Strapless, corset back, full length, big full skirt with a TRAIN.

The bride had asked guests not to wear white and it wasn't white but bloody hell, who would do that? She looked amazing in it but I simply can't understand the thought process. I've no idea who she was other than a friend of the bride, close enough to go to the hen night, but I'm pretty sure the bride wouldn't have said this dress was OK if she'd been asked. She wasn't a bridesmaid, literally just a guest with no other role to play at the wedding( unless she's going to step up and sing Don't Cry For Me Argentina at the reception later which is possible I suppose!)

I'm just gobsmacked that someone would do this.

Some people just want the limelight whether or not it is appropriate
they can’t bear not to be the centre of attention
other people’s needs are always secondary they lack empathy and a sense of how to behave in a way that doesn’t feed their own ego

BigFatBully · 07/09/2025 19:21

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 06/09/2025 19:29

Why Is Your Subject Line Capitalized Like AI Wrote It?

Subject titles should be capitalized.

As for your claim that AI wrote it, it's getting very tiring seeing the same posts about AI, Daily Mail journalists, trolls, chat GPT etc. All it does is throw threads off topic. I highly doubt someone would spend their evening copying and pasting an AI story about a wedding dress on a motherhood forum for a method of entertainment.

If you don't like/believe a post, you don't have to read or respond to it.

DuckCootLoon · 07/09/2025 19:23

My Aunt got married in blue, and my Granny said no one would know she was the bride. My Aunt said "I'll be the one at the front".
I also got married in blue, all my guests knew I was the bride because I invited them to my wedding.

WearyAuldWumman · 07/09/2025 19:24

QueenOfTheDarkAges · 06/09/2025 19:27

I believe you OP. I've been at a wedding where the same thing happened, so much so that people in the street thought the guest was the bride. We were all (bride included) incredulous. I do not understand how anyone can think this is appropriate!

The MOB wore something similar to a wedding I attended a few years ago...but with the bride's approval.

The MOG was wearing a skirt suit. The MOB looked like Miss Havisham.

WearyAuldWumman · 07/09/2025 19:32

WizardOfTopsham · 07/09/2025 08:43

The only time I’ve commented on another guest’s wedding attire was where the bride’s cousin wore a white suit. Not because it was white, but because she wore no top or bra under the jacket, and I don’t think many of the people present escaped without seeing her tits. Including the vicar.

I miss the laugh emoji.

Phatgurslyms · 07/09/2025 19:40

Letsgoroundagainnow · 07/09/2025 01:46

I don’t think I’ve been to a wedding where 100% of my time I was dazzled by the entertainment and unable to do anything else?

Why would it be a shit wedding because OP accessed her phone?

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Most of the guests are probably on their phone - filming, tweeting, pre and re tweeting.

Cathandkin · 07/09/2025 19:48

TheGetAlongGang · 07/09/2025 18:50

My sister in law told me I had to pay for my own dress (bridesmaid) and red dresses for my dds (flower girls) and grey/white for my ds's (pageboys)

She didn't offer a penny for this-she seemed to think i should be honoured to pay (i was a skint single mum)

Silly cow then changed the colour schemes to pink/white but didn't tell me

First I knew about this was on the day-we all looked like lemons in the photos (us in red/grey and everyone else in pink/white)

Thankfully I'm nc with her now because she did nothing but slag me off for 'ruining her big day'

Her mother has never forgiven me and I don't really give a fuck

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How petty, all because of outfit colour schemes! You're well rid

AliCatWalk · 07/09/2025 19:52

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 06/09/2025 19:29

Why Is Your Subject Line Capitalized Like AI Wrote It?

Oops, I've done that when making posts, didn't realize that's AI coded 🙈

Nessiesfoodprovider · 07/09/2025 20:56

Do you think that the woman in the wedding dress type dress was the first wife of one of the people getting married that day and was there to object - but went to the wrong ceremony?

PoppetOne · 07/09/2025 20:59

My SIL did this at my wedding. I didn’t notice and people only mentioned it afterward and they told me that DH’s friends (who she knew very well) were merciless and took the piss all day.

TheGetAlongGang · 07/09/2025 21:11

Cathandkin · 07/09/2025 19:48

How petty, all because of outfit colour schemes! You're well rid

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Homest to God,we looked like real idiots

A sea of pinks and whites and 2 dds and myself standing there like giant tomatoes

Red is not and never will be my colour

Cathandkin · 07/09/2025 21:16

TheGetAlongGang · 07/09/2025 21:11

Homest to God,we looked like real idiots

A sea of pinks and whites and 2 dds and myself standing there like giant tomatoes

Red is not and never will be my colour

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😂giant tomatoes 😂!

Bigearringsbigsmile · 07/09/2025 21:23

TheLastOfTheMohicans · 07/09/2025 17:55

Pale pink, so a good chance of showing up white on photos, classy!

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With the modern super duper cameras everyone has now, why on earth would pink show up as white? It's just a nonsense!

WeirdyBeardyMarrowBabyLady · 07/09/2025 21:32

I didn't take a photograph. The woman presumably would recognise herself if she saw it. She had gone home by the time I went back to the reception in any case.

Tbh if by some chance she opened and read the thread and hadn’t already worked out it was her from the description then I’m not sure a photo would make much difference…

TheLastOfTheMohicans · 07/09/2025 21:33

Bigearringsbigsmile · 07/09/2025 21:23

With the modern super duper cameras everyone has now, why on earth would pink show up as white? It's just a nonsense!

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I said it as its true, not all wedding photographers can pre set perfect lighting situations, do a photography course and get educated instead of ranting, flashes and sunlight are not always friends

ElCorazon · 07/09/2025 22:17

If I was a bride I really couldn’t give a rat’s ass who wore what. My main concern would be that everybody has a good time, eats and drinks, dances their ass off and goes home happy. If everybody knows that I am the bride they certainly won’t confuse me with another woman who wears a ball gown or also wears white. Who came up with these stupid rules anyway? Why can’t some random woman wear white other than the bride at a wedding? Who cares? Do people really notice these things? Same with how the bridesmaids wear their hair or what make-up they have on. Why do they have to look identical?
All this bridezilla bs is coming over from the US and people take it so seriously as if their life depends on it. 🙄

magiciansgirlonce · 08/09/2025 01:08

The woman was nasty

Daygloboo · 08/09/2025 01:34

Bulbsbulbsbulbs · 06/09/2025 19:25

Actually I came home in the 'down time' photos etc. I posted because I was just so surprised by it.

And of course I can't take a photo of a stranger and post it on the internet!!! Christ. But she looks a bit like this, without the straps and with a train.
share.google/T8zR5bPLk7WHlVaWi

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Is it an evening do ?