To think our wedding might be massive failure?!

[Nervousb2b]

Hey guys, name change for this...

Will our wedding in a few weeks be a total disaster? The plan for the day:

1. A morning, Christian ceremony in a rural village church with around 40 adults and 10 children. Our two children will also be in attendance (our DD is only 18 months, very clingy and will likely need to walk down the aisle with me...)

2. A 40 minute drive to a rural pub located in the middle of a national park

3. A sit down, relatively casual 2 course meal there (I think a few people want to say a few words but we haven't planned for it as such)

4. A 20 minute drive to the final venue where guests who are staying will be with us. It has wild swimming in a natural lake, fire pits, hot tubs, and we've got a pizza van coming for evening food and alcohol will be there for when we arrive.

5. No music is allowed at the final venue (eeeeek). We aren't party animals and I want an early night due to small children, so I'm hoping this might work in our favour? Or is it really boring?!

6. For the following morning I have arranged for a caterer to come and provide breakfast, leaving for 10:00.

Does this sound okay to you? We are really panicking that it'll be a bit crap due to multiple venues, driving, children and no real plan!!!

EDIT:

You are being unreasonable - it will be fine
You are not being unreasonable - crikey, what a terrible plan that is

Sounds lovely and if you end up actually married it won’t be a failure :) x

I think it sounds lovely.

Sounds awful but it’s not my wedding and I’d do it for someone I loved. I’m sure some of my guests didn’t like our wedding but it wasn’t their day. If you end up married then it’s a success!

It sounds fabulous and if everyone behaves, it shd be fine..if a person has planned a wedding they understand the stress and shd not want to add to yours by complaining. As a guest I personally would go with the flow.

2 things stand though - multiple venues and lack of music at the last evening venue. Not much you can do now. Your guests shd just be happy for you.

The 40 min drive isn't ideal but wouldn't really bother me as it sounds like the evening will be really relaxing.The final venue sounds perfect and I would much rather do that than a full on party.
I don't think you need to worry 😊

The wedding is a success if you come out of it married. If you think you will enjoy that day then that’s what matters. It’s not about the guests it’s about you spending the rest of your lives together

i think it sounds amazing but I adore wild swimming.

please can i come!?

sounds absolutely wonderful! Have an amazing day!

p.s to the haters - if you need to drink to have a good time, time to have a good chat to youself!

I wouldn’t look forward to this due to the driving, number of venues and lack of music. But I’m sure you’ll enjoy the day and it isn’t likely that any of your guests will complain so I’d just crack on with it at this point!

You've got people driving from the pub, so some are drinking alcohol, to another venue 20 minutes away, where there's food and more alcohol and a lake.

Are people going to be drinking and driving home from the lake? Is there a lifeguard around the swim area at the lake?

Drinking and driving and drinking and cold lake swimming would be my concerns.

Love the sound of this wedding. The driving and non-drinking wouldn’t bother me. There’ll be drinks later! I like the idea of breaking up the day. I’ve been to weddings where you’re stuck in one venue all day and it’s tedious! I love a DIY wedding rather than the off-the-shelf ones. Good luck and have a great day 💐💍💒🥂🩱

It sounds lovely to me OP. I hope you have a wonderful time!

They’re coming for you. The logistics might not be ideal but it won’t matter. Enjoy and congrats!

Sounds lovely to me.

Organised in two months…very impressive. Enjoy the day and be glass half full if there are any hiccups. My friends daughter got married and as we arrived at the venue it poured with rain. We all rushed inside and after a while started to drift back out and there was a beautiful double rainbow. You will have a lovely day.

Same.

Have a great day, though, sounds like your guests are up for it.

I think it’s a lot to be expected from guests I wouldn’t want to be driving that much as a wedding guest as nice as it does sound the whole thing I think this may not be enjoyed as much if you can’t even listen to music at the last venue either

it all sounds amazing! I don’t like dancing and loud music and would love to be tucked up in bed by 10pm. Congratulations.

It sounds wonderful. I want to come!

It sounds lovely and really suited to you! So many weddings follow the exact same format in very similar venues, with very samey food, music, overpriced bars etc. Whilst they're fun, they do all get a bit repetitive after a while. And tbh they've all merged into one, not much stands out to me from them as being special. The one wedding I do remember very well was much more informal, in a relaxed setting much like yours. Yours sounds way more interesting and varied than the usual wedding. Noone who loves you will begrudge driving a bit throughout the day.. some of these posters must lead extremely miserly lives if they wouldn't do a bit of a drive to have an amazing day with people they love.

It sounds amazing. I'd love to go to a wedding like this!

Not read all the comments, but sounds like this is an outside wedding evening party with no music in November? I hope you are blessed with a warm day. Having done Remembrance Parades for many years, it can be absolutely freezing in November and you’ve chosen a place that sounds beautiful for a July Wedding…but November….are coats, blankets and umbrellas being supplied? Only the hardiest of wild swimmers I know continue through the winter. 🥶

It sounds wonderful!

Sounds lovely!

Its your wedding and you have it how you want it. It sounds like a lot of thought has gone in to it. Enjoy your day. x