men on mumsnet

[LittleMi55Nobody]

ladies..just wondering..are you fed up of men posting on mumsnet..why don't they start their own "dadsnet/mansnet" group..im getting fed up of obvious "male" comments undermining our woman issues....quite honestly id like them to fuck off cos im not interested in their opinons on womanship

Really decent men would want you to undo that social conditioning that makes you leap to their defense.

😂😂

and here we go again. You know it's possible to have an opinion, and consider PEOPLE, not believing in that "sisterhood" nonsense, without "defending" men.

It's says more about you, believing that everything we think or express is because of men, than it says about me.

It's an everything forum.

over the years forums like this (where activity appears in chronological order uninterfered with by algorithms) have slowly disappeared one by one. We can thank Facebook for this, though it doesn't give you the same experience.

On FB, an algorithm chooses what "threads" you will see in a group. People are fed up with it and are coming to the last few remaining bastions of an actual chat forum.

I'm a childfree woman, so I really don't fit the tag line of "by parents, for parents." If anything, according to that logic a dad has more "right" to be here than me 🤷🏼‍♀️

And you can bugger off somewhere else too 🤷‍♂️

But as you haven't, you'll just have to accept that this is not a female only website.

This is rather unnecessarily negative, but sums up the way the majority of MNers appear to view men.

I imagine it’s mostly innocuous. They may feel they’re entering a space that’s primarily designed for women’s voices and want to acknowledge they’re “not the usual demographic” and situating their perspective.

Or they might be unsure whether their presence is welcome. By announcing “man here”, they’re pre-emptively acknowledging they’re outsiders.

Or sometimes it’s less about relevance and more about a ritualistic disclaimer — a bit like saying “take this with a pinch of salt.” Even if sex isn’t central, they may feel it matters to note their outsider status.

@AromanticSpicesI have just literally laughed out loud at this on my very crowded train home!

Exactly.

I do think some people are being deliberately thick now.

how does it impact US?

Does it affect you in any way if non-parents post on here?
How does men posting have any effect? It doesn't affect me. Trolls, male or female, and keyboard warriors affect me. Sex and gender? couldn't care less.

It's more boring to be unable to have any thread without someone jumping screaming "Patriarchy" and "men HATE us". Calm down Linda, we were talking about apple crumbles 😂

No it's not

They have to start somewhere, but it's easier to jump after the ladies have done all the work isn't it...

Did you just call posting on a chat forum 'work'? 👀🤣

This forum is for men as well, however,
I usually start seeing red when I spot a thread starting "Dad here, my wife wouldn't be intimate with me anymore".
Glad not to have this nonsense in my life, very glad.

Well if it isn't "work" then it would simple enough for men to do. Right?

Because the owners of Mumsnet do not believe that Mumsnet should exclude fathers or limit their access to a single topic. And to reinforce that they deliberately include the tagline "for parents, by parents".

If you don't like that you are free to petition Justine et al to change their stance. Just do remember that it has been tried before and failed every time because Mumsnet as a company doesn't agree with you.

Not daft in the slightest. They have started somewhere, but it’s not working for various reasons. The forums are not active or well populated.

Mumsnet, the organisation, welcomes men posters, so saying they are ‘jumping after the ladies have done all the work’ is the daft thing to say. For what reason wouldn’t they post somewhere they are welcome to?

Mumsnet the organisation has decided it ‘should impact you’ as it welcome them. So it’s rather your problem if you don’t like it.

It's not working because they give up...

It's obviously that they are not universally welcome here. You don't have to agree.

It's obvious that they're welcome by the people who own this site. You don't have to agree.

Who are ’they’ when it’s only a separated group of individuals?

They are welcome by Mumsnet. Full stop. The users aren’t the organisation. The users just make use of the organisation.

Those with an issue with that have to either put up with it or move on.

Isn't it for cruises?

You're serious aren't you?

Work rather than leisure?

Blimey. I might start calling going out for dinner and drinks with my friends 'work' now.

My CV will be bursting! 🤣

Yanbu I hate it.

Exactly. So there’s no point in someone griping that they are fed up of them on the specific website that welcome them.

I'm flattered

Dad’s are parents too, this is the largest parent forum, what if they don’t have a support system? Or another parent? They don’t deserve to get advice re their children? I don’t know what (if any) negative impact it has had on any mumsnetters

Yep.

Misandry is just as bad as misogyny.

It's an interesting place at times and some just can't see the irony!

Or the zombie threads that are resurrected often late at night, normally the cross dressing ones etc, the resurrection post is normally about how it should be embraced.
It's really, really pathetic and creepy to be trawling MN for old posts on your own fetishes to try to encourage women to be into them too, on threads where normally the OP was actually very distressed about it.