Why wouldn’t someone bring this up?

[Janelizzy]

Let’s say a woman and a man were intimate after a date. The intimacy was strong and passionate felt like making love. Lots of eye contacting kissing your feet all over your body. Lets say the man didn’t want you to leave, he became super affectionate that night after the intimacy. Lots of hugging pulling you in for cuddling. Willing to pay for you not to go work the next day.

the next day comes and he reaches out and is initiating communication with you. Yet he hasn’t brought up what happened between you too? He’s more so talking about everyday things like work, asking you about your day etc….. but no talks about what happened? The texts are very thoughtful not one worded. He’s been communicating like this for days but no talk about what happened.

Why would he need to? You were both there and both knew what happened. He is carrying on in a normal manner.

What are you expecting him to bring up?

It’s a bit strange to want to debrief after good sex. What exactly did you want him to say?

He offered to pay for you to miss work?!

You were kissing each other's feet?
He offered to essentially pay you for sex?

Did you expect him to be like "wow last night we amazing. You did some great work?"

I don't think I've ever discussed a shag the next day. Are you expecting a report or a review or something?

Seems odd and infantile. Not him.

Yeah like pay for the money that I would be making that day at work

He was kissing mine

How intimate? Are you talking about sex?

What is there to talk about? To be honest, I would be weirded out by someone wanting to talk about a shag after the fact.
Maybe keep checking TripAdvisor and see if he gives you 5 stars.

I've had this happen once. Wish I'd taken him up on it 😂

Yes multiple rounds at that

So bring it up yourself? I presume you want round 2 so tell him that…?

Yet he hasn’t brought up what happened between you too?

What exactly do you expect him to say?

You know many women would think he's a creep if he was starting to text about sex the following day, don't you 😂

Do you need feedback about how you did? A number out of 10?
what do you want him to say?

Not sex. Making love.

Reminds me of that episode on Black Mirror, where people rate every interaction they ever have. It wasn't about sex, but is that what the OP wants?

5 stars, great shag, would recommend? 😂

WHY is the 😂reaction not back

😂😂

Sounds fine apart from offering to pay you to stay off work. That’s weird and potentially bad for your relationship with your employer.

Paying me to miss work would be a red flag to me. But wanting to do an analysis on last nights shag would be an even bigger one. Why on earth would you expect a discussion after sex? It happened, you’re communicating well afterwards, what’s the issue?

There is a series called 'Upload' (is very good), where people using apps like Tinder etc get to give each other a review and rating after sex.

Are you the person in America with the obsession with arms in photos and the stalker man who gives you money before you even met him?

He seems overly intense and a bit cringeworthy especially the foot kissing thing. He has a foot fetish and that alone would give me the ‘ick’ as they say. Different strokes for different folks, I guess 😂.

As for as the sex talk, I would maybe expect a comment immediately after, like ‘that was amazing’ or whatever but I wouldn’t want a conversation the next day, that’s odd.

I think I’d cringe myself inside out if DH wanted to “discuss” our latest shag.

This man is keen and keeping in touch. What more do you want?