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To think that people are very harsh on here.

114 replies

Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 15:50

I'm quite new on here but have been on forums for years and owned several. I miss forums, so thought I'd give this one a try. I am truly shocked at how some posters on here speak to people who are clearly upset with various issues. AIBU?

OP posts:
UnhappyHobbit · 01/09/2025 17:42

You need skin thicker than whales blubber to post on Aibu! Speaking from experience 😂

And sometimes you post a little comment and someone tries to rip you to shreds! I had a nasty comment this weekend, it was so unnecessary. It makes me realise that people need to feel important and they come here to do it. Pathetic really!

ilovesooty · 01/09/2025 17:42

Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 16:11

I did. Which is fucking why I started this thread.

How many parts of the site have you visited apart from AIBU? There is a different feel to other sections.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 01/09/2025 17:43

Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 17:37

Ok, so you want me gone? Again proving my point.

I honestly don't care what you do although it would be nice if you could post like an adult instead of a stroppy teen. But I am a bit curious why you are sticking around if you think we are all so terrible and beneath you?

TaupeMember · 01/09/2025 17:43

Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 17:39

Just experienced it.

But youre the one calling everyone insects and all sorts!

What are you on about!

I call bs. Nobody can be this unself-aware

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 01/09/2025 17:44

Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 17:39

Just experienced it.

And dished it out quite nicely too.
Signed, the saddo!

Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 17:45

RedStand · 01/09/2025 17:38

Being direct, sometimes harsh and blunt is okay really. It’s not my style, but I accept it’s part of online life.

What is really irritating to me is when people nitpick about some pretty irrelevant point. I don’t know, is it an attempt to look clever? They invent stuff that the OP never said, try to mock them and discredit them because of some pretty trivial issue. And then people join in and it goes round and round and misses the point of the OP. That can make threads really boring.

Agree. And if you actually want to help the OP or just read people's helpful posts, you give in and stop watching it because several people are all arguing about trivia or trying to make themselves the the main person of the thread and the OP decides that life is too short to pander to them and just stops answering.

OP posts:
Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 17:46

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 01/09/2025 17:44

And dished it out quite nicely too.
Signed, the saddo!

Good for you admitting it.

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AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 01/09/2025 17:48

Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 17:46

Good for you admitting it.

Awww your so witty. Must take ages to think them up

Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 17:49

ilovesooty · 01/09/2025 17:42

How many parts of the site have you visited apart from AIBU? There is a different feel to other sections.

Many.

OP posts:
Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 17:50

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 01/09/2025 17:48

Awww your so witty. Must take ages to think them up

I am married. Please stop this complete fascination with me.

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TaupeMember · 01/09/2025 17:54

Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 17:50

I am married. Please stop this complete fascination with me.

Oh my days, its like youre 12!!

The total irony of you coming on here to criticise everyone else for being harsh when youre doing your best to start arguments with multiple posters!

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 01/09/2025 17:54

Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 17:50

I am married. Please stop this complete fascination with me.

😂😂😂.
Ok I'm calling bot now!
Still it's interesting how you didn't answer why your still here if you think it's so dreadful.

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 01/09/2025 17:55

@TaupeMember Oh my days, its like youre 12!!

Nail on head!

GreenFlag · 01/09/2025 18:00

We all know most of them are big enough to say it online but too small to say it in real life.

We wouldn’t be behaving like this if we were men.

TaupeMember · 01/09/2025 18:01

GreenFlag · 01/09/2025 18:00

We all know most of them are big enough to say it online but too small to say it in real life.

We wouldn’t be behaving like this if we were men.

There are lots of men on here, not always clearly stated as such

ilovesooty · 01/09/2025 18:05

Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 17:49

Many.

I'm surprised you've seemingly found everywhere you've visited unpleasant.

ruethewhirl · 01/09/2025 18:08

I couldn’t agree more OP. Lately I keep thinking I should try to stick to the more benign parts of MN, AIBU has been even more of a snake pit than usual of late, and that’s saying something.

Dontlletmedownbruce · 01/09/2025 18:12

There is a fair percentage of people who post on AIBU that have the critical thinking of a 3 year old and are highly unreasonable. They are women who have polarised views on everything, put people down, ridicule anyone who doesn't agree with them, occasionally bully other posters and complain that men are the problem. It's actually comical sometimes

Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 18:15

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CarpetKnees · 01/09/2025 18:16

Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 16:45

What?

AnAlapaca's post is pretty clear.

Which part don't you understand ?

Though I'm not sure why anyone would want to help someone who joins a forum to criticise it, then posts with all the subtly of a rhinoceros and has already had to be deleted for breaking talk guidelines Hmm

Many of us have been here for years and years without ever managing to be so offensive their posts need to be deleted.

The irony of this thread is massive.

Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 18:16

ruethewhirl · 01/09/2025 18:08

I couldn’t agree more OP. Lately I keep thinking I should try to stick to the more benign parts of MN, AIBU has been even more of a snake pit than usual of late, and that’s saying something.

Thank you x

OP posts:
Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 18:17

Dontlletmedownbruce · 01/09/2025 18:12

There is a fair percentage of people who post on AIBU that have the critical thinking of a 3 year old and are highly unreasonable. They are women who have polarised views on everything, put people down, ridicule anyone who doesn't agree with them, occasionally bully other posters and complain that men are the problem. It's actually comical sometimes

Yes!

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Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 18:20

CarpetKnees · 01/09/2025 18:16

AnAlapaca's post is pretty clear.

Which part don't you understand ?

Though I'm not sure why anyone would want to help someone who joins a forum to criticise it, then posts with all the subtly of a rhinoceros and has already had to be deleted for breaking talk guidelines Hmm

Many of us have been here for years and years without ever managing to be so offensive their posts need to be deleted.

The irony of this thread is massive.

It certainly is now that you have joined it.

OP posts:
TaupeMember · 01/09/2025 18:23

CarpetKnees · 01/09/2025 18:16

AnAlapaca's post is pretty clear.

Which part don't you understand ?

Though I'm not sure why anyone would want to help someone who joins a forum to criticise it, then posts with all the subtly of a rhinoceros and has already had to be deleted for breaking talk guidelines Hmm

Many of us have been here for years and years without ever managing to be so offensive their posts need to be deleted.

The irony of this thread is massive.

This!

Comments getting deleted already? Wowsers

Allswellthatendswelll · 01/09/2025 18:24

I don't mind a salty comment if it's fair. What annoys me is people who don't bother to read any clarifications from the OP or people who just basically lack reading comprehension.

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