Day out friends..they left to go to diff restaurant on their own

[TFICoffeetime]

Met up with close friends yesterday. We live opposite sides country. We picked scenic village, countryside & meal at a nice country inn.
We were 40 mins late (it's 2.5 hrs for us) 1 hour drive for us & got caught in traffic then stopped once to let DD go to the toilet & stretched dogs legs so she'd wee. All communicated with friends. We arrived, had lovely stroll, river swim and meal at nice country inn with great views. They had booked the meal...we thought lovely place. But when we got there they said they had to leave at 5.30 to go to another restaurant (just them and child). They are starters and went. They said they hadn't realised this place was a fave restaurant & was close to their home. (So why go today). So we were left. It felt v awkward & like punishment for being late maybe. It had been lovely day and ended on weird vibes.
We finished our meal on own then went to another beautiful inn for pudding. After this I feel perplexed. AIBU to think their actions rude & far ruder than been late. We weren't intentionally late & just how it goes with traffic & teenagers.
I don't understand why we couldn't enjoy the meal together as planned. They booked it on the day (it felt like because we were late). We avoided confrontation but left sour note. Our children were perplexed. Just odd & awkward. This friend doesn't like confrontation even if it's "we were a bit sad you changed to go elsewhere" so she wouldn't discuss if I did. But I'm left feeling am I wrong. I just can't see myself having issues if they had longer to drive and was late & I would not change plans on a meal that was meant to be spent together. Xxx

It crops up more and more, a really mocking tone about things that some people cant do

I started a thread about something as innocuous as getting paint splatters off a window and to a suggestion that I use a window/knife scraper that can be used for that, I explained Im not confident with that, was then called 'pathetic' and then I explained I have a disability which could be hazardous, was mocked for that!

Unbelievable

Post was rightly deleted but someone has the gall to do that!

Really? I am no genius and understood first time. Which bit are you struggling with?

I have done
But I shouldn't have to have people mocking me either

I am also still car sick in the back of a car and often need the window opening for fresh air.
Thank god my family had some empathy not like some vile people on here .

I believe that truly content people do not post unnecessarily nasty messages online.

@DramaLlamacchiato that was a very uncalled for post.

@bevm72yellow there was no delay to eating their meal.

@TFICoffeetime, I honestly don’t know how you aren’t ready to explode when eleventy billion posts in you’re still getting bloody stupidly irrelevant replies like this! 🌼

They. Weren’t. Late. For. The. Meal.

The actual reading . They cant read big words 🤣

Some people are just vile for the sake of it .🤬

One particularly has been making horrible comments the whole time.
No wonder the world is so fucked up now ‼️

What an entirely unpleasant individual you are. Maybe you should talk to someone about that.

I think, because she doesn't like confrontation, she's done what she did. The argument about how much to leave is her bubbling over. They've been left on their own (as a group) so they've left your group. Going elsewhere for pudding is perfectly normal.

Did your friend reply OP?

seems something happened between the husband and wife or even someone had an IBS type episode?

hope you’re ok? X

@TFICoffeetime , Next time you go on a long journey by car, add a buffer for loo breaks and traffic.
I would stop on a 2.5 hr journey, because I'm a firm believer in 'go when you can, not when you have to'.

I'm not sure how far I'd get in 2.5 hrs, but google maps times for me don't factor in that the first 3 miles take about half an hour.

Given where you were meeting, and that you messaged, the lateness shouldn't be a big deal.

Like others, I think that it's probably a couple's argument not you that's the issue.

In your position, I'd text your friend and ask if she's OK, and mention that it was an abrupt end to an otherwise agreeable day.

Wow. This thread is utterly horrible. Again.

I don't think you have read the post. They were not 40 minutes late to the meal. The meal was pre-booked and they arrived on plenty of time for that. They met hours before the prearranged meal. They all had a walk and a swim before the meal
If they were so annoyed by them arriving late to the meet up why did they spend three hours with them socialising and only decide to leave after they had started the meal?

Aah I feel for you OP. Not sure why you are getting so many mean comments.
Even if you were a constantly late, flaky friend, the grown up thing to do would have been to have a chat about it. Your friend’s behaviour is just weird.
Makes me wonder if it’s actually nothing to do with you and maybe they have something else going on. Maybe something like their relationship is breaking down and they struggled to keep up the facade for any longer?
Honestly it would drive me crazy not knowing why they behaved so weirdly, I would have to send a message and ask the reason and if it was anything to do with me.

Omg - the pile on the poor OP has experienced is awful.

I don't like being late, will do my best to avoid it. I also travel long distances regularly. Being 40mins late on a 2.5 hour journey is one of those things. It happens. Stopping for a wee as a healthy adult also sometimes happens. The friends had a much easier journey.

Them leaving part way through a meal at a restaurant of their choosing knowing OP and her family had a 2.5 hour drive home is beyond rude.

What a spiteful thing to say. OP has been here all afternoon as she is responding to people on her own thread. She has said that she is dyslexic in response to people pulling her posts apart and mocking her.

She did buffer for stops. She has already said that. And that there was an unexpected closure on motorway.

Maybe they had plans to meet someone else at the other restaurant in the evening?

Come back and let us know what they say im response to your message asking them@TFICoffeetime

I am now interested who can hold their bladder for hours on end ?
I am at home and been for at least 6 wees in the last hour .
I may have a small bladder , who knows ?
But once its full there is no over flow or spare …you have to go ‼️

Being late is a choice… always.

This person has been a revolting cretin all the way on this thread .
Must be a very sad individual with no friends or life to treat people like this

i believe i understand
i t hink the best thing would be to ring them
or at least write to them, to ask why they went elsewhere?
did they perhaps not like the menu?
or just rude people?

or perhaps their finances were not up to the meal? job worries?