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RunningJo · 31/08/2025 16:19

He’s a selfish idiot!. How stupid do you have to forget to feed your pets?!?

He doesn’t sound responsible at all, I wouldn’t leave my pets with him ever, and he should contact the breeder to take the pup back - assuming he went to a reputable breeder who would do that.

Absolute tool

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 31/08/2025 16:32

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At least I don't have to resort to name-calling and rudeness to try and win an argument on the internet 😂

longtompot · 31/08/2025 17:15

Dozer · 31/08/2025 08:26

‘going to write him a daily schedule to follow’

Don’t do that. He wanted this and is an adult, he should do the thinking and other work.

You say his behaviour is a surprise, but is it really, or did you just ignore the evidence? Does he consistently pull his weight with domestic work, as a step parent, help out in practical ways with your animals?

Even if your DP was caring for the pup as he should it was still poor judgment IMO on your part to agree when as a household you have DC, two dogs and a parrot already. Also starting study and a disability affected by the physical demands of pet care.

I agree. By all means sit with him whilst he writes it down, but I wouldn't do it for him.
At the age of 9 my dd researched all about Giant African Land snails before she bought some. If she can do that, back when the internet isn't as vast with this sort of knowledge as it is now, he sure as hell can look into bringing up a puppy.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 31/08/2025 17:19

I would get rid of the partner, as many have said.

FattyMcFattyArse · 01/09/2025 21:14

Your updates are just eye rolling OP. He sounds a bloody awful lazy git.

Do you live together?

Do you have children together?

If no, please don't.

cheriood · 06/09/2025 15:47

Unsure333 · 30/08/2025 19:41

Hi all, a bit of backstory. My partner has been wanting to get a puppy for a while. I already have an elderly dog and an almost 2 year old puppy. I dont have a problem with him getting any animal he wants, as long as he looks after it. We talked for a few months and he agreed he would do the majority of work with new pup, just as i have mine.
I have recently gone back into education and have to be up for 5.30 to get myself ready before getting daughter ready for school and running for the train so i dont want to be up all hours house training a new pup. I also have a physical disability that has worsened over the years so i cant bend down to pick things up without being in pain.

Fast forward to last week, partner found his perfect dog. She is beautiful and so loving BUT since having his perfect dog, partner is yet to do anything with her. In the time she had been with us, he's fed her once. The rest of the times have been left to me, including the playing and walking etc...

Last night me and my daughter went to my sisters for a girly sleepover before school starts. I offered to take the dogs with me but partner insisted he could take care of them. I left around 7pm so they were all sorted for the night. Today i got home at around 1pm, the parrot had'nt been uncovered and let out and non of the dogs had been fed. The pup is on 3 meals a day. Meaning shes only had 2.

So my question is aibu to tell him to get rid?

To note* i do not agree with getting animals and selling them. I just dont know what to do, my schedule is already so busy without adding a puppy to the mix.

What's REALLY SAD IS THIS PUPPY IF RETURNED WILL MOST LIKELY GET EUTHANIZED AS THOUSANDS WAIT TO FIND A HOME OR MOST OFTEN WAIT TO DIE... FIND IT ANOTHER FAMILY IF A SIMPLE TASK OF FEEDING IT, LETTING IT POTTY OR GIVING IT 10 MIN WALK 1-2 A WEEK IS A HARDSHIP. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOUR DOING THIS OUT OF SPITE. I've made agreements with family they didn't do. I didn't send them back... suck it up. Love the dog - you know a pat on the head, feed it twice a day and water 24-7 and so it has A HOME. TO LIVE IN... how petty some are.... wonder what you would do if you got pregnant oh lord. What he doesn't help so we return the baby... if this is ur stance. Stay alone. No kids. No pets.

cheriood · 06/09/2025 15:47

Unsure333 · 30/08/2025 19:41

Hi all, a bit of backstory. My partner has been wanting to get a puppy for a while. I already have an elderly dog and an almost 2 year old puppy. I dont have a problem with him getting any animal he wants, as long as he looks after it. We talked for a few months and he agreed he would do the majority of work with new pup, just as i have mine.
I have recently gone back into education and have to be up for 5.30 to get myself ready before getting daughter ready for school and running for the train so i dont want to be up all hours house training a new pup. I also have a physical disability that has worsened over the years so i cant bend down to pick things up without being in pain.

Fast forward to last week, partner found his perfect dog. She is beautiful and so loving BUT since having his perfect dog, partner is yet to do anything with her. In the time she had been with us, he's fed her once. The rest of the times have been left to me, including the playing and walking etc...

Last night me and my daughter went to my sisters for a girly sleepover before school starts. I offered to take the dogs with me but partner insisted he could take care of them. I left around 7pm so they were all sorted for the night. Today i got home at around 1pm, the parrot had'nt been uncovered and let out and non of the dogs had been fed. The pup is on 3 meals a day. Meaning shes only had 2.

So my question is aibu to tell him to get rid?

To note* i do not agree with getting animals and selling them. I just dont know what to do, my schedule is already so busy without adding a puppy to the mix.

What's REALLY SAD IS THIS PUPPY IF RETURNED WILL MOST LIKELY GET EUTHANIZED AS THOUSANDS WAIT TO FIND A HOME OR MOST OFTEN WAIT TO DIE... FIND IT ANOTHER FAMILY IF A SIMPLE TASK OF FEEDING IT, LETTING IT POTTY OR GIVING IT 10 MIN WALK 1-2 A WEEK IS A HARDSHIP. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOUR DOING THIS OUT OF SPITE. I've made agreements with family they didn't do. I didn't send them back... suck it up. Love the dog - you know a pat on the head, feed it twice a day and water 24-7 and so it has A HOME. TO LIVE IN... how petty some are.... wonder what you would do if you got pregnant oh lord. What he doesn't help so we return the baby... if this is ur stance. Stay alone. No kids. No pets.

nomas · 06/09/2025 15:53

We talked for a few months and he agreed he would do the majority of work with new pup, just as i have mine.

Sounds like he had no intention of doing this.

How can he let an animal go hungry? Why is feeding a dog beyond him?

nomas · 06/09/2025 15:54

cheriood · 06/09/2025 15:47

What's REALLY SAD IS THIS PUPPY IF RETURNED WILL MOST LIKELY GET EUTHANIZED AS THOUSANDS WAIT TO FIND A HOME OR MOST OFTEN WAIT TO DIE... FIND IT ANOTHER FAMILY IF A SIMPLE TASK OF FEEDING IT, LETTING IT POTTY OR GIVING IT 10 MIN WALK 1-2 A WEEK IS A HARDSHIP. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOUR DOING THIS OUT OF SPITE. I've made agreements with family they didn't do. I didn't send them back... suck it up. Love the dog - you know a pat on the head, feed it twice a day and water 24-7 and so it has A HOME. TO LIVE IN... how petty some are.... wonder what you would do if you got pregnant oh lord. What he doesn't help so we return the baby... if this is ur stance. Stay alone. No kids. No pets.

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Put down the kool aid.

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 06/09/2025 15:55

All I can say is I’m glad the tiny puppy has had you around. Missed meals etc is absolutely appalling. I’d genuinely find this degree of irresponsibility / laziness a deal breaker. He hasn’t even bothered to do basic research on how to care for a puppy before getting one.