Friend keeps correcting my grammar - irritating

[Satsuniml]

My friend and I met up this morning for a coffee and even though I do like her in general, there’s one thing I do find annoying about her and that’s her correcting me and people all the time. Earlier I said sometime like “and they were driving so quick” and she interjected with “QuickLY! Adverb remember!”. I just think it’s so silly as it’s only colloquial speech, does it matter? There was another one the other day in our group chat when someone put “your” and she responded with “*you’re” as it was the wrong one. If I see someone using the wrong grammar I couldn’t care less.

Would anyone else find this irritating?

That would drive me mad. Who does she think she is?

It's obnoxious. Reply every single time with 'rude' then continue as you are

Yes, very irritating indeed.

I couldn’t be friends with a twat like that.

What’s her life like in general?

That's really bloody rude and I say this as an English teacher.

I’d think it was funny. But, if you don’t like it, tell her and ask her to stop doing it.

She is probably one of those people who said 'pooh' for 30 years and now overcompensates for dragging poor Winnie through the literal shit by correcting other people.

Funny, my SIL called me the other day as she said it was easier because her grammar & spelling are so bad over text.
DH (it’s his sister) often comments on her garbled messages, when he himself can’t spell for nuts, or use the right words…

I would struggle to remain friends if I’m honest, it comes across as her thinking that she is superior to you and needs to teach you to talk properly.

If you value her friendship is it worth trying to have a frank conversation with her about it?

oooh that's annoying. I used to do this when I was 10 - but I grew out of it. Unlike some.

Now I correct people's grammar for a living, and if I'm not getting paid for it, they can make as many mistakes as they like and I won't say a word! 🙂

There are posters on here who correct grammar and spelling. Strange thing to do, as if people are worrying about that.

It makes you wonder what their lives are like if they have to find a sense of superiority on the internet.

It wouldn’t bother me if someone used the wrong spelling or grammar and I would never correct them. But I do judge basic spelling silently in my head. But I also understand most phones use predictive text or think that maybe they are in a hurry or distracted. I would find it annoying. Your friend has a superiority complex.

My MIL does this and its extremely irritating especially since her 'corrections' are actually incorrect but I have the grace to overlook her behaviour and her error.

Wine helps.

You should have used a capital letter in the word oooh. As someone who does this for a living I expected more from you 😆

I personally wouldn’t go out of my way to correct adults, but in response to your question ‘does it matter?’.

In my view, yes, it does matter.

Yes I would. Can’t someone just reply with ‘alright grammar police 🤣’

Why do you think your irritation trumps hers? Perhaps you just aren't compatible as friends.

I wouldn't correct. That's rude, but it does matter. Some people's messages are unreadable.

I do correct my children. But with adults I just correct them silently in my head.

It's not a good thing to be the type of person who judges spelling.

That wants work, it'll be something from childhood that makes you judgemental of others for no good reason.

You sound like my kids... "ugh, I doesn't matter"
Well actually, it does!

I should add, I don't correct others.

Because the pedant has appalling manners. Using a colloquialism or informal expression when speaking is perfectly correct for the situation anyway.

There's a reason the phrase 'no one likes a pedant' exists!

It’s annoying when adults correct other adults. But grammar and spelling are important so I do a quick check through when sending texts and emails. Especially ‘your’ and ‘you’re’.

Autocorrect is a bugger these days so I’d make an allowance in my head for that. I do think most people silently judge this though..

Says you. I’ll judge and will continue to judge in my head silently. I take it you’re perfect and have never judged in your life then, to make just a sweeping statement.

I'm absolutely not perfect, I'm no better than anyone.