Friend keeps correcting my grammar - irritating

[Satsuniml]

My friend and I met up this morning for a coffee and even though I do like her in general, there’s one thing I do find annoying about her and that’s her correcting me and people all the time. Earlier I said sometime like “and they were driving so quick” and she interjected with “QuickLY! Adverb remember!”. I just think it’s so silly as it’s only colloquial speech, does it matter? There was another one the other day in our group chat when someone put “your” and she responded with “*you’re” as it was the wrong one. If I see someone using the wrong grammar I couldn’t care less.

Would anyone else find this irritating?

Tell her how envious you are of her superior education

Yes - I have a similar job. I do correct my children but not my friends. Although I can’t help doing it in my mind.

Lots of people actively work on becoming less judgemental about all the things you list - what you're listing are petty prejudices.

Just smile and tell her fuck off every time she does it.

The thing that always amazes me is that people are often proud that they judge other people’s grammar. It is as if they see themselves as superior because they can. They aren’t like that about maths. The same people will happily declare they are useless at maths so it isn’t that they think they are more academic. Maybe it is a snob thing. Grammar is linked to social class, whereas maths isn’t. I am sure Hyacinth Bucket corrected people’s grammar. I think it is socially inept to correct other people but maybe that is the hypocritical snob in me.

Correcting people's grammar, speech etc. in a social situation is always rude. Historically, social 'betters' were not supposed to draw attention to errors in a way that would cause embarrassment or draw attention to the mistake.

A turning when travelling is totally different - because you are providing information to achieve a shared objective. This is not pedantry.

I'd ensure my grammar fell off a cliff, make correcting her full time job until she realises she's being a complete dick.

"Wow, you're grammar is much more good than ares!"

Its such a twatish thing to do.
And they bang on about it being their duty to educate or some such bollocks.
It's obnoxious behaviour.

OP, tell her to wind her neck in. Be honest with her. Tell her that she's making you dislike her company.

Absolutely!

For this reason, I judge these judgers to be pompous bellends.

Correcting people's grammar, speech etc. in a social situation is always rude. Historically, social 'betters' were not supposed to draw attention to errors in a way that would cause embarrassment or draw attention to the mistake.

This is the thing.

Anyone lucky enough to have had a good upbringing and education would never correct anyone's grammar or spelling in any social situation.

It's a complete no-no and shows a lack of manners and class.

That's why people make me laugh when they call themselves a 'snob' about spelling and grammar, because they're obviously not snobby about manners and class.

They're just wannabe snobs, which is really quite sad.

I'd say 'actually I meant "fastly"' and watch her blow a valve trying to work that one out!

She needs to get over to Pedants’ Corner on here by the sounds of it.

I wonder if it makes her feel better about herself telling you off like you’re back in school. To point it out like this is rude.

The your/you’re thing annoys me but I would never point it out, it’s a me thing.

I am reminded of that story about queen victoria and the finger bowl.

No idea if its true or not but it is true that actual "social betters" as you say knew that you do not do or say anything to cause embarrassment to others.

Exactly, they're just gracious in social settings.

Imagine the queen correcting people's grammar whilst on a tour or handing out medals.

Indeed.
It would be unthinkable.

Try this phrase every time she tries to correct you....

I reject your analysis of my contemporary urban vernacular. It's based on class bias and highlights the reinforcement of social inequality and perpetuation of harmful stereotypes. It leads to discriminatory outcomes in education and employment. It can lead to prejudice, ultimately hindering social mobility and limiting opportunities for individuals from diverse backgrounds.

In a formal social situation, or if more people were present, I would agree. This was two friends having a coffee. I think inferring "appalling manners" from one pompous comment is a bit much. If OP really doesn't care then I can't see why she would be embarrassed.

Tell her that "Fuck off" is a complete and grammatically correct sentence.

A royal tour isn't quite the same as an informal coffee with a friend... 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

😁 This is the correct answer.

Or perhaps, "Cheers Doris, you pointed that out very fuckily."

My husband and daughter both do this. Both have ASD. They don't realise it's rude, they think they are helping.
Both are gifted academically but socially struggle.

Oh dear.

Can you go back and read in context maybe?

Perhaps start with the person whose post I was replying to.

The thread is about someone correcting their friends' grammar. That's the context. HTH.

Ahh I see you're brand new to the internet.

When you've found your way around it, you'll learn that on just about every thread, small conversations (much like this one) will break out between posters that do not directly address the OP.

All you need to do is read them in the context in which they're written, to prevent looking like a tit.

HTH 2.

I too have recently ignored full stops in WhatsApp messages. It hurts, but saves time 👍