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CohensDiamondTeeth · 30/08/2025 05:24

ThatBlackCat · 30/08/2025 05:12

It is very relevant. Copied from another poster elsewhere:

There seems to be a PATTERN…
Uvalde Shooter - Trans
Denver Shooter - Trans
Georgia Shooter - Trans
Nashville Shooter - Trans
Colorado Shooter - Trans
Aberdeen Shooter - Trans
Minnesota Shooter - Trans
lowa Shooter - Gender Fluid
Philadelphia Shooter - Trans

So not 5, but 9 shooters with a trans or gender fluid identity. That's an even larger chunk out of the vanishingly small trans identifying minority isn't it!

@GarlicPint I agree!

TheOtherBennetGirl · 30/08/2025 05:28

ThatBlackCat · 30/08/2025 05:12

It is very relevant. Copied from another poster elsewhere:

There seems to be a PATTERN…
Uvalde Shooter - Trans
Denver Shooter - Trans
Georgia Shooter - Trans
Nashville Shooter - Trans
Colorado Shooter - Trans
Aberdeen Shooter - Trans
Minnesota Shooter - Trans
lowa Shooter - Gender Fluid
Philadelphia Shooter - Trans

Where are your sources?

There have been two transgender school shooters in two years (Source): Nashville and Minnesota. In 2019, a pair of school assailants included a transgender shooter (Source). These seems to be the only three incidents on record involving transgender school shooters.

Education Week counted eight school shootings in 2025 that resulted in injuries/deaths (Source).

Reuters has repeatedly fact-checked widespread claims and images mass numbers of transgender school shooters (including the list you gave). Their extensively referenced reporting shows these claims are false (Source).

Some other great sources for statistics include

K-12 School Shooting Database, Gun Violence Archive and the incredibly detailed Violence Project.

TheOtherBennetGirl · 30/08/2025 05:38

CohensDiamondTeeth · 30/08/2025 05:24

So not 5, but 9 shooters with a trans or gender fluid identity. That's an even larger chunk out of the vanishingly small trans identifying minority isn't it!

@GarlicPint I agree!

Did you do even a rudimentary check on the statement you're amplifying? It took me ten seconds to search the first example and see it's untrue. I wonder what else a search would find...

People react after a mass shooting at Robb Elementary School in Uvalde

Texas shooting: How false rumours spread that gunman was trans - BBC News

Images of three trans women were shared online purporting to be of the gunman after the school shooting.

https://www.bbc.com/news/61607042.amp

CohensDiamondTeeth · 30/08/2025 05:44

TheOtherBennetGirl · 30/08/2025 04:19

We agree - the killer is mentally ill. I think everyone on this thread has agreed with that, albeit for different reasons. Why are we expending so much energy to debate how we got to that conclusion and trying to convince others that our view of trans is correct instead of talking about how we help those who are mentally ill?

It seems like politicians are fixated on the same type of debates we're having on this thread. Everyone's so obsessed with winning the debate that no one is actually addressing how to make help available to those in need.

I'm sorry I'm quoting you a lot, I'm not trying to pick on you in particular, I just wanted to address something from your quoted post.

If we can't point out that a trans identity might be an early indicator of mental illness (or something else that makes that person vulnerable - see my other post about various reasons young people go down the gender ideology route), we can't address how to make help available to them.

So while you might attribute to malice (or a vulnerability to political manipulation... because apparently we aren't capable of forming our own opinions from our own experiences, and the evidence of our own eyes?), our pointing out that this shooter was a trans identifying male, it is not malice.

We are recognising that it is a relevant piece of information. If knowledge and recognition that his trans identity might have been indicative of mental illness or deeper issues, he might have been given more direct help, and the danger might have been recognised before he committed this violent school shooting.

Some here, you included, seem to have missed that. Possibly because you think we are anti-trans? We are not. But if you can't name a possible issue (does having a trans identity = mental health issue, or deeper problems? And it usually does.), you can't address it can you?

You can't make the appropriate help available to people if you refuse to recognise the issues at play.

CohensDiamondTeeth · 30/08/2025 05:54

TheOtherBennetGirl · 30/08/2025 05:38

Did you do even a rudimentary check on the statement you're amplifying? It took me ten seconds to search the first example and see it's untrue. I wonder what else a search would find...

No I did not, but then as stated earlier I didn't go fact check the previously quoted number of 5 either.

Thank you for the links, I will read them.

What else do you think a search would find?

You seem particularly... upset isn't the right word, I know, but it's the closest I can come to right now at 5.50am. You seem particularly upset that people have pointed out that trans identifying men can be school shooters too. Why?

Do you really not think the demographics of violence play any part in prevention of violent crimes? Should we just not keep records and stats for perpetrators, ignore patterns of criminality? If so, why?

Do you think it would help somehow if we didn't keep records and understand patterns of criminality? If so, why?

Or do you think there is a better way of doing things? If so, how?

Again sorry, I'm really not trying to be provocative, I am genuinely interested in your thoughts on the above.

RingoJuice · 30/08/2025 06:03

Velmy · 29/08/2025 14:15

Clinton enacted an assault-style weapons ban from 1994. It was allowed to expire in 2004. The reduction in homicides for that period (about 6%) was deemed not statistically significant, although it's thought that number would have improved if the ban was in place longer.

Here's the stat though...mass shootings were 70% less likely to occur during the ban period, based on data from 1981-2017.

Another crazy stat, the ban accounted for only a 0.1% reduction in total firearm homicides.

Most of these will be handguns, not assault weapons. Even mass shootings will typically be with a handgun.

In the Minnesota case, apparently the shooter purchased the weapons himself. Declaring transgenderism a mental illness would have prevented the purchase at least …

TheOtherBennetGirl · 30/08/2025 06:08

CohensDiamondTeeth · 30/08/2025 05:44

I'm sorry I'm quoting you a lot, I'm not trying to pick on you in particular, I just wanted to address something from your quoted post.

If we can't point out that a trans identity might be an early indicator of mental illness (or something else that makes that person vulnerable - see my other post about various reasons young people go down the gender ideology route), we can't address how to make help available to them.

So while you might attribute to malice (or a vulnerability to political manipulation... because apparently we aren't capable of forming our own opinions from our own experiences, and the evidence of our own eyes?), our pointing out that this shooter was a trans identifying male, it is not malice.

We are recognising that it is a relevant piece of information. If knowledge and recognition that his trans identity might have been indicative of mental illness or deeper issues, he might have been given more direct help, and the danger might have been recognised before he committed this violent school shooting.

Some here, you included, seem to have missed that. Possibly because you think we are anti-trans? We are not. But if you can't name a possible issue (does having a trans identity = mental health issue, or deeper problems? And it usually does.), you can't address it can you?

You can't make the appropriate help available to people if you refuse to recognise the issues at play.

I really appreciate our conversation on this topic because listening to other perspectives is how we find solutions that benefit everyone.

What I'm hearing is that right now, there doesn't seem to be anything a person can do when they observe potential troubling behavior: in themselves, their loved ones and others they encounter. We need more avenues for early intervention and assessment. There are many things that might trigger concern, and for some that list includes trans identity.

Is that correct?

RowanRed90 · 30/08/2025 06:16

MyGreyStork · 29/08/2025 13:33

The fact they are trans is not relevant. It’s the fact that guns are readily available and easy to source that is the problem. America caused their own problem.

If not a gun, then wouldn't they just use a knife like the Southport attack

myplace · 30/08/2025 06:25

The statistics conversation is interesting.

Are there statistics about gun ownership saving lives? Any records on how many lives were saved because a middle aged woman pulled a gun from her handbag?

I know that children die when they pull a gun from someone’s handbag.

CohensDiamondTeeth · 30/08/2025 06:28

TheOtherBennetGirl · 30/08/2025 05:28

Where are your sources?

There have been two transgender school shooters in two years (Source): Nashville and Minnesota. In 2019, a pair of school assailants included a transgender shooter (Source). These seems to be the only three incidents on record involving transgender school shooters.

Education Week counted eight school shootings in 2025 that resulted in injuries/deaths (Source).

Reuters has repeatedly fact-checked widespread claims and images mass numbers of transgender school shooters (including the list you gave). Their extensively referenced reporting shows these claims are false (Source).

Some other great sources for statistics include

K-12 School Shooting Database, Gun Violence Archive and the incredibly detailed Violence Project.

Source 1:
Is an article in which states "the National Institutes of Health is beginning studies to determine if a link exists between psychiatric medications, such as SSRIs, and violent attacks".

This article mentions 2 school shooters in 2 years with trans identities.

Source 2:
The number of mass shootings committed by those identifying as trans or nonbinary — and their ratio compared to mass shootings committed by other groups — is hard to quantify. It depends on the database used, how the act is defined and how gender identity is recorded — for example, transgender males may statistically be counted as just men.

This appears to be a very ideologically captured source, there's lots of "Cis" talk. This ideological perspective makes me wonder if what they say would actually reflect the reality of the situation, but I read it anyway!

Even they say the number of shootings by trans identifying etc people is hard to quantify because of the reasons they state.

It also states that most of these crimes are committed by men. And in other news water is wet, the pope is catholic and bears do indeed shite in the woods.

Trans identifying men (trans women) are men!

This source also is talking in terms of mass shootings which are "defined as a shooting that kills four or more people" (from the article), so they are only looking at mass shootings.

This article also perpetuates the myth that trans identified people are at higher risk of violence (perpetuated by the males of our species remember), than anyone else. Obviously this is false, we just need to look at the shockingly high number of crimes perpetrated (by men) against women, to realise the "trans people are the most vulnerable and oppressed" line is a lie.

Source 3:
This talks about school shootings from K-12 (kindergarten to year 12, but I'm unclear on how American schools work their years in comparison to us here in the UK, as far as I know they have junior and senior high schools? How old are the children in an American year 12 class?).

This article doesn't mention trans identifying shooters that I can see, but it does show that school shootings have been on the rise since 2018 which is honestly very upsetting.

It does say there were 8 school shootings at the time of the article (Jan 20025) and explains how and why they organized their criteria for recording the incidents that they have recorded.

Source 4:
The headline for this article is
"Fact Check: Most mass school shootings are not carried out by transgender people"
Again water is wet etc, etc. This is not new information.

From the article
"The mass shooting at a Georgia school on Wednesday sparked a narrative on social media that all mass shootings at schools in the U.S. in recent years have been carried out by transgender people, which is false."

Anyone with half a brain would understand that obviously not all (or even the majority of) mass school shootings in the US are carried out by transgender people.

Transgender individuals represent less than 1 percent of perpetrators in all mass shootings over the past decade, and about 2 percent involved in school shootings specifically, according to The Gun Violence Archive (GVA).

Ok but that's still a concerning number compared to the total population of trans identifying people which we are repeatedly told is a vanishingly small minority, no?

A search of the entire GVA database, opens new tab in September 2024 with “Incident Characteristic” filters for “mass shootings,” “school incident” and “trans: suspect” returns just one result, opens new tab referring to a 2023 Nashville school shooting that killed six people, in which the suspect reportedly identified as transgender.
The GVA database records, opens new tab a total of 50 mass school shootings since 2012, meaning that one in 50, or 2% of the total was associated with a transgender suspect.

These numbers do not match with the numbers from Source 3?

It also puts a question mark over whether one shooter was actually trans identified or not.

I'm articled out for the moment, but I promise I will go and have a read of the other three linked sources when my brain has come back online!

Search Incidents | Gun Violence Archive

Gun Violence Archive (GVA) is a not for profit corporation formed in 2013 to provide free online public access to accurate information about gun-related violence in the United States. GVA will collect and check for accuracy, comprehensive information a...

https://www.gunviolencearchive.org/query

midsummabreak · 30/08/2025 06:37

FenderStrat · 29/08/2025 13:16

The American NRA will undoubtedly claim that, ' the only thing that stops a bad guy with a gun is a good guy with a gun.'

But I've always thought, what about a law that stops the bad guy getting a gun in the first place?

Exactly this.

CohensDiamondTeeth · 30/08/2025 06:39

TheOtherBennetGirl · 30/08/2025 06:08

I really appreciate our conversation on this topic because listening to other perspectives is how we find solutions that benefit everyone.

What I'm hearing is that right now, there doesn't seem to be anything a person can do when they observe potential troubling behavior: in themselves, their loved ones and others they encounter. We need more avenues for early intervention and assessment. There are many things that might trigger concern, and for some that list includes trans identity.

Is that correct?

I really appreciate our conversation on this topic because listening to other perspectives is how we find solutions that benefit everyone.

Me too, and I agree open and honest discussion is the way forward.

I appreciate your links, often when we ask for evidence we are told to go find it ourselves so it's nice to have you able and willing to link things so we can read and form our own conclusions, then discuss what we all took from the articles.

What I'm hearing is that right now, there doesn't seem to be anything a person can do when they observe potential troubling behavior: in themselves, their loved ones and others they encounter.

I'm not sure I'd entirely agree with that statement. I do think there are things people can do if they observe potentially troubling behaviour, my point was that we need to be able to recognise these potentially troubling behaviours, and at the moment I think a lot of effort has gone into getting people to ignore some of the red flags - such as a belief in gender ideology which often indicates (in younger people particularly), that they may have some deeper issues or mental health issues.

We need more avenues for early intervention and assessment.

Yes, absolutely!

There are many things that might trigger concern, and for some that list includes trans identity.

Yes, however, I know that trans identity does not = violent person, therefore = eventual school shooter. That would obviously be a ridiculous belief to hold, and easily disproved by the majority of trans identifying people who do not commit violent crimes, let alone mass school shootings.

It does indicate to me that the trans identified person probably has deeper issues or mental health problems, as I talked about upthread.

Would you agree with what I've said in this post, or do you have a different perspective on it all?

TheOtherBennetGirl · 30/08/2025 06:45

CohensDiamondTeeth · 30/08/2025 05:54

No I did not, but then as stated earlier I didn't go fact check the previously quoted number of 5 either.

Thank you for the links, I will read them.

What else do you think a search would find?

You seem particularly... upset isn't the right word, I know, but it's the closest I can come to right now at 5.50am. You seem particularly upset that people have pointed out that trans identifying men can be school shooters too. Why?

Do you really not think the demographics of violence play any part in prevention of violent crimes? Should we just not keep records and stats for perpetrators, ignore patterns of criminality? If so, why?

Do you think it would help somehow if we didn't keep records and understand patterns of criminality? If so, why?

Or do you think there is a better way of doing things? If so, how?

Again sorry, I'm really not trying to be provocative, I am genuinely interested in your thoughts on the above.

Edited

I'm passionate about fact verification because there's so much disinformation out there being inadvertently spread by people with good intentions. A search would verify what is true, half true, and untrue. I agree that accurate record keeping is also important and am grateful to the people who work to maintain those records.

I'm on the US West Coast right now meeting with colleagues (why my posting hours are so odd 🙂). It's jarring to be surrounded by the coverage and hear how much of it is vitriolic trans bashing. My colleagues said that this is normal and any time something bad happens, the government and media's first response is to target a community to scapegoat.

Trans people can be school shooters. So can anyone with a grudge, a mental health crisis or a desire to commit violence. But if a cisgender man commits a mass shooting, no one is screaming about how all cisgender men are ticking time bombs. When the shooter is trans, there's no shortage of people villifying the entire trans community. I suppose that's why I'm so vocal about trying to redirect the conversation to finding solutions.

Anyway, I am off to bed. Thank you for a civil conversation that's helped me better understand other perspectives.

GarlicPint · 30/08/2025 06:47

God, I'm boring 😏

Uvalde school shooting, 2022. 21 dead. Salvador Ramos, incorrectly labelled transgender.

Denver and Lakewood, 2021. Five dead. Lyndon James McLeod, not described as trans.

Apalachee High School, Georgia, 2024. Four dead. Colt Gray, not trans identified. The 14-year-old's father was also indicted on accessory charges.

Nashville school shooting, 2023. Six dead. Aiden Hale, a trans-identified woman.

Aurora theatre shooting, Colorado, 2012. 12 dead. James Eagan Holmes, described as transvestite by acquaintances.

Aberdeen, Maryland shooting, 2018. Four dead, plus self. Snochia Moseley, a trans-identified man.

Minnesota church shooting, 2025. Two dead. Robin Westman, a trans-identified man.

Perry High School, Iowa, 2024. Two dead, plus self. Dylan Jesse Butler, incorrectly labelled transgender.

Kingsessing, Philadelphia, 2023. Five dead. Kimbrady Carriker, not trans identified but did share images suggesting he was experimenting with gender.

Three-and-a-half trans, or four and a half depending on your threshold.

Tell you what, though, they were all bloody weird and scary with red flags flying high - except Dylan Butler, who had only recently raised his flags after a very sad, short life. I suppose America's too big to manage a programme like PREVENT, which does an okay job of picking up warning signs but, despite all the privacy concerns, I'm grateful we have it.

TheOtherBennetGirl · 30/08/2025 06:54

CohensDiamondTeeth · 30/08/2025 06:39

I really appreciate our conversation on this topic because listening to other perspectives is how we find solutions that benefit everyone.

Me too, and I agree open and honest discussion is the way forward.

I appreciate your links, often when we ask for evidence we are told to go find it ourselves so it's nice to have you able and willing to link things so we can read and form our own conclusions, then discuss what we all took from the articles.

What I'm hearing is that right now, there doesn't seem to be anything a person can do when they observe potential troubling behavior: in themselves, their loved ones and others they encounter.

I'm not sure I'd entirely agree with that statement. I do think there are things people can do if they observe potentially troubling behaviour, my point was that we need to be able to recognise these potentially troubling behaviours, and at the moment I think a lot of effort has gone into getting people to ignore some of the red flags - such as a belief in gender ideology which often indicates (in younger people particularly), that they may have some deeper issues or mental health issues.

We need more avenues for early intervention and assessment.

Yes, absolutely!

There are many things that might trigger concern, and for some that list includes trans identity.

Yes, however, I know that trans identity does not = violent person, therefore = eventual school shooter. That would obviously be a ridiculous belief to hold, and easily disproved by the majority of trans identifying people who do not commit violent crimes, let alone mass school shootings.

It does indicate to me that the trans identified person probably has deeper issues or mental health problems, as I talked about upthread.

Would you agree with what I've said in this post, or do you have a different perspective on it all?

Thank you for clarifying my understanding of your thoughts on recognizing behaviors. I especially appreciate your explaining the point about gender ideology - I hadn't explicitly thought about it that way and it's good food for thought.

Your explanation makes a lot of sense and drives home the idea that there's more that connects us than divides us.

ItsHellOrHighwater · 30/08/2025 07:23

TheOtherBennetGirl · 30/08/2025 06:45

I'm passionate about fact verification because there's so much disinformation out there being inadvertently spread by people with good intentions. A search would verify what is true, half true, and untrue. I agree that accurate record keeping is also important and am grateful to the people who work to maintain those records.

I'm on the US West Coast right now meeting with colleagues (why my posting hours are so odd 🙂). It's jarring to be surrounded by the coverage and hear how much of it is vitriolic trans bashing. My colleagues said that this is normal and any time something bad happens, the government and media's first response is to target a community to scapegoat.

Trans people can be school shooters. So can anyone with a grudge, a mental health crisis or a desire to commit violence. But if a cisgender man commits a mass shooting, no one is screaming about how all cisgender men are ticking time bombs. When the shooter is trans, there's no shortage of people villifying the entire trans community. I suppose that's why I'm so vocal about trying to redirect the conversation to finding solutions.

Anyway, I am off to bed. Thank you for a civil conversation that's helped me better understand other perspectives.

Erm, this is mumsnet. Women are constantly acknowledging, correctly, that men as a group are a problem.

My family are in the US and they definitely talk about mass shootings being a male crime. It is discussed A LOT! Don’t pretend that when there is yet another shooting at the hands of a man, that the fact he’s a man isn’t commented on, and that it’s only discussed when it’s a trans person. That is lies. It is commented on.

Mumsnet is a UK site so there probably isn’t that much discussion on mass shootings in the US, but as it’s full of women, many who are feminists and GC, it’s no surprise that a shooting where the perpetrator is trans is discussed.

That does not mean men are not constantly called out for being the problem sex, we just have different crimes here. Here in the the UK, when yet another man murders his partner or former partner, which happens twice a week on average, there are numerous comments on here along the lines of ‘wtf is wrong with men’. When we had a mass shooting here in Plymouth, it was very much discussed with the tone of ‘of course it was a man’, and that he had incel type views.

So yes, people are ‘screaming how men are ticking time bombs’, not all, but some, when they commit violent crimes, which just the same as for when trans women commit crimes. No one says it’s all of them either.

These crimes should be discussed without people screaming you’re some sort of phobic. I’m suspicious of anyone trying to shut discussion of this type down.

Digidestined · 30/08/2025 07:27

CohensDiamondTeeth · 30/08/2025 05:06

It happens because of their stupid gun laws and gun culture!!

Well I'd say that is what facilitates these shooters yes, gun laws, the culture and normalisation is all part of it. But the ease of getting your hands on a gun, the gun culture and normalisation of it is not the only reason we end up with mass shooters is it? Otherwise everyone in the USA would be going on violent sprees left, right and centre.

Clearly there are other factors that feed into school shootings. Mental illness seems to me to be one of the bigger contributing factors.

We have mentally ill people here in the UK but we're not having mass shootings every week are we!?!

But if we had the same prevalence of firearms available, we would. As another PP pointed out, in the UK we restricted our gun laws because of a school shooting in Dunblane. If we hadn't tightened up our laws we would have had many more incidents like that tragedy perpetrated by other mentally ill or disturbed men.

This is the 44th school shooting this year. Only 5 shooters have been trans. Ban transgender people, cure gender dysphoria, whatever you want. You still have 39 unexplained school shootings. Except they aren't unexplained, they are easily explained by Americas gun problem.

I think you missed my point about the number of trans identifying people on a population level (they are considered to be a tiny, tiny minority of people) and how many trans identified shooters there have been this year within that vanishingly small trans identified population. 5 out of 44 is not an insignificant number when viewed from a tiny minority of trans identifying population Vs trans identifying active shooters perspective.

And of course FWR is mentioned, you think they are enlightened and are clearly captured by the anti trans obsession. Readers, if you value your faith in humanity avoid that board like the plague.

Ok that's just an outright lie. FWR is PRO-WOMEN not anti-trans.

It is not anti-trans to want to uphold women's rights, dignity, privacy, spaces, provisions, sports, rape crises centres, health care, awards, places, sponsorships, etc etc etc.

It is in fact misogynistic to tell women that they are anti-trans for attempting to protect the above from the encroaching, infiltrating, colonisation by men (and that's not even counting the straight up fetishism from some of them).

Biological reality is important. Women saying no is not anti-trans. FWR is not anti-trans and in fact have a lot of compassion and understanding of young trans identifying people of both sexes.

As an aside, I'm a stubborn, contrary old mare these days, so if someone tells me not to look at something, particularly if they are using emotionally manipulative phrasing such as "Readers, if you value your faith in humanity avoid that board like the plague.", you can guarantee I'm going to go look! 😂

I don't like being dictated to, or told that my morality or humanity will be in question for simply reading another point of view. The latter is particularly risible.

It's quite authoritarian to tell people to not look, don't read, don't think for yourself.

Frankly it makes me think that the authoritarian speakers are afraid that people might (shock, horror!) use their own brains to think with, and draw their own conclusions with, instead of being told what is "good" or "bad" by other people... they might come to totally different conclusions from the authoritarian speaker and the authoritarian who tries to frighten people away from forming those conclusions with their manipulative phrasing may, or may not have their own agenda... 🤔

So Readers (😂), I say go have a read on FWR and draw your own conclusions.
Don't be afraid, we don't bite! 😂

We are actually quite a nice bunch over there, a bit forthright, but the women (and few men) who post there are incredibly intelligent and compassionate people. We like a good robust discussion and really put a lot of store in reality and actual scientific based evidence (which we are happy to share freely). instead of emotionally manipulative words. We encourage you to make your own minds up, we might disagree with your conclusions, and point out where and why we think you are wrong, but we aren't actually telling you what to think... unlike some people! 😂

Good grief.

But if we had the same prevalence of firearms available, we would. As another PP pointed out, in the UK we restricted our gun laws because of a school shooting in Dunblane. If we hadn't tightened up our laws we would have had many more incidents like that tragedy perpetrated by other mentally ill or disturbed men.

This is exactly the point. They need to sort their gun laws out. Then they can stop ALL of the mass shootings and not just the ones committed by a minority you have a problem with.

"As an aside, I'm a stubborn, contrary old mare these days" Quite.

CohensDiamondTeeth · 30/08/2025 07:52

TheOtherBennetGirl · 30/08/2025 06:45

I'm passionate about fact verification because there's so much disinformation out there being inadvertently spread by people with good intentions. A search would verify what is true, half true, and untrue. I agree that accurate record keeping is also important and am grateful to the people who work to maintain those records.

I'm on the US West Coast right now meeting with colleagues (why my posting hours are so odd 🙂). It's jarring to be surrounded by the coverage and hear how much of it is vitriolic trans bashing. My colleagues said that this is normal and any time something bad happens, the government and media's first response is to target a community to scapegoat.

Trans people can be school shooters. So can anyone with a grudge, a mental health crisis or a desire to commit violence. But if a cisgender man commits a mass shooting, no one is screaming about how all cisgender men are ticking time bombs. When the shooter is trans, there's no shortage of people villifying the entire trans community. I suppose that's why I'm so vocal about trying to redirect the conversation to finding solutions.

Anyway, I am off to bed. Thank you for a civil conversation that's helped me better understand other perspectives.

I'm passionate about fact verification because there's so much disinformation out there being inadvertently spread by people with good intentions.

I agree, I'm the same I like verifiable evidence because there absolutely is so much disinformation out there.

In the UK a lot of that disinformation is being spread by people that don't have good intentions unfortunately. Here we have a lot of misogynists seeing an opportunity to stick it to women and an attempt to remove our rights, protections, spaces, words, etc etc etc - which until the recent Supreme Court clarification was working pretty well. Did you know that rapes recorded as having been committed by "women" in the uk have had a meteoric rise? This is because crimes committed by men with trans identities are being systematically recorded as perpetrated by women. This has sparked a #NotOurCrimes movement to highlight this obfuscation of reality and the skewing of crime statistics.

I have a bad bout of insomnia so that's my excuse for the posting at odd hours 😂

It's jarring to be surrounded by the coverage and hear how much of it is vitriolic trans bashing

This might be a difference in USA reporting compared to UK reporting? In the UK the media and political parties across the board have been really captured by gender ideology to the detriment of women and children - and quite frankly in terms of health care and the eventual pushback once rational reality begun to reassert itself, it hurt trans identified people too.

You'd be hard pushed to actually find any vitriolic trans bashing here on TERF Island, as much as you might hear differently. We're not rabid transphobes, we just recognise that sex is immutable, women's rights are important and hard fought for, and that trans identifying men are, and always will be male.

We also recognise the harmful misogyny and homophobia inherent in the gender ideology movement.

My colleagues said that this is normal and any time something bad happens, the government and media's first response is to target a community to scapegoat.

The scapegoats of choice in the UK have been women and feminists who said no to men trying to take all of their hard fought for stuff for themselves. The women and feminists who pointed out (and were subsequently proven right) that there was a lot of dangers to throwing open women's previously single sex spaces to any man who said the magic words "I am trans", and who pointed out the harms that would be done to children (and were subsequently proven right on this too) in the name of "progress", but was in fact a prop to lend legitimacy to the older male fetishists and misogynists who wanted access to vulnerable women and children.

Have you ever read FWR before? It really isn't the horrible place the TRAs would have you believe, and if you like verifiable facts and evidence you might quite like it over there.

Trans people can be school shooters. So can anyone with a grudge, a mental health crisis or a desire to commit violence.

Yes anyone with a grudge or mental health crisis or violent urges can commit these atrocities. But do you understand the point people are making about numbers of trans id'd shooters and the trans population?

But if a cisgender man commits a mass shooting, no one is screaming about how all cisgender men are ticking time bombs.

Well tbh I disagree with you here a little. No we aren't screaming that all men are ticking time bombs, but neither are we screaming that all trans identified males are ticking time bombs either.

We do, however, collectively know that the male sex class is the one which commits the majority of violent or sexual crimes and society was set up with protections because of this fact... at least until gender ideology removed those protections by stealth and manipulation.

Trans identified males are still men, and in the UK research has been done and proves that where trans identified males commit crimes, they continue to follow the male offending patterns we already recognise. I'll link the prison service data from Jan 2023 (because that's the one I've got handy right now) which shows the rates of sexual offending. If you look at the numbers, it would be a valid statement to say that trans identifying men may in fact be far more likely to be in prison for sexual offenses than other men, which is a bit worrying given that feminists have been shouting for over a decade that allowing self ID was a predators paradise. This has been one of the things feminists picked up on too, a lot of these sexually violent male criminals only "discover" their true trans identities after committing their crimes. And a lot of these often sexually violent men have been placed in women's prisons because our government tried to be so open minded their brains fell out, and they ignored any woman or women's group that tried to warn them of the dangers of doing this.

FWIW Cis is considered a slur for lots of people here, I am pointing this out just in case you didn't know that. Most people don't have a gender identity, but they know what sex they are.

When the shooter is trans, there's no shortage of people villifying the entire trans community. I suppose that's why I'm so vocal about trying to redirect the conversation to finding solutions.

Is it vilifying the entire trans community though? Or is it a recognition of the complete overreach of the gender ideology? A recognition of the dangers of allowing men to self identify as women, to falsify records, skew statistics and generally not be allowed to say anything that's even vaguely construed as negative towards any trans identified male because some men don't like being told no?

You don't hear much about trans identifying females, until they are used as a prop for the males with trans identities. Such an example here recently is TRAs suddenly being oh so very concerned that by no longer allowing men to illegally use changing rooms and toilets set aside for the female sex is going to be harmful to trans identifying women (and butch or non feminine women) which is ridiculous on a couple of levels.

Trans identifying females actually acknowledge the discomfort their appearance may cause other women and seek out mixed sex facilities so they won't traumatise a woman who might see them as male, or cause a conservatively religious woman to self exclude in future because of the trans identifying females male presentation.

Also women are really, really good at picking up on the cues to sex, even from a distance. The idea has been floated that this may be an evolutionary safety mechanism that we have acquired over time, because the male sex has always presented various dangers to the female sex.

No matter what a woman looks like, trans identified or not, the way they move, their physical size, the way they display their female socialisation, their facial features, and their voices all immediately mark them out as female to other women.

The same for trans identified men, the way they move, their physical size, the way they display their male socialisation, their facial features, and their voices all immediately mark them out as male to women.

Men seem to have a lot more trouble with this (which lends credence to the theory that this is a specifically female evolutionary trait because it effects them so disproportionately - Eg. men cannot become pregnant by their rapist), for a lot of men, it just seems they see boobs, a skirt and long hair and in their minds that = woman. Which I think says a quite lot about a lot of men!

I suppose that's why I'm so vocal about trying to redirect the conversation to finding solutions.

The thing is that feminists and women in general tried that over a decade ago, we would have been 100% behind the trans movement in campaigning for 3rd spaces, better and more informed health care, trans identifying people being included in a sports category of their own etc etc. We were absolutely vilified for that, it was made incredibly clear to women here that that would not be acceptable! The gender borg have demanded nothing less that total capitulation to their every demand, and the abuse that has been directed (mostly at women) for saying "well actually that's not really fair on everyone else, perhaps there is a better way" or just a simple "no you can't have our stuff, there's a bloody good reason it's only for women and not for you!" has been utterly off the scale!

Seriously go read TERF is a slur | Documenting the abuse, harassment and misogyny of transgender identity politics or some FWR threads and you might find a lot of eye opening stuff that women have had to deal with here.

It's not like we haven't attempted to extend the hand of human compassion and friendship, it's more a case of that hand has been savagely mauled by very angry men because we wouldn't just hand over the whole kit and caboodle without thought when it was demanded of us.

I too really appreciate the civility!

I hope we can continue the discussion later when we've both had a decent night's sleep.

TERF is a slur

Documenting the abuse, harassment and misogyny of transgender identity politics

https://terfisaslur.com/

CohensDiamondTeeth · 30/08/2025 07:54

Oh sod! Sorry @TheOtherBennetGirl I forgot to add the picture of the prison service data sorry!

Here it is, the picture might take a few minutes to show while it gets verified.

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CohensDiamondTeeth · 30/08/2025 08:09

Digidestined · 30/08/2025 07:27

Good grief.

But if we had the same prevalence of firearms available, we would. As another PP pointed out, in the UK we restricted our gun laws because of a school shooting in Dunblane. If we hadn't tightened up our laws we would have had many more incidents like that tragedy perpetrated by other mentally ill or disturbed men.

This is exactly the point. They need to sort their gun laws out. Then they can stop ALL of the mass shootings and not just the ones committed by a minority you have a problem with.

"As an aside, I'm a stubborn, contrary old mare these days" Quite.

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"As an aside, I'm a stubborn, contrary old mare these days" Quite.

Oh noes this poster doesn't like that I pointed out that they were being authoritarian and attempting to emotionally manipulate people into not reading other perspectives! 🙄 That's a bit... interesting, shall we say?

This is exactly the point. They need to sort their gun laws out. Then they can stop ALL of the mass shootings and not just the ones committed by a minority you have a problem with.

Right I agree that sorting out the gun laws would absolutely reduce the mass shootings, but there's not an icicles hope in hell of that happening in the USA is there?

And funny that you haven't addressed any of the rest of my post, in particular your lies about FWR.

I smell an agenda!

GarlicPint · 30/08/2025 08:26

@CohensDiamondTeeth and @TheOtherBennetGirl, I see more actual 'anti trans' activity from Americans. Marjorie Taylor Greene is a highly visible example but there are lots. Some, I think, are coming from a religious pov, where sexed roles were appointed by God and any deviation is abominable. Some are doing it for political clout or public approval.

It's more than a little irritating that our much more reasonable position is conflated with their 'religious right' bluster, but unsurprising. We're defending women against a male takeover. We also defend women against 'religious right' forced birthers and their attachment to rigid gender roles. That seems difficult for many to understand - I may have given up trying to explain, but thank you for your good work!

Mind you, if the UK makes a fatal lurch to the right in four years' time, we could well be fighting all the battles on our home turf ... leading to UK TERFs defending male rights to wear dresses and call themselves Trixie. That would blow their tiny TRA minds 😂

CohensDiamondTeeth · 30/08/2025 08:39

I just wanted to say, I am aware that given this is a discussion about a school shooting which resulted in the death of two children, my emoji use is completely inappropriate.

I'd like to apologise to anyone who was upset by my use of those emojis, I am not trying to make light of a tragic situation, I tend to use emojis a lot but now realise that in my sleep deprived addled state I should have not used them at all.

They usually help me communicate, and although I'm not always using the laughing emoji to convey actual laughter here, they remain entirely inappropriate here in this thread.

Sorry everyone!

TeaAndStrumpets · 30/08/2025 09:15

We have a trans activist locally who has already done time for importing illegal knives and was recently convicted of attempting to make a semi automatic weapon. His online videos show the usual baseball bat images, in one he showed himself battering a pumpkin with a paper face of Germaine Greer.

BTW The first time he was in court the local papers dutifully reported him as "she", although an online newspaper that is not bound by IPSO was open and honest. I think the reporting position is shifting a little. BBC a dishonourable exception.

We had a very dear friend who transitioned in the 70s and truly would not harm a fly. She was not mentally ill in any way. The modern trans "identity" seems such a different kettle of fish, more like a new type of religion.

Digidestined · 30/08/2025 10:22

CohensDiamondTeeth · 30/08/2025 08:09

"As an aside, I'm a stubborn, contrary old mare these days" Quite.

Oh noes this poster doesn't like that I pointed out that they were being authoritarian and attempting to emotionally manipulate people into not reading other perspectives! 🙄 That's a bit... interesting, shall we say?

This is exactly the point. They need to sort their gun laws out. Then they can stop ALL of the mass shootings and not just the ones committed by a minority you have a problem with.

Right I agree that sorting out the gun laws would absolutely reduce the mass shootings, but there's not an icicles hope in hell of that happening in the USA is there?

And funny that you haven't addressed any of the rest of my post, in particular your lies about FWR.

I smell an agenda!

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Oh dear. Someone is trying to play the oppressed feminist. I'm not manipulating anyone and giving a warning of unpleasant content is in no way authoritarian. No demands or orders have been given.

They are not lies about FWR, I have engaged there on and off over the years and vehemently disagree that there is compassion for trans people and no anti trans rhetoric. Some of the statements made there are downright disgusting and I've also seen plenty of misogyny from the so called feminists towards other women who don't agree with them or toe the party line. The board has a reputation both here and in other online spaces, it didn't get that from being compassionate and reasonable. Many feminists want nothing to do with the brand of feminism that exists there. Earlier on in this thread we saw a poster be hounded in the classic FWR style whilst stating "I don't understand what you're saying or what your problem is, leave me alone". It's the dogged determination to keep hammering your point that is classic of that board, like when you started banging on about misogyny and toilets and a list of their things I never even mentioned and are irrelevant to the shooting.

No agenda here, though I understand you are desperate to make out there is one. Just pointing out your agenda to make this about transgender people when mass shootings are a gun problem, mental health problem, and a problem decades old in America that they never learn from.

Right I agree that sorting out the gun laws would absolutely reduce the mass shootings, but there's not an icicles hope in hell of that happening in the USA is there?

And WHY NOT? It's the root of the fucking problem! Get rid of every transgender person on the planet and there will still be two mass shootings a week. Still lots of dead children. So I and many other people really do think gender identity is irrelevant here because he shouldn't have been able to buy a gun in the first place, because he was violent, because he was mentally ill, because no one should have guns. just throwing your hands up and saying 'well we can't change the gun attitude so let's jump on something else' is ridiculous! They need to actually do something to protect the children in the US!

Digidestined · 30/08/2025 10:36

CohensDiamondTeeth · 30/08/2025 08:09

"As an aside, I'm a stubborn, contrary old mare these days" Quite.

Oh noes this poster doesn't like that I pointed out that they were being authoritarian and attempting to emotionally manipulate people into not reading other perspectives! 🙄 That's a bit... interesting, shall we say?

This is exactly the point. They need to sort their gun laws out. Then they can stop ALL of the mass shootings and not just the ones committed by a minority you have a problem with.

Right I agree that sorting out the gun laws would absolutely reduce the mass shootings, but there's not an icicles hope in hell of that happening in the USA is there?

And funny that you haven't addressed any of the rest of my post, in particular your lies about FWR.

I smell an agenda!

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Actually it's quite clearly you that has an agenda.

Shoe horning TERF is a slur.com, cis is a slur, single sex spaces, TRAs and the usual prison statistics and misrepresented Swiss study on transgender criminality into a thread about school shootings and the US gun culture.

You admit we can't do anything about the gun culture and therefore all the other mass shootings that occur so we should just focus on the transgender shooters instead to...what? Stop the five that happened and ignore the other 39 because nothing can be done? I really don't think that's what this thread is supposed to be about. It's about the US failing to take action to protect children AGAIN.

But sure, plough on with your agenda whilst claiming any one else who doesn't agree with you has one.

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