Guests and disturbing them

[shellyleppard]

Just a curious one. If you have guests using the sofa bed what time do you get up yourself??
I need to go downstairs and sort out the cat box 🤢 and get on with my day but worried about disturbing them 😞😍

OP doesn't have a room to give them.

Christ, I'm bloody glad none of my friends are the type to be bustling about the house at 7am.

Yes to a point but getting disturbed at 7am is early. If the litter tray was smelly just go out the front door to empty in a bin, or I don't know flush the offending cat poo down the loo.

Again, either give anyone staying a bed or leave them undisturbed until at least 8am.

Hence why I laughed and said “please tell me you don’t do this” as it’s rude and rage inducing when you’re asleep early in the morning.

Seriously? 7am on a weekday isn't remotely early.

Expecting everyone to tiptoe around you is equally rude.

If they’re that rude then yes. Though I’d likely not be there in the first place if they’re like that!

She has her bed they could've had. Then she could have slept downstairs and got up at 7am without any fretting.

You don’t have guests staying .. you have your son staying - entirely different.

I think the point is that everyone's 'within reason' is different (I am fine if I'm sleeping in someone's living room and they come in to get the day started at 7 am, but clearly that's not okay for you). And presumably if it's friends or family, you will either know what everybody's habits are, or be relaxed enough to discuss them, so no one feels uncomfortable or awkward.

Not that it's relevant to to the thread 😄 but tbh some cat litter genuinely does absorb smell, if our cats ever need to be kept in we use Everclean (I think that's what it's called) and provided we keep up with scooping/changing the litter there's genuinely no smell most of the time. I'm wondering if your sister's using a non-clumping litter as those can get grim.

Gosh! 🫣

The clue is in the name: her bed.

Opening curtains in someone else’s bedroom when they’re sleeping? Awful thing to do. For me that would be very painful to my eyes of a morning, I hate light coming in when I’m asleep or just waking.

Asking “aren’t you up yet??” When they are clearly not, just provocative and judgemental. Not everyone’s body is happy getting up early, and may need a more sedate wake up call (if one’s is actually even necessary).

The phrase “chop chop” is never ok. It’s riling and not an appropriate thing to say to another adult.

All of those things together? Would make me think they are a rude, arrogant person with no concern for anyone but themselves. So yes “gosh”!!

If you're sleeping on a sofa in someone else's living room then you respect their way of living.
As already stated though, pp was probably joking.

there's always one 😂

except normal people tend to give their bedroom to their guests when they don't have a guest room.

If you have a living room that a separate room and a sofa bed, you can chose to keep your bedroom because you can still go anywhere in the house.

Having guests in the living room meaning you are stuck in your own bedroom? very weird

And anything before 9am is unbelievably rude -unless specific activities already planned. People make an effort to wake up before that, but the host doesn't make noise until at least 9am.

Not for you, I'm sure. But it is for lots of people - especially those who don't have kids and/or work from home. Not everyone's the same. There's nothing wrong with getting up at 7am if that's what works for you but it would be early for a lot of people, especially if they not working that day (which people typically wouldn't be if they're a guest at someone's house, I think).

I rarely go to bed before midnight, but I wouldn't tell other people that 'midnight isn't remotely late' just because I'm a night owl.

His girlfriend is in bed with him, though. For a number of reasons, I would say that it's definitely best to err on the side of caution before going into the room they're sleeping in.

If you have a guest round you respect them full stop. I haven’t said “don’t wake them up”, I’ve said do it gently and politely, not being an arrogant, rude arsehole.

As it turns out, it’s OP’s son, but even so… if my mum had ever done that to me I’d have been furious! But she never did, because she’s not a twat. She’d just crack my door and speak to me quietly to wake me if it was necessary for some reason.

There’s no excuse for defending utter rudeness no matter how you want to dress it.

One can only hope it was a joke, but defending it is just as bad!

If a guest expects someone to dramatically alter their routine then the guest either needs to have a rethink or find a hotel.

Respect the routine of the person you're staying with. ✌️
OP appears to be up early, and it's her house so....

I didn't say you shouldn't respect the host's routine, FFS.

I just said I'm glad none of my hosting friends are early risers, that's all.

You're being really weird now.