Dada always doing nursery run, is he single?

[ByDandyTurtle]

Aibu in thinking he must be single as I never see a woman drop of the child

I want to approach him but unsure

I haven't said anything "very abusive". It's outrageous to describe me saying that it's socially unacceptable to ask out someone you don't know in settings that have to frequently go to as "very abusive".

I wouldn't ask for a coffee, what happens if he said yes but he is married? I'd just ask about mum.

You can ask. I work woth a few women where dads do drop off as they work from home

No, I’m allowed to be fed up to the teeth of reading the same old shit on here and women piling on other women for a completely innocuous reason. If there’s nothing to ‘remotely suggest’ that OP can’t fancy someone and wonder if he’s single, then why 8 pages of other women trying to make her feel stupid?

Get a new hobby.

I think you're posting a reply to the wrong person. I havent called anyone very abusive.

The OP is being attacked though, and your post was one of them.

I was hoping more for a Jude Law from The Holiday kinda character…drop dead gorgeous widower, with a few million in the bank.

He's in office clothing and goes a different way in the mornings.

This post concerns me….my husband is the primary carer for our children as I earn double what he does. Hoping the moms aren’t sizing him up 🤣

I'm not replying to the wrong person. OP said people were being "very abusive" and you listed me as one of them on the basis I said it's not acceptable to ask someone out when they're dropping their child off at nursery.

I have not, in any way, at all "attacked" OP. Your false and baseless accusation is disgusting.

You have to talk to him to find out

He can just say no, and that's it?

Do you know his name OP? Can you do a bit of social media stalking? Has he been to any of the kids parties? That’s the ideal place to strike up conversation. X

Maybe you could start dating the taxi driver?
Or... maybe there's a nice single man sitting in the back seat waiting for you 😆

My DIL drops the grandchildren off with us on a Monday because it's on her way to work. My son drops them off at nursery on Tues and Wed because its on his way to work. He's not single.

No way…. Would you seriously go up to a stranger, and the first thing you say to him is that you would like to go for a coffee with him!? It’s kind of putting him on the spot, and a lot of men don’t like to offend so would just agree to it. Can’t say I’d be impressed if I drove past my local cafe and saw dh sat having a coffee with someone he’d only met that same morning, so not even a friend or acquaintance.

@ByDandyTurtle , when you approach him he'll tell you if he's single or engaged. MN can only guess, but he'll know for sure.

Disgusting now!!

You really are quite the hyperbolic arent you

Socially inappropriate, 'uncomfortable', disgusting.

If the 2 kids are at the same nursery then it's really not unusual that the OP would know what age his kid is.

H did all drop offs and pick ups, he worked p/t, 20 odd years ago. As far as I was aware he wasn’t single 😉

I'm hyperbolic?! You called stating a social norm an "attack" and agreed that it was "very abusive". Absolute madness!

@Noseynebs951 I very rarely do a school run either due to work but my husband is used to being predominantly in the minority as a man - in his massive place of work there are only 2 or 3 men and loads of women. Never bothers me 😀

My husband drops our children off every morning, my parents pick up everyday except around 1 day a month when I put in a pick up appearance. My husband isn't single, his working pattern just means he can drop off. Our children used to go to breakfast club as soon as it opened and have my parents pick up, wonder if people thought they were orphans 🤣.

Oh and his wife is probably a teacher, my husband left teaching a couple of years ago, no one ever saw him at anything when he was teaching as he was always at work in term time. One of the reasons he left, he actually gets to be more present despite sacrificing his long holidays.

Are there opportunities to catch him for a quick chat, OP? Any waiting around or walking in the same direction?

Would you mind quoting the exact wording of this "attack"?

When DS1 was at nursery many moons ago there was a Dad who did everything ( including “events”) . I assumed mum was dead until she rocked up in p3.
Turns our she was a partner in a law firm, didn’t drive and they had an older son at a different school the other side of town.
The dad was a freelancer. Anyhoo they were married and went on to have a third child.