Dada always doing nursery run, is he single?

[ByDandyTurtle]

Aibu in thinking he must be single as I never see a woman drop of the child

I want to approach him but unsure

Get a new hobby.

You sound quite like her with that remark - no wonder you're projecting harder than Sigmund Freud. People are disagreeing with OP because they think her behaviour is stalkerish, not because she fancies someone as a singleton. You disagree that what she describes is stalkerish, which is fine. So it just comes down to a difference in opinion. Surely not that hard to understand.

Maybe you your own advice and go and get a hobby if this thread has got you so 'fed up to the teeth of reading the same old shit'. I'm afraid we're not going to agree and you ranting at me won't change that.

@Pigtailsandall And when he tells his wife she won't be impressed with the other woman!

Sure? I've done that loads of times. But like I said, I'm from a different culture were getting coffee is just normal. You kinda scope out if you might be interested in someone. This was before kids as Ive been married since before kids but if I was divorced and thought someone else might be too, I might. I just don't see it as a big deal. He can say no, but I agree it might be an idea to drop the mum into the chat first.

I am nearly 67. My father took me to school on my first day and did the so=called school run until I finished 6th form, with my sister in tow for the last few years.
What's the problem?
Should add that thus was a fee-paying school.

My children’s nursery had a sports day. And great fun it was too. Why on earth does it even matter? If you think the OP is making stuff up, best to report.

Or maybe someone gets a taxi regularly and gets chatting to the driver and it turns out they quite like each other.

How desperate are you?!

Again, you should have gone to specsavers, I have not agreed or responded to any post that cites anyone is being 'very abusive'.

Desperate?

I'm not on fab luv

So maybe he works part-time or has a super flexible or high-powered job which affords him certain perks (like doing drop offs and pick ups).

I would initiate conversation and subtly sound him out about another half.

I mean, this IS assuming you'd like to date him if he's free?

You can’t assume he is single. my kids are way past nursery age but my husband did all the drop offs and pick ups because his work was more flexible than mine. I didn’t attend nursery events as I couldn’t get away from work and it wasn’t a good use of annual leave. I didn’t do stay and play as that’s my idea of hell.

Which, again, would be an example of someone you have actually got to know...

Not nearly as funny as the amount of posters on this thread that dont have the ability to use their imagination or understand that people meet their partners in all kinds of situations.

My DH also does most drop offs and pick ups as I work condensed hours 4 days a week on my ‘day off’ I have the children at home with me.

Im guessing OP you haven’t even really spoken to him as it would probably have come up in conversation or you would have noticed a wedding ring. Perhaps a first step might be to actually speak to him and get to know him - definitely agree going straight in to ask someone out at drop off without really knowing them is a bit odd.

Again, could you quote what I said that you consider to be an "attack" on OP? You said I attacked OP. Quote it.

DP always does the drop offs and pick ups and he’s not single😃

Well.. OK. Op isn't responsible for someone else feeling insecure. My husband used to do walking tours which ended in a pub and tipsy women often made a pass. It didn't offend me. Why would it?

I’d say it was unusual if he had full custody of his child, feasible the mother has no input or he is a widower, but in my experience single dads do only some of the nursery runs, and the mother does other days, as you’ve never seen her I’d assume this is a case she’s got a job that gives her no flexibility, and he has a job that does, or he is a sahd. Plenty of jobs don’t allow nursery runs, or stay and play, sports day etc, a doctor would be a good example.

but the fact you’ve never seen her says he’s not separated, this is about their working lives,

Once, back in the not-so-halcyon days of my youth, I entered a taxi for a 15 minute ride home and by the time I arrived there, taxi driver had:

• nearly crashed once
• propositioned me to be the mother of his offspring

He was serious too. Didn't need or want me to be involved in our hypothetical child's life - just to be the incubator and then I could hand it off to him once born. He planned it all out during the course of our journey.

So yes, taxi drivers and their regulars can form an attraction. In this particular case, it was instant attraction on my taxi driver's part - though not so much to ME but rather my womb.

My husband does the school run, hes the one that drives and I can't walk it due to my disability and the distance/terrain... its really not that strange tonnes of dads do it, about 50/50 at our school.

How odd your mind went to he must be a single dad. I assume your perving on him and its just your wishful thinking rather than full blown sexism but its still properly weird.

My husband does all the school runs as I work in a school. He is not single!

If he was single then it would be less likely he would be doing all the childcare and working unless he is a widower. Assuming he is separated or divorced it would be more likely that it would be 50/50 or if the ex had a inflexible job they would still likely have at least one day a week where they were responsible for childcare during the week (even if they relied on grandparents etc). Would be VERY unusual for the mum only to have EOW. So my vote would be NOT single. I wouldn’t recommend asking him out but you could strike up a conversation and subtly ask about his partner / wife to see what he says.

Op isn't being attacked, most people are giving examples of their OH doing the drop offs.

The OP on the other hand is being quite defensive.

The expression “don’t sh*t where you eat” comes to mind. Just don’t. Not worth it.

My DH did all nursery drop offs in UK and I did all pickups. It was the same when school started.